Does anyone else think it is ridiculus that 14 year olds are asking if it's "ok to be a virgin"?
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it shows how low society's standards have dropped.
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It's not ridiculous. They are genuine concerns and as adults we should feel obligated to give them our attention and answer them as if they were your little sister or brother. [ADDED] I know you meant that it's ridiculous that this is even a concern at such a young age.
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It seems ridiculous that they are feeling so pressured by society and peer groups that they seek reassurance from strangers that they are doing the right thing in abstaining from sexual relationships.
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Yes, very much so. That is, if he/she is wondering if he/she is 'bad' or 'weird' for being a virgin at that age. If he/she is just asking because they honestly don't know, then it's really just like any other sex question by someone around that age.
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Yes.... I don't understand it. I didn't really even seriously think of sex until I was 16 or so. I knew of it at 14.... however, I didn't know so much about it that I actively sought it.... I also considered my virginity "sacred".... and I lost it at 19 to my (now) ex-husband.
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Not ridiculous so much as sad that the world we live in is becoming so confusing, fast paced and impersonal that children are looking for love and reassurance anyplace they can find it. When the appropriate arms are not available to hold them, they seek to find feelings of security oftentimes in the worst of places and at the most tragic price.
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not really, when i was 14 sex was a very serious subject, i didnt 'lose it' till i was 16, and in most of my peers eyes, that made me a loser. luckily i was a confident young lass and didnt care much about peer pressure.
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The only thing I think is ridiculous (and sad) is that they feel a need to seek external reassurance about their sexual choices. I feel the same way about 14 year olds asking if it is ok that they aren't.
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Satan has a strong grip on our youngsters.
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Yes. Who is to blame??
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No. I don't because if they are asking then maybe they are considering that remaining a virgin would be a positive thing. At that age sex is really an invitation to disaster. If you really consider the quote perhaps they are looking for approval socially to remain virgins. I think that is a good thing.
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It's a sign of the times and how screwed-up society has become.
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Yes. Virginity should be kept until within the holy bonds of marriage. -In the service of the Master. Thank you and God bless you!
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Very... I lost it when i was 15 but even i admit that was a pretty young age. i don't think more than two or three of my friends lost it before me. since when are preteens so pressured to have sex? i never felt pressured like that. it was always kind of a far away thought. Its really sad that any preteen kid has to ask if its ok, when it should be SO OBVIOUS that no one that age should feel bad about being a virgin. at least to me it is. i dont know
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Yes but then again kids are growing up faster than they used to be. Girls are getting their period at a younger age. They all are developing younger as generations pass...
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Not at all. Kids are confused. They've always been confused. I would be more worried if they're not asking questions about sex.
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i am totally with you on this oh my you are totally right lol
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Ridiculus? No. It's a reality. Girls these days are having sex at younger ages. Myself i lost my virginity at 15 and I was not even close to being one of the firsts in my grade. They need help and advice, and telling them they are too young isn't going to help anything.
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I agree 100%, its actually sad. That should be the furtherst from their minds.
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Yeah. Guess what I found out last week? According to my brother and sister, the accepted age for losing virginity now is eleven years old. Eleven! What the hell?! I mean, fourteen is still too young as far as I'm concerned. People are too eager.
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It would be ridiculous if they were asking "Is it ok to want a virgin?".
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What is happening to this World ?
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Yes it is. You should always be proud to be a virgin and not disappointed casue you are one.
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Yes, I wasn't even thinking about sex when I was 14. I was at 15, but only when I was almost 16! ;-)
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Yes totally! At 14 you shouldn't even think about sex! Your still a child and should be worried about child stuff! The world is just turning into a weird place, and premaritial sex is no longer a sin for many people. Sex should be something to be special for AFTER you get married!
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uh, duh...
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of course it is, teenage girls should save it for as long as they can and for when they are ready. the problem is that sex is advertised as being this great thing and girls feel like they should do it. but for godsake enjoy being a kid and dont do something you will regret thats all i can say to the 14 year old girls out there!!
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okay fair play boys are pressured into it by older boys,so to rethink my answer i think everyone should just wait till they find the person they love and who loves them before throwing away their virginity
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lol yes i do think it is a bit but there is a lot of pressure out their these days for teenagers to have sex thats pritty crazy about modern day society
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Yes and No. The times are changing. It seems more ridiculous to an older person because of the way they were brought up, not by there parents but by the people around them, the social side. It our current day as an 18 year old living in australia, i can only say that im sure 14 year olds are having sex here, and the age only seems to be getting younger. Just editing my post because of the positive feedback i got. I just wanted to say i think i started being sexually active at an earlier age than most. But i felt ready, and i wanted to be ready. But now when i look at kids at age 14-15 i dont think they should be having relations. I suppose it comes down to the individual, some are mature and can handle not being a virgin and some cannot. I wonder if there is more pressure for kids at age 14 then there was for myself at that age.
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I think it's good that at least they have a place where they CAN ask a question like that and not be, ya know, taken to a Catholic church for an exorcism or something.
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i think that even if u are a virgin at 23 is ok most ppl ur age dont this but alot of ppl respect them for that there are not alot of ppl who can have that will power because they feel presure to sleep with someone and yes even someone who is not a virgin feel presured as well i have a friend who is 22yrs old and she hasnt had sex yet(yes shes still a virgin) why cuz she hasnt found the one special person to lost it to dont feel presured to have sex with someone u lose it when u r ready or because of a guy or u friends and if someone makes fun of u 4that then they are not ur friends nor a good guy a good guy is boy or man who is willing to wait for u when u r ready
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hell yes you should stay a vergin until your at least a sohpmore in high school.
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Yes, at that age kids shouldn't be thinking about that stuff...they should be out playing and having fun. Hell i am 18 and i haven't even had a GIRLFRIEND yet. Of course i have never exactly been the popular kid...i was more of that kid you cheated off tests because he was that wierd looking nerd. So i guess you shouldn't take my advise on this love stuff.
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i hope to god that my kids are the kids that are proud to be a virgin at 17 or throughout high school.
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I Believe if they feel they are "wack" because they are not having sexual relations they need a life because you should save that!!! I don't think it is ridiculous because IT IS "okay to be a virgin".
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Yes, I do find this concept ridiculous. I find it really sad that society has come to this and this is the way it's going to be in the future, or at least that's what it seems like.
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Of course it's ridiculous to think it might not be ok to be a virgin at 14. For a start, it's against the law, so all 14 year olds SHOULD be virgins. However, if people think it's NOT ok to be a virgin at 14, then that's not fair and people may feel pressured into losing their virginity. If this is the case, we would advise you to not be scared and say no. We are sure it would be better in the long run. Sex is a choice. Your choice. Choose wisely, and do what is best for YOU not your peers. Cathryn, Ciara and Danielle, 9E x
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It is Definitly okay for you to be a vigin at 14 you should have sex when you are ready !!!!!
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it seems like they go frm barbies to sex in about a month.
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I think it's sad, but I'm glad they have a place to ask where they will get mostly positive and encouraging answers.
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Just the fact that they don't know and are posting a question like that on the internet is enough to prove they are, indeed, not ready to have sex. Yes, it's ridiculous.
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yepp- i do! they should be virgins until they are married.
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Not ridiculous, but a bit too soon. Most girls loose their virginity at 16, most boys at 18, but there are lotsa exceptions. Just explain to them in a quiet tone of voice that there will come a time for them to have sex, just make sure they don't do to be popular, to belong, but because they know and genuinely care for that other person ... (OMG I sound like a flyer!! ;) )
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I think it is sick of our society to pressure 14 year old kids into having sex! I am obviously in complete agreement with this question.
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I am totally with you on that one! I have a fifteen-year-old sister and if she ever asked that question i would be like 'hell no!'. Seriously its illiegal for kids that age to get pregnant. They dont have any idea what they are thinking. That will totally mess up there whole life and they will be burdened with there past.
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It is a ridiculous question at whatever age!
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a person will know if they are ready!..im 16 and a virgin and im in no rush!
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It is absolutely ridiculous. But being a virgin is the right thing to do.
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Not ridiculous. Sad. Very sad and highly indicative of the way society is moving.
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Not really. I think it indicates one of the directions peer pressure is moving in within the early-teenage section of society. All the adults I know would agree that at 14 and below a person's mind should be concentrated on other things. However, during my lifetime I have seen an increased level of sexualisation of children, usually through advertising and with the aim of boosting profits. I must therefore conclude that some adults believe that the shorter some children's childhood is the better things are for the shareholders of companies that have moved their advertising in this direction. Rather sad, really.
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You're right, it IS absolutely ridiculous. We live is such a reverse society where it's seen as normal for a kid to lose their virginity in their early teens. No one waits for marraige, or even college anymore! This is such a problem, because studies have shown that the earlier you have your first sexual experience, the more likely you are to form mental problems and sexual disfunction.
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It is, but then again alot of young teenagers are starting early, peer pressure and society present sex through media. Adverts for safe sex on tv, the people in the adverts arent that old really so I guess its just how younger teens feel they should be. I dont agree with it myself. Im 17 and I still remain a virgin until Im with someone in a stable relationship - I dont understand what the hurry is or the point in sleeping around is.
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I think it is totally rediculious for anyone of any age even a 50 or 60 year old to ask if it's ok to be a virgin. Why do people feel the need for reassurance that they are doing the right thing by either waiting til marriage or at least waiting for the right poerson before they have sex. I think the whole problem is society puts too much oressure on people to be sexually active and more so promiscuios. The media portrays casual sexual relationships as something all of us should be striving for from the moment we get those first urges. They make sex look like something fun and exciting to do but don't warn people about the downside of being in a sexual relationship such as the risk of pregnancy and std's. People shouldn't need to be reassured that their decision to wait is the right thing to do. I was 24 and a half on my wedding night the first time I had sex with anyone. I am not ashamed that I waited and if I could live my life over again I would have done the same thing with no regrets.
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seen as I lost my cherry when I was 12 .... no!!, but the earlier they ask ..the earlier they will learn the right ways!!!
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yes it is, but it sort of underlines the peer pressure the young are under, so the kid neededmore 'sensible' (aka adult) advice, hence the question
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Yes definitely.
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It's called the demoralization of society.
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not at all - girls start developing sexually alot younger then boys, so it's natural to be curious and alot of people are having sex younger these days, so I don't think it's wrong for them to be asking others for advise.
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Of course. I am 14 and Im not a virgin and Im not proud.
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YES!!
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Not at all. They are at an age when the boys and girls have just noticed the other exists and it's part of growing up. The question only seems silly to an adult but to a 14 year old kid, it is one of many that they genuinely do not know the answer to - just the same as the adults didn't when they were the same age. It's a perfectly valid and sensible question - if nobody asks, how on earth do we learn things?
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I dont know how many 13 and 14 year-olds I have answered. It's the dumbest thing I have ever heard.
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Yes it is. 14 year olds have no business screwing around (pardon the pun) in that kind of relationship. If a 14 year old keeps up uncontrolled sexual activity until they get married (or not married) chances are they will pick up a STD of some kind. On top of that (and I know this may just be personal opinion) it just strikes my gut the wrong way. I mean, I just can't think that those two little kids I saw at the mall with their little cute dating thing went home afterwards and had sex. It just seems so wrong...
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YES. People shouldn't be haveing sex until, like, 21 in my book. Geezus.
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way ridiculous. sex has become over rated.
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I think its sad... what's happened to our world.
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Well ...Yeah ...a bit ...But guess time's changed :-)
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Yes, definetly there is something wrong. But times do change, I think what they really want is someone to love, not someone to have sex with.
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no they should be asking that cause really are there any virgins over15??? no so they should all have sex!!!
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When they catch aids at 14 years of age. They will wish they would have stayed a virgin. You damn skippy its okay to be a virgin, and he/she should want to be one a long time if possible, at least they will know for sure they are not infected with any diseases.
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it's much more ridiculous that teenagers don't know anything about sexual education when they're 14. At that age hormons have been kicking in for a while and without the right education kids can make enormous mistakes that they'll pay for for the rest of their lives.
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I am 14 and Im a virgin...it seems that with the kids at school (high school) that being a virgin makes you a loser around the "popular kids"...its easy to stay a virgin if you dont care much about the people talking and surround yourself with close friends that dont pressure you...im still very much a virgin and i plan to stay that way for a long time....not to long, wouldnt want to be the 40 yr old virgin because then its just sad...
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hell yes i think its ridiculus...
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The way society is going "kids" are having sex when they are "just kids". Any question that needs an answer is worth aking no matter what it is?
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It is ridiculous however you have to remember to todays society 14 is old for losing your virginity. I was rasied in this generation and I too lost my virginity at 14 I'm 17 now and I can tell you HOW MUCH I REGRET IT!
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I don't think it is...I wasn't a virgin by then, and my 16 year old nephew started having sex long before I did....NOT only that, but peer pressure can be a very dangerous thing.
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YES 80% of the Popularion of West Virginia are screaming "LIARS!"
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I think it is sad and hopefully they truly don't think that way and just want the attention. But with the children of today it's possible that they feel bad because they still are. :(
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I don't think it is ridiculous, have you seen the state of our public school system? Teen social circles are completely filled with alcohol, drugs and sex. It seems fairly reasonable to me that we see people as young as 14 years old thinking like this, despite the fact that I don't agree with the thought.
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The most ridiculous I've heard yet. Being a virgin only means you haven't tried the means of conception...
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no, honestly this current generation of preteens-young adults is just more sexual than the previous generations.
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not really they are just being pressured, and they think that by that age they shouldnt be virgins...
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It is. Of course its ok to be a virgin.
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I actually regret having sex at an early age... i felt cheap..i'm with the same guy for over 2 years now, but i still regret it... now there is nothing to look forward to when it comes to marriage... =(=(=(=(
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its not redicualous. i mean at 14 they are starting to notice each other more and more and hat they watch on tv says that they should have already has sex. i mean yeah its weird that they are asking on here...
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god I am 20 but when I hear things like that I feel soooo OLD.
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No, i don't. We need to know, if it is okay to give out our virginity. We need help answering these ( to you insane and ridiculous) smart questions that we have on sex. Most of us already gave it out and try to give advice to those who havent. This is why we ask. It's not ridiculous.
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me being 15 now, people haveing sex doesnt happen that often but when it does people hear about it. one person opens there mouth and next thing you know everyones heard about it. and people who are not haveing sex look at it as wow everyones talking about it... is that what i should do too?
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Not ridiculous, but certainly tragic
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No, I don't think it's ridiculous at all. In today's society, junior and teens are more about sexual intercourse. You know how nobody likes to be left out of something, right. Well what if "losing your virginity" is the subject that his/her peers are doing and discussing among each other.
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Well, different people develop at different speeds. So, no.
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Yeah its ridiculous!! of course its fine to be a virgin, im 16 and still a virgin, ive been in a position where i could have given myself to a guy, but everytime ive chosen not to. Im not scared, i just didnt feel they were right Anyway, not all teenage girls are effected by peer pressure, i never have been, and because of that, i have a lot of self resepct and values.
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Yup, it sure is ridiculous but what can you do in the society we live in today? Everything screams sex even displays in the grocery store.
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Sad more than ridiculous. But think about it, back in the 80's (my era) we had movies like Porky's. Teenage virginity has been an issue for a while now. It's just now, we hoped our kids knew better.
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Yes it is, especially when most 14 year olds are still virgins. But they are being pressured from media and peers to be so much older and quicker than ever before. I feel sorry for them. I met my husband when I was 14 but didn't lose my virginity until our wedding night when I was 18 but even though he was nearly 5 years older than me, he let me continue to be young and carefree and I thoroughly enjoyed my teen years. I had a great time and it didn't have any sex in it. I guess I learned early on that there is so much more to life than sex and that has added a richness to it and I'm never bored with life.
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YES.........
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It's a new generation. I was wondering if it's OK to be a virgin at as young as 13.
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Okay im gonna be honest and admit i lost my virginity when i was 14, but it wasnt just like a hookup or anything. i had been dating the guy for two years, and we both felt we were ready. when we did it, it was because we both felt so strongly for eachother.. not peer pressure or whatever. a lot of 14 yr olds are dumb yeah i get it, but keep in mind that sometimes, when teenagers do something, they do actually think it through. my boyfriend and i were together for a little over a year after that, but then he moved. so i dont regret what i did at all, i dont wish i had waited, and i would never take any of it back.
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The problem is the kids that are having sex is teasing the kids that don't, like it was said peer pressure.
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