Ummm if he dumped you 15 times, maybe it's your turn to ummmm dump him?

That's a bit much. I would have just told him long before 15 times either he wants me or he doesn't. If he decided he wanted me, the next break up would be our LAST because I wouldn't get back together with a guy so fickle.

Tell him he's a moron, and if he can't make up his mind, he's not worth your time. Dump him! And don't take him back. Move on to someone who is going to make a commitment and then stick to it.

I think the writing has been on the wall for a long time. Move on...he is way too unstable for a relationship right now.

Well it would seem its time to move on and find someone who truely wants you, and NOT someone who wants you out of convience or routine.

I find this question interesting because you are not alone. It seems to me that alot of woman nowadays put up with alot of bad behavior from men. It could be due to alot of differant reasons but in my opionion most men are just disrespectful to women and you have to be a strong together sister to know how to make this work in your favor...Which is a conundrum too, Because men are afraid of women who know what they want and know how to handle themselves.

I would turn the tables and dump HIM. What a loser.

I am really aghast at your lack of self respect. How can you let someone dump you 15 times??? Wake up and move on - stop being a pathetic doormat.

Don't let him take you back. Obviously he can't make up his mind, so it's probably in your best interest to move on. Dump him and don't take him back is my advice.

Obviously your relationship is rocky. I would just leave him right now, if he comes back to ask you out again tell him no. Your relationship isn't stable at all.

have a break spend time out with your freinds .theres a world out there have a look

have a break spend time out with your friends .theres a world out there have a look

Can you say "Power Play"? Take a look at your future. No matter how much you love him, his idea of love seems skewed. Is this how you want your relationship to be another year from now? If you don't take a stand what's going to happen if he can't mentally dominate you anymore, try to do it physically? Sorry for so many questions but it seems you are focusing on just your feelings instead of trying to throw some objectivity into your view. Do you really believe 'love hurts' and this is what you are willing to accept?

Make sure that the 16th and final time is you dumping him. This guy is much to unstable to continue to try to have any kind of relationship with, he is on his own personal power trip and you have given him that power over you. It will only get much worse as time goes on and your self esteem gets even more fragile.

This sounds like a cycle that isn't about to stop unless you stop it.

Stop being a yo-yo and get a new guy that has respect for your feelings.

Hi pagan- Well, as you seem to be a person of faith, from what I read from your profile, this is adversely impacting your balance and self-honoring commitment. While this relationship is confusing, I think you are being psychologically abused in this and it should end. The jargon often used here is that he is "jerking your chain" and I feel you deserve much better. The tattoo story is evidence that his deepest focus is about him, while outwardly he makes it appears as though he is honoring you. You will probably find similar answers within your heart through meditation (nb: I chant for these answers and for choosing the wisest path). I hope you'll take me up on my prior offer to e-mail me (nb: made to compare spiritual notes), and if I may be of further help. You seen like you have so many positives in your life Pagan. Why hold onto this negative influence. It may have been a great friendship for 10 years, but as a relationship, I recommend you clear the path for something new and mutually contributory...this is not it. Be well my friend. - Rickster

Time to act as a Pagan Queen and tell Mr.Yo-Yo idiot boy to take a hike. I think the Three Fates would agree its' time to cut the cord on this realtionship.

I think it's time to ask yourself, "is this the relationship I want to be in?" I say move on to a man that actually deserves to have you.

Stand up to him and tell him you want to break up with him and move on see other people if you keep taking him back he will think that you always will he will want you when it is convenient for him

Just take the advice Rickster & 99.9% gave & drop him before you wake up one day wondering where life pasted you by.....M.C.S.

Why am I coming against such dumb questions today? My advice is : Try dumping him for a change.

dump him, he sounds like hes totally messing you around.

I would be dumping him on the spot and telling him to wait around for you in case you change your mind and never do. He deserves to be dumped hard!

It sounds like the guy can't make up his mind and he's truly messing with your emotions. Walk away now. It sounds like you'd be better off without him.

I have three words of advice for you . DUMP THE LOSER!!!!!

You should really stay away from people like that. He sounds like a child feebly attempting to play mind games.

Shape up or there will be a sixteenth.

Dump him and mean it - You deserve better

I think personally Id be dumping him and NOT taking him back! Thats horrid playing with your emotions like that!

Stop being confused and you make the decision. Why is the decision his again? Just wondering. You don't deserve it. Don't let him do it to you. K?

Confused? He's confused, your confused and this whole thing seems confusing. Girl get a life. He's not the only guy out there. Take a deep breath and move on!

Maybe you should talk to him about what's going on in his life. Maybe he's stressed about something and it's effecting his mood. Before you just make a decision to get out of the relationship, make sure it's not something emotional or whatever that he might need some help to work out. Let him know he can talk to you about it w/o you being judgemental.

You must be tired, I would have dump him the second time he did that. Leave his sorry ass, you deserve better.

First I would start by telling him you are not a doormate. And the next time he does it... show him the door. You are worth so much and shouldn't put up with it.

ok hun you really gotta do some searching within yourself and see is this guy really worth the games he plays and the pain u deal with or do u think that honestly u deserve better this may sound impossible if you really love him but usually guys like this are the kind that dont want to settle down and want all the girls they can get basically they want thier cake and eat it too bad type to falll for so follow your heart and consider your future and how you would like it to be and if this guy would fit into that future that you want for yourself.. hope you work it out..

I would leave, skedaddle, get outta there. He's flip-flopping, and is just using you for security. Find someone who will treat you right and love you and respect you.

I have to say, I am exactly like the your boyfreind and have dumped my boyfreind about 6 times now. This time we got back together I am going to make it work. I promised myself that. Every other time I got back together with him I honestly wanted it to work but I felt trapped and I wanted him to change one of his "habits" I guess you could say. My advice is have a VERY serious talk with him and let him know it's his last chance. If he screws that up.. its his fault and leave him. But I do have to say, as much as I want to get away from my boyfriend and have been told I deserve better, I can't and don't want too because I love him so much it's insane. Noone is perfect. Its whether you can live with the flaws or not.

I'd find a more interesting way to spend next week.

move on!

to be blunt ...your not confused at all ...bloody stupid!! is more like it

I'd let him go and refuse to be reeled back into his life. He has little respect for you and little for himself. It is unkind to both of you to continue. He is a man who doesn't know what he wants and doesn't like himself, either. It's just not healthy to treat oneself, let alone others like this. I know it's hard but you need to save yourself this abuse and let him go for something, someone better, someone healthier who will love you both.

ok time to be brutal. See that hard stone type thing over there....its called a kerb. Kick him to it. Honestly though, as confused as you are, it also sounds like he is confused to. I suggest you take time out. For both of your sakes. You most definately seem to deserve better and until you break this cycle of hurt and confusion, he's gonna keep doing what he's doing. Maybe he means to do it, maybe not. But you have to think of yourself.

I'll answer your question with another questions.... Are you worth being treated better than that? If the answer is yes, then you already know the answer... dump his ass and don't take him back. You teach people how to treat you. You are teaching him that it's acceptable to dump you and that you will wait for him. You are worth more than that. Say goodbye to him and find someone who will treat you with more respect.

Dump the little two-timer yourself! Don't let yourself be subject to his freakish tennis match.

If I were in your shoes, I'd just get rid of him. Gone. Buh-Bye. You don't deserve that. No one Does.

Dump him!!! Take away his power, dont let him mess with you anymore. I dont know you but im sure you can do better. :)

Find another boyfriend

what the hell are you doing with him?? if he really cared about you he wouldnt break up with you to start with, and certainly not 15 times in one week!! And if he DOES care so much, then he obviously thinks he can break up with u when he feels like it and then you'll just come back.. Next time he breaks up with you and wants you back, tell him it was the last straw, and then go and find someone worth it!!!!! :)

Get away from this man. He's obviously not even close to being seriously in a relationship. You shouldn't be confused in a relationship. I can only hope this is some high school drama boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. If this man is any older, I would think he has some growing up to do.

Dump his ass and tell him when he decides what he wants you wil talk about it, but your tired of playin.

Take him back, you do surprise me sometimes with your lack of compassion and understanding. You know that he is only a boy having fun. What is wrong with you show him the contempt sorry concern that he deserves!

He dumped you and then he took you back? You mean you begged? SHAME ON YOU WOMAN!

Wow! I think I'd probably just leave him alone... sounds like he likes to play head games... good luck!

Why do you put up with him? Dump him!

tell him that the make up break up shit is getting old and he needs to knock it off or you will find someone more mature who can deal with thier emotions better....YEAH thats a good one

Deja vu. I had a relatinship just like this that went on for 4 years, and trust me once the games have started they dont just stop. He probably doesnt know whether hes ready for something serious yet, or hes just confused OR maybe likes doing it. Also, so guys get so mad and outta control when they argue they break up with you then afterwards feel all sad and regret saying it. My advice: stop the madness and move on cuz it wont stop on its own. Itll be hard at first but after alittle while youll be so much happier without that kinda drama and you can make time for someone who wont do that to you repeatedly. If you wanna try and work things out tho I say you sit him down and explain that it hurts you to go through this and its confusing you. Tell him either your together OR NOT. Once he says his peice and agrees or whatever try and forget about it, unless he does it again after the talk, THEN GET RID OF HIM cuz hes not serious about you.

tell him to leave u alone and go out with someone else.

I believe you teach people how to treat you. If don't him dumping you twice a day, then quit taking him back!

OMG...what an asshole i suggest dump him or next time he dumps you dont take him back he is obviously not worth it and you deserve better just move on there is plenty of other guys out there that will treat you much better! i hope this helps.

Ummm why do you take him back? It seems like a game between the two of you. You know he is going to say it is over and he knows you will take him back. Who is going to break the cycle?

The fact that you have been dumped for the 15th time this week and yet you still want to be with him meant you either love him very much or you are just submissive enough to tolerate your boyfriend being very indecisive over whether he should continue going out with you. To be honest, I think it is more of the 2nd case. All you have to do now is to be the one who takes action on him and talk through this with him. He probably is feeling very insecure about himself. Trust me, he does not even know what he wants and he would rather disregard how you feel and just let his own insecurities conquer him and dump you. All you need to do is to show that your love is always there for him and ask him to think properly before he even talk about dumping you ever again. I am, myself a very insecure girl and I have dumped my boyfriend many times too... I know how it feels and I honestly think that talking it through is the best way. Good luck with that by the way and be persistent about it.

You're confused? He's confused. Maybe you two should just stay away from each other until someone decides either to stay or not. That's a lot of emotional rollercoastering to go through in a week.

Honestly, in my opinion, breaking up over and over again is a sign of immaturity within a relationship. Depending on what you're wanting out of this guy determines how you should handle this. If you are hoping that this turns into something serious, then by the looks of things, you are going to be sadly disappointed. It sounds as though he is either unsure of what he wants from you or he takes you for granted. Either way, that's not a positive sign for YOU and it's looking as though this is just not the right time for this relationship. He needs to figure out what it is he truly wants before he gets involved in a relationship with you or anyone else. So I personally think you need to tell him to figure it out once and for all. Because breaking up repeatedly can take a toll on your emotions! But, don't get taken advantage of! If he cares about you and really wants your relationship to work then it shouldn't take too much time to figure that out. If he's unsure and needs a lot of time to think about it, then that's a clear sign that RIGHT NOW, you two just shouldn't be together.

This is a clear cut example of psychological abuse. It seems as though he is using breaking up with you as a means of manipulation. If he truly wants to be with you then he should be treating your feelings with much more respect.

It will be my turn to definetely and for sure end my relationship with him. He is not an emotionally stable person for you you deserve a mature and confident person.

Honey - If he has already dumped you 15 times this week, and put you through this crap, ask youself this question - do you want to be a puppet on his string? Sounds like he treats you like dirt - you deserve better, so dump his ass and move on!! Don't let him treat you that way, in my experience, you're always better off!

Are you for real? 15 times in one week? Thats not normal, and if you take him back well,...enough said! What could you be confused about? Even if he's super stressed out, he still has no right to keep jerking your chains like that. Your not confused, your trying to salvage the good parts of him & the relationship...but maybe its not worth it? Be wise with your choice. Take care, go meditate or drink some herbal tea.

what would I do?--I would be getting tired of getting dumped and move on

omg you dont need to take that stuff. too many out there that would treat you right.. turn the tables kick him to the curb and you might want to leave him there

Is your boy friend the only man in your town? Why would you allow any body to treat you this way. 15 times in one week. Girl get a grip. Find somebody that will love you for you. Just keeping it real.

if he dumps you, you are taking him back...not the other way around.

i would not go back out with him because obviously if you guys broke up 15 times there's obviously something wrong there. i would just be friends with people and get to know guys as friends. i wouldn't go out with somebody straight away because people might start calling your names and stuff like that, so yah i would just lay low for a little while.

obviously he dont like u enough to be wit u

Tell him to either make up his mind or leave you alone. (I'd tell him that the next time he tries to break up with you) Or if you just get really fed up with it, break up with him. Then (maybe) he'll see how it feels to be the dump-ee (I guess that's a word) instead of the dumper!

HONEY IM IN THE SAME POSITION! MY BOYFRIEND THAT IVE BEEN WITH FOR TWO IN HALF YEARS BROKE UP WITH ME FOR THE 3RD TIME ABOUT A MONTH AGO. THE FIRST TWO TIMES WE WERE ONLY BROKE UP FOR MAYBE A DAY AT THE MOST EACH TIME, THIS IS THE LONGEST WEVE EVER BROKE UP. ONCE AGAIN HE IS CALLING ME, TEXTING ME, AND EVEN COMMING TO MY WORK AND HOUSE BEGGING FOR ANOTHER CHANCE ON A DAILY BASIS ONE OR THE OTHER. I FIND MYSELF STRESSED ALL THE TIME BECAUSE I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART BUT MY HEART CANT SEEM TO FORGET HOW HES HURT ME THROUGH ALL OF THIS. I WANT TO BE WITH HIM BUT I SIMPLY TRY TO EXPLAIN TO HIM OVER AND OVER HOW HE HAS BROKEN MY TRUST AND MADE ME AFRAID TO TRUST HIM EVER AGAIN. ITS HARD BECAUSE ITS HELL BEING WITHOUT THE ONE I LOVE AND THE ONE WHO I SPENT EVERY MOMENT OF EVERYDAY WITH, BUT THE ONE THING YOU HAVE TO DO RATHER YOU DECIDE TO TAKE HIM BACK AGAIN AND AGAIN, IS ASK YOURSELF IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN. LOOK AND THINK ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW AND HOW YOU HAVE FELT AND ASK YOURSELF IF IT'S WORTH GOING THROUGH IT AGAIN IF HE HAPPENS TO CRUSH YOU ALL OVER AGAIN. TELLING HIM NO IS HONESTLY THE HARDEST DESCION I CAN SAY I HAD TO MAKE THAT I CAN HONESTLY THINK OF RIGHT NOW BUT SEEING MYSELF HOW I AM EACH TIME HE HURTS ME AND MAKES ME CRY, I KNOW IM BETTER THEN THAT AND I AND YOU DESERVE WAY MORE AS A PERSON! ALL IM TRYING TO SAY IS MAKE SURE YOUR OKAY BEFORE YOU TAKE THE RISK OF ALL THE TEARS AND PAIN IF IT HAPPENS AGAIN EVEN IF HE SAYS OR SWEARS OR PROMISES IT WON'T!

I think this type of relationship will get nowhere. If he did that to you now he is going to do it again if you happen to get married one day so kinda rocky so it is really not good especially when you guys have children together one day. It will affect the children well being. I know it is hard to predict what may happen in the future but you need to think about this kind of thing considering so many abuse of wives and children this days.

I think you need to take a longer breakup then an hour. Take some time apart to see how you both really feel about each other. You do the breaking, and dont take him back. You need to give yourself time to figure out what YOU want. If in a year you guys still want to try then more power to you. I am optimistic but you def, need to get out of the siuation right now.

your boyfriend happens to be like a woman, who has a very high mood swings my dear. anyway, you should ask him what's the problem, and don't let him continue doing that because at the end of the road you will be the one who will be really in deep pain. Ask him, if what's going on with his life, maybe you can connect why is he doing that to you.

okay first of all, why are you letting him control the situation? It is your life and if you don't take the lead someone else will. It's not about what he is doing, the question is....Why are you letting him treat you like a yo yo. Do you love yourself enough to know you deserve better? People will only do what you let them, okay....

Well... I think that you guys are on your way out... sorry to be blunt. But its the beginning of the end...

just do not take him back anymore! You deserve better!

you have to stop it ... he will keep doing it... don't be confused about him, ... just dump him ... you are better off with out him..

It sounds like he is breaking up with you to get a reaction out of you or he is using it for leverage. If you really want to teach him a lesson, next time he says that he wants to break up say ok and stay away for a few weeks to a month. He will go absolutely insane but he will think twice about doing the break up routine next time around. You may even realize after you are away from him that he's not what you wanted or needed in the first place. Won't know til you try. Good Luck girl! Be a strong woman.

Did this before. It was the worst experience of my life and it took him sleeping with someone else to finally walk away. So my advice would be to leave... just take some times to remember who you are and what you want to be by yourself. When you stop looking, someone new and great will show up!

i thinking that he is not good for you beucase a guy that love you will never drump you 15 time a week but if you really love him to much i will say try to talk wuth him and see what he is say if u have more question please eamil me at my personal eamil is babetinahot@yahoo.com i havea boyfriend for 4 year he brok up with me and i call him and tell him we need to talk and we talk and now we are together when a girl and a guy are go out talk alway help a lot buty yell will not help trust me with that

wow he is really childish i wud turn the tables and break up wit his ass...and see who was begging to get back wit me!!

either leave him or dont take him seriously when he breaks up with you. your pick.

If the boy can't make up his mind he's not worth your time or your emotions being put on the line like that. Leave him and don't look back. He can't love you if he finds it acceptable to put your heart in unrest and play with your feelings.

i think he is playing u big time... u shud let em no ur boss and not let em use u.. he has obviously some one or some thing else to concintrate on..!

What are you doing going back with him 14 times! i doubt this has really happened but if it has you need to dump him first this time and see a councillor who will help give you back some self esteem and take control of your life. Confused is not the word to describe this. This cannot be genuine love.

fuck him! fuck him! fuck him!

k well the exact same thing is happing with me and its been going on for 1yr but the thing is is that i love the power of it he breaks upp with me and i tell him its done then he come crawling back too me lol you see how that works

You deserve better than to be dragged through the mud like that. I think you should end things for good and try to move on. Good luck.

You're confused? I think he's confused.

Please see this thread: http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/810242

dump him

i UNDERSTAND WHAT U GOiN THREW B/C MY BOYFRiEND DOES ThE SAME ThiNG BUT i REAliZE iTS ONlY LOVE THAT U KEEP TAKIN HiM BAC EVERYTiME HE LEAVES U !

im in a simlar situation. im interested to know what happened. did you break up?

trust me.people like that lead to no good at all.i had a friend like that,and she sucked me into being her friend so many times,but after that i learned that i was her only friend and she was using me.i got sick and tired of it so i just didn't listen to her and it was really hard but it worked so try to ignore him and tell your self to not let him take you back because you know what will happen again and again.