Would you marry someone that you didn't really love if you were lonely and thought you'd never find someone better?
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mizuiislife
ANSWERS: 17
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That sounds like just the type of boneheaded thing I'd do, yes.
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Never in a millions years , no for me + 5
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No...
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No, unless I am really really desperate to get married and to find someone to cling to.
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When I was younger and certainly more idealistic I would have answered with a resounding 'No' - but over time I have come to realise a few 'facts' of life... A huge percentage of people who divorce were in love when they married. Getting married to end mutual lonliness is not neccesarily a 'bad' reason, if both partners are agreed on it. Some people prefer 'companionship' to the 'baggage' they percieve 'marriage' to bring with it, but want to make more of a commitment to each other than merely living together/whatever. It works for a lot of people in cultures where 'arranged marriages' are still carried out. I guess my personal answer would be not so much to worry if I 'loved' someone if I was in the position you describe - but it we would be reasonably good to and for each other over the long run.... Great question, got me thinking, thanks : )
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Probably, if we got along and agreed on the important stuff. Friendship can be just as strong and grow into love.
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No, I think I like myself better than to get married to ease loneliness. I am content with my own company and my family and friends.
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Almost did that...and it's not worth it...get out befor it's too late, because then it's too much money in the end...luckily i got out before it was too late.
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If one feels that's what they want to do, do so, but you don't have to marry for love when there is none. With that kind of luck, you'd get hitched and later meet the person you should have married. Its not right for me, but its your life you live it as you will.
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I know someone that did that, it didn't work out. You can learn to love someone, but since the divorce rate is so high among people that beieve they are in love when they marry, the odds would seem to be stacked even higher against you if you're not in love. . One the other hand, if you go into it knowing that, you're not fooling yourself as some people who marry for love are, so perhaps the odds are better for you than one might expect. . If you do marry under those circumstances, your potential partner deserves to know the truth. Your reasons for marriage are your own, but your potential partner should not be "tricked" into marriage. His or her life and needs are as important as your own.
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No :)
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He was everything I Thought I Should Love & Could Love And Now That We're Married I look At Him And Know We Both Deserve Better. My Heart Breaks When I Think Of How He Would Feel If He Found Out What My Thoughts Are. It Was Never A Question Of Money, I Have Had So Many Shitty Realationships With Guys Who Have Broken My Heart And I've Always Loved Them More Than They Have Loved Me So I thought That My Own Dumb Messed Up Past Love Life Has Distored My View On What Real Love Actually Is And Married Someone Who Could Really Love Me And It Would Be Enough But I Dont Think Its Is....
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I know a couple who did this. They are now in their 60s. They are the most miserable couple I know. I would not do so!
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No one has to be really lonely. There are so many different things one can do to occupy free time. If you're bored, then you're possibly a boring person waiting for someone to change your life. You have to do it yourself. There are no shortcuts.
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No that would make me miserable, I'd be much more happy alone.
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Me no, but I know many people do for that reason and I think it is a horrible reason to get married. People need to work on themselves and live out their dreams, not settle for whatever they can get in life.
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I have control over my emotions. I chose who I love. some people may be easier than others but ultimately I choose how I feel.
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