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  • I don't see anything wrong with it man. I'd be upset if my dog or cat died.
  • Showing compassion and caring is a good quality. And so what if it is a dog? It is still an important "person" in your life. Just a non-human one :)
  • I think he needs someone to hug him.
  • I would think that would be normal behaviour for any dog-lover when they lose their best friend. My dog is pretty old and I dread the day.....
  • Well my cousin who works labor for a living. More of a country guy and everything, so naturally you would assume he is a tough guy. Well his yellow lab that he has had for 8.5 years came down with cancer, and he didn't have the money to have a vet put it down. So he had to do it himself, he had to bring it out in the woods, and shoot it to put it out of it's pain. He said it was the hardest thing he has ever had to do. I don't know if he cried, but it would suprise me if he shead atleast one tear.
  • I'm so sorry. It is a difficult thing to go through. There is nothing wrong with crying over this.
  • I would have cried right along with you...(((hugs)))):)...it would tell me you have a good heart and compassion :)
  • I won't think anything about it at all. To you yur dog (little boy or girl) was a member of your family and it was like losing a child. You would have cried if your child had died. So why not cry when your beloved dog dies. I cried at the age of 49 (I'm a woman) when I had to put my one dog to sleep at the age of 15.
  • I would say you are only human. When my dog of 13 1/2 years died three years ago I totally lost it ! I cried like a baby . I thought more of him than I do most people.
  • I'd be more upset with you or any man or woman who didn't show any emotion at all. I would think there was something wrong. Tears are not always shed by everyone but some expression of grief is called for. As far as tears go, I am a watershed of them whenever someone I know and love passes on. Take your time and grieve as the mood strikes. It doesnt' go away but it gets easier over time.
  • I see nothing wrong with a man crying over the lose of his dog.
  • I see nothing wrong with a man crying over the lose of his dog.
  • I honestly think something's wrong with anyone who didn't cry!
  • I would feel a lot less respect for a man that showed no sorrow over the death of his dog. Our dogs were family and loved as such. Men are as entitled to cry as women there is nothing wrong with caring.
  • I think it's perfectly natural to cry when something/someone you love dies. I sat in my office and cried when my dad e-mailed me to tell me my cat of 19 years had died... and always find myself a bit shocked at those who don't care enough about their animals to cry when they die.
  • Honestly I think it is Great! Some men think that they need to hold those feelings back and I hate it... You lost something that you loved... It just means that you cared!! And you are showing it by grieving... If it's how you feel than show it!!! :o) My father cried when he had to put our cat to sleep... He was 43 years old...
  • It's normal and natural for a male at any age to feel pain and loss over the death of a beloved pet. If he didn't cry, I would think something is wrong with him.
  • I think you are human. If you have an animal for any time at all you have an attachment to them when they go. I had a cat for 14 years that died in March and I cried. It was hard getting used to having her around after that for a while. It is okay to show or have emotions. While keeping things in perspective is another level. If years go by and you still cannot function because of an animal passing then you need help, but having sadness over thier passing is normal. Hell, how many people cried watching Old Yeller? Probably most people and it was only a movie.
  • Despair over the loss of a loved one is justified.
  • It's perfectly okay. Dogs are great. It's sad to see them go. Chances are, he would've cried if you went first.
  • Pets are family, and you can often get more attached to an animal than a to person. So this is perfectly normal.
  • I think it's wonderful that you were devoted to your dog, and feel free enough to express your emotions honestly. I don't buy into the "men shouldn't cry" thing.
  • My hubby is 38 & last month when we had to put our lil Precious down because she had cancer he cried & balled like a baby with me when she died. She was almost 13 & we had her for 11 1/2 years she was our baby girl & she loved her daddy(my hubby) & was so much company to us all & no matter how strong or weak one is she was the kind of dog that everyone loved. My hubby was in the USAF for 6 years & it broke his heart as much as mine when we had to let her go, he & I both get teary eyed thinking about her loss. I think I fell back in love with him that day seeing how he had a tender heart for her.
  • Well, I am older than you, pal, and I cried like a little boy when my fourteen year old German Shepherd had to be put away. So, what do I think?
  • Like Vlad says, it's normal to cry. You wouldn't be human if you didn't. My boyfriend was in floods of tears last week when 2 of his cats died, to me it just shows how much he cared & loved them. Animals are one of the family. x
  • Heck - I had to bring our darn cat to be euthenised after she contracted cancer, and I cried like a baby. The cat was four and I was forty three - and I have been headlined as a 'Hero' in the past for enduring terrible conditions...'tough' does not neccesarily equal 'emotionally dead'
  • No shame in that brother. My dogs would sacrifice their lives for my family, and when I lose one it is a loss worth mourning. Don't get hung up on it though. Go get another great dog!
  • I am a grown man of 62. I cried for days over pets who passed on many times in my life. I would be surprised over someone who didn'y cry. On the other hand, there are a few people who died and it didn't bring a tear.
  • so sorry for your loss ...I'm 50+ and I have 2 15 year old 'babies' and I am dreading when the day comes that they are no longer with me ...I tear up just thinking about it ....
  • He's honest with his feelings and not afraid to show them.
  • pets are exponentially better than humans. i think its more than fine. its sad to lose a loved one and its good to express it and let out. cry as long as you need to.
  • I find that touching... As well as heartbreaking. There should be no shame in grieving the loss of a loved one.
  • Well, I DO buy the "men shouldn't cry" thing. Actually, I think women could use to cry a lot less too. I think society has gotten way too sensitive. BUT in your case, it's a loved one -- your dog! There is nothing wrong with crying over the loss of a loved one. I'd cry if my dog died too. I am very sorry for your loss. :(
  • I find it very honest. I would cry for that, ( I have cried rivers for that), and no one would think twice about it, because I am female, so why should a man be different. It is an honest emotion and I would much prefer honesty from another person.
  • I would cry if one of my cats died, I never had a dog for too long. But our pets are sometimes our best friends, always there when you come home and they depend so much on us. They can be just like our children. No shame in crying when they die.
  • this is for everyone who has lost a pet.... The Rainbow Bridge There is a bridge connecting Heaven & Earth. It is called the Rainbow Bridge because of its colors. Just this side of the Rainbow Bridge there is a land of meadows, hills and valleys with lush green grass. When a beloved pet dies, the pet goes to this place. There is always food and water and warm spring weather. The old and frail animals are young again. Those who are maimed are made whole. They play together all day. There is only one thing missing: They are not with their special person who loved them on Earth. Each day they run and play until the day comes when one suddenly stops playing and looks up! The nose twitches! The ears are up! The eyes are staring! And this one suddenly runs from the group. You have been seen, and when you and your special friend meet, you take him or her in your arms and embrace. Your face is kissed again and again, and you look once more into the eyes of your trusting friend. Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together, never again to be separated.
  • I don't see any problem, with a man crying over anything. They are human, and have feelings and emotions, just like women do. I think they should express their feelings. Losing a pet, is very hard and heartbreaking, whether you are a man or a women.
  • What's wrong with crying??? It's a normal grief response after all. What, do you think God gave you the ability to cry by accident?
  • It shows that you are human and have human emotions. Humans and dogs were meant to be together. it was just destiny. The attachment is sometimes unreal. Do not shame yourself for losing a trusted friend of 9 years. I will probably do the same, when my border collies dies.
  • I think it's prefectly acceptable and I know that I will be a complete wreck when it's time for my dog to go. You're only human and dogs become part of the family.
  • Being a grown man has no influence on someone's emotions. I'd cry over the deaths of my dogs whether I was a man or woman, old or young. They are irrelevant factors : ( I'm sorry for your loss too, I really love my dogs and can't imagine the grief you must have felt : (
  • I would think he was more of a man for having human emotions and being able to express them. Stoicism is so pointless at times like this.
  • I would think that he was understandably very sad over the loss of his beloved pet/companion. I would also tend to have a lot of respect for him because of his ability to feel and show emotions.
  • I think he really loved his dog just like my husband and I love our pets. We have pets that have been dead for decades and at some moments we still cry. Nothing wrong with that. Sometimes they do become a part of our life and a part of our heart. When they leave us, there is still a hole in our heart:-(
  • I think he must have a heart.
  • I think he's my kind of man. I'm sorry about your dog. :(
  • I would think that any one, male or female...of any age who did such a thing is a kind-hearted, loving, and appreciative HUMAN BEING who I would want to know and be friends with... YOU or your friend..<wink> obviously knows how to appreciate the love and friendship of a good and gentle creature! This is part of what makes GOOD PEOPLE.
  • I see nothing wrong with you crying over the death of a good friend. Would like that much better than pretending it does not hurt and hurting yourself by holding it in. Like a sensitive man myself.
  • I understand his feelihgs, my two dogs died, and I also cried for a long time, and my son cried as well , and I didn`t tell him not to cry.All of us are humans and we cry when we lose those whom we love, and it was even heartless not to cry when your dog died. Sorry for my English,I`m a Russian woman, living in Russia, but I hope you coulf understand me.
  • I would say ' welcome to the club ' Anyone who has had the privileged of having a wonderful companion dog, cries when they lose them.
  • I would think you were a very good person to love your dog so much, and I have been there myself.
  • thats pretty tricky you can pro and con it both ways
  • I am 47 and I cry everyday for my dogs.....I would be worried if u didnt cry.
  • I would think that the man has had a big loss..and there is nothing wrong with crying. He shows he is human and a loving person.
  • My father was in the Marine Corps for 30 years. He is very much a "man's man." Very tough. When we had to put our dog, Charlie, down when I was in college, he was heartbroken. He sat on the floor of the vet and told Charlie the entire story of her life, and how much we all oved her, and how we would miss her, and how wonderful our lives were with her-tears streaming down his face the entire time. God, even now it tears me up to think about it. But it showed me a different side to my dad, and made me love and respect him all the much more.
  • I think he really loved his dog. It's not shameful for a man to cry at any age.
  • Nothing wrong with it. I am a Dog person really (don't tell my cats), I have two cats at the moment and I sometimes say 'thats my heart trotting by on four legs!'. If anything happened to them it'd be like being stabbed in the heart ..kind of. My dog died 11 years ago. She's the reason I'm going to heaven,(unconditional hairy love hehe x) as she's waiting for me there! I still miss her. Animals can be life saving man! I think we should have cats or any suitable animal in the workplace, its so hostile and boring at some offices. Some workplaces don't even allow plants - euegh. We're not robots! we're humans, part of the earth and its creatures! :-p
  • that he is pretty normal. When I lost my dog of 12 years not only was I hysterical, but my dad was as well. A dog that has been with you for that long becomes family.
  • l think he must be a nice human being. caring and sensitive
  • Yes It is totally human to cry over losing a cherished pet. I have cried over several pets in my life, and I assure you, any one who would call me unmanly, would have to have some big issues. Always be yourself, Grieving is human and natural and VERY MANLY.
  • I'd think now THERE's a real man. A man with a heart and soul who knows REAL love when he sees it. There's no deeper love than a dog has for his human. Of course you cried.
  • honestly, i can't even believe that question got asked. OF COURSE it's normal to cry when you lose someone you love! Rather than worrying about his 'manliness' I'd just be greatful he has the ability to make attachments and 'feel' emotions i.e. he's not a psychopath!
  • I'd say, now there is maybe a real man!
  • I would say that it is a normal response for some one to lose some one that they love. It has nothing to do with age. I would think there's something wrong if some one didn't mourn the loss of a animal that they cared about. Note, I said that they cared about. Not every one does. This makes you a good person.
  • There is nothing wrong with that. After nine years there is so much attachment involved. I would cry too.
  • I cried when my dog died. i'd think less of you if you didnt, actually.
  • I would think he loved his dog and was very sad at losing it. Guys can feel hurt and upset and it's okay for them to cry too - women don't have the exclusive right to do that.
  • same thing i thought when my uncle cried his heart out at the age 0f 50 when someone killed his puppy for no reason . and i cried along with him. any death is sad and heart breaking.
  • I think that is very sweet. It reminds me of the time this really tough biker looking guy walked into the vet's office with a really sick cat. As he was in the waiting room with his dad they started talking about how the cat had been around for a really long time. We heard some horrible noises from the other room and then nothing. Both men came out crying. And the son was holding a box-no cat. My mom and I started tearing up- then I started laughing- because they had put the Cat's body inside a "Pampered Chef" box. That was one of the saddest, but funniest things I had seen up to that point...
  • I think you are a very compassionate man and any person or pet would be lucky to have someone who cares as much as you do.
  • I did the same thing dude. It's part of your family.
  • Aw i feel for you, so what if you cried its only natural!
  • I too, would grieve the loss of a friend.
  • I think that cannot be helped. You obviously loved your dog/ friend, & to cry over his passing is very sweet & caring & admirable. To me, it is even more touching when a man cries than when I see a woman crying. I admire you for sharing that.
  • I have the deepest of respect for men who love their animals. It's an incredibly attractive quality, as I love my animals very, very much. I'm sorry you lost your doggy. I hope you're feeling better about it now.
  • i think your are hot because all men should be sensitive it drives women wild
  • I was in bootcamp for the US Marines and my dog of 15 years died and when I found out I cried in front of my D.I. and I didn't care. He was my family.
  • aww thats really sweet- dont be ashamed- be proud!!!!
  • I think it's perfectly ok for a man to cry over losing a pet. Especially if he had that pet for many years. Pets become a part of the family. Wouldn't it be ok for him to cry over losing a family member?
  • I think he loved that dog a lot...
  • And? Ive heard of loads of men crying over losing their animals! Would you be as shocked if they cried about a human? There's nothing wrong with it.
  • I'm 53 + I still cry. They are like our babies, family members. I have kids of my own, but my pets never leave me, they are like our children but they never leave home. : )
  • I think that a man who can show emotions is worth far more than one who can't or won't.
  • I would think that if he didn't cry, he isn't a grown man.
  • I dont think that is sad at all, mines has just died today and i so so gutted.
  • Actually i'm more than gutted and its only been an hour! :(
  • I think the man loved his dog.
  • pretty common where I live. Usually it's a hunter who's dog had to be put down for one reason or another. Or if it's shot accidently while working a bird or rabbit. Loss of loyal companionship and/or investment can do that to people, whether your dog was a hunting dog or not.
  • its completely natural. In fact it shows that you are human and loved your pet like many other people do. I myself just lost my dog Penny two days ago. I have felt depressed and the first day i cried SOOOO much, and i still cry - but i mostly feel horribly depressed. She died unexpectedly and would have been 8 years old this Tuesday. Its completely natural to mourn for someone that you loved so dearly, and loved you back so much as well.
  • Not an issue. He must have had deep feelings for it.
  • its bond that hurts when it ends... theirs no reason he/she sjould be ashamed or embarresed
  • We had to put a dog to sleep - Age and she was sick and vet said it would be best. We were in there. It was hard to see. She just looked at us like "thank you"... The vet gave her the shot... her head laid on her paws like she always laid watching us... and that was that. My kids cried... My wife cried... I cried. She'd been a part of our life for a lot of years. So, honestly? If a grown man DIDN'T cry, or at least tear up a little, I'd think he was pretty callous about it, wouldn't you?
  • I have cried many times over my pet's departure and so have all my husbands and guy friends I have had I see it as normal
  • I think you are kind hearted person who loved their dog. I watched my tough old Dad cry (when he was 82 years old at the time) over his cat that died. I have a lot of respect for him.
  • I cried and cried at having to make the decison to put our older sick dog down, but knew it was for the best. Its still hard but it had to be done.
  • The only two times I ever saw my dad cry when I was growing up were when we had to put down our dogs, once when I was 9, and again when I was 17. Both times were tragic...if he hadn't cried, I'd have been worried.
  • My dad still will get emotional if we discuss the tragic illness & death of our beloved chiuahua. I was depressed for a long time over it, this little pup was like my baby to me.
  • So you loved him AND you've got feelings, whats wrong with that - good for you, sad about your dog for you. I would cry too and am much older than you! My ex-husband cried when we watched ET........ you notice I say my ex!
  • I would think such a man has a big heart who misses him companion of 9 years a lot. I would not think any less of him at all. And I'm very sorry to hear about your dog.
  • So you loved him AND you've got feelings, whats wrong with that - good for you, sad about your dog for you. I would cry too and am much older than you! My ex-husband cried when we watched ET........ you notice I say my ex!

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