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  • I don't think anyone should do that, especially with younger kids.
  • No, that is in my opinion the worse thing you can do. If they need to talk to you and vent they should be able to in a respectfull matter. If you cut off talking to them they will feel they can't talk to you and you are not willing to listen. They NEED to know that they are listen too and cared for.
  • I don't think so. I think if they did wrong then now is the time to talk more. They need to know why it's wrong and you need to know why they did it. I'm not saying you can't discipline, you just need to figure out another way. Maybe ground them and take away a few privileges. In my house I would take the X-box away.
  • No. That's an immature and pointless thing to do, and they'll feel horrible... and it won't teach them anything good.
  • i think it is virtually impossible to stop taling to your children, especially the younger ones. no matter what age, they are always going to need your love, guidance and advice. i dont think you would be a very good roll model if they are taught to ignore those around them when they do something they dont aprove of.
  • No. Explain to them what they have done wrong, and let them know the consequences. To use the silent treatment would be a mistake. You should always keep the lines of communication open with your children.
  • It's incredibly damaging, and I'd go as far as to say anyone who does this shouldn't have children. It's not a good way to raise a child. The child needs to know what they did, how that made you feel etc, if they ''did something wrong'' it needs communication to resolve, not you to ignore them. If you need time to cool off because you're angry and afraid you'll say something you'll regret, go for a walk and leave the kids with somebody who can look after them for a few hours, if they're old enough to stay home alone then leave them for a few hours while you go out. ''Cool down'' time is completely understandable, but not talking to your kids as a punishment? That's just twisted.
  • Just imagine if your mother did it to you... how would you feel? Its wrong... thats all I can say, so wrong!
  • My son has chosen to not speak to me(for almost 5 years now) but I would never stop talking to them....never.
  • The Bible has some excellent advice on this. In Ephesians 4:26, it says "Do not let the sun go down on your anger." In other words, you have the right to be angry, but resolve the problem before the day passes.
  • I do that to my youngest daughter when she throws one of her hormonal hissy fits...works like a charm, she can't stand it. It only lasts 5 or 10 minutes, there is NO way I could choose not talk to one of my kids for any length of time. I have one who is not talking to me though,(about 3 weeks now) I will be here when she decides to stop being childish.
  • If it's a little kid and they're throwing a temper tantrum, then just tell them "I'm not talking to you until you calm down", and leave it at that. that's about the only time it's acceptable because it's not really a punishment for something they've done, it's just refusing to respond to an inappropriate cry for attention. Other than that, no, it's a bad idea. Just makes them feel distanced from you. They'll trust you less and be less forthcoming when things are important.
  • No. Absolutely not. Now, if they make you so angry you might burst it's okay to take some cooling off time before you address the situation with them. It's important to communicate that their actions were wrong but (and this is gonna sound corny) that you still love them. Some kids think that when they screw up (and everyone screws up) they lose a parents' love. If you ignore them it might cement that thought into their brains. Set a punishment that fits 'the crime' and communicate that to them.
  • No. Is that how you want them to grow up and deal with their problems?
  • Heck no! Ignoring children is what causes them to long for the attention they're already deprived. Children are the byproduct of their environment growing up. If they grow up being ignored for things they did wrong, it could lead to social issues later on in life. Loving a child is the best way to discipline a child. Smother them with love, and explain to them why it's important to do things the right way. If the action calls for it, spanking is always a good method. Not abuse! Spank, damnit!
  • I don't know if it's a good solution to whatever the problem may be, but's it's an EXCELLENT solution to keeping me out of jail. She has that "MOUTH', you know. My 17 year old daughter is one of the few people I know who adamantly believes her "shlitz don't stink" and has a counter argument to everything you advise or explain to her. She has a annoyingly persistent disrespectfully attitude and treats her mother quite disdainfully when she can't get what she wants. I, on the other hand, express myself cordially...EXCEPT when I'm pissed off. I cannot tolerate watching this young "know-nothing" verbally abuse her mother. A recent loud exchange between the two prompted me to intercede when I observed my wife approach the end of her EXTREMELY "long fuse". I attempted to calmly explain to my daughter that sometimes you have to let things go. It's often better to opt out of exchanging your happiness for being "right". My daughter immediately "flipped the switch" and used my own words against me. She wouldn't let me get a word in edgewise. And, I allowed myself to become angry. So since "reasoning" wasn't getting through to her, I grasped her firmly by the back of her head and quietly explained to her that she was lucky her mother was so tolerate,. I advised her though, that if she persisted in speaking to ME in that disrespectful manner, I MIGHT be convinced to shove her teeth right down her throat. I think her exact words to me as she ran upstairs crying were, "Fuck you!" Yeah...sometimes IT IS best to simply stop talking to your kids.
  • I would hope not to get to such a point...but things happen.
  • It's not a good idea. They are part of us. We may not agree with the way they choose to live their life but we must stay near them, behind them, close by in case they fall. Love has no guidelines, no instructions, no limits. Love NEVER gives up.
  • Its a very bad and mentally unhealthy idea. My mam has done that for years and I am now working through my childhood in councelling and it turned out to be one of the most damaging things she did to me. Dont do it to your kids it hurts and silence breeds contempt stress and worry. I cannot stress how much I would advise against this.
  • no no no no no!!!!! you don't stop talking to them! depending on age they can't always associate ignoring to what behaviour they did wrong. Ignoring is one thing for adults but not for your children!! You need to talk to them and tell them why you're upset and think of a suitable consequence for their actions that you use each time they do that particular thing wrong!
  • Never, children need to discuss when things go wrong, they need to know what they have done wrong and to take the consequences
  • Sometimes it is. At least until you cool down and can have a respectable conversation.
  • "Short time only or till they appologise" depending on the sensitivity of the child.
  • Maybe for like an hour. Just to cool down. But I don't suggest trying the silent treatment as an adult and mature way of solving a problem.
  • NO!!! When I am angry enough, I tell my girls that I need some time to cool down because being angry can make you say things you may regret. My girls deserve better than that! I let them know that I still love them, but right now I need to calm down. When I can give them the respect they deserve, that is when I will talk again. I always end the conversation by telling them that it is now over. It is in the past.
  • No, that can be detrimental psychologically. Do not do that please. They will become overly dependent and fearful when they have a relationship later on.
  • No way, you should love your kids unconditionally!
  • No. that is the time to talk to them and let them know what they did wrong.
  • You're joking, right? You mean give 'em The Silent Treatment like you do with adults to punish them? Sure..that's a terrific thing to teach your kid. When you're upset about something clam up..don't say anything. That will solve everthing. Whatever gave you the idea this was a good thing to do to kids? Happy Saturday! :)
  • No, that will make them bad adults unable to have good relationships. You need to discuss what the problems are.....then slap them upside the head.

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