ANSWERS: 36
  • Because when you are supposed to love a person and only wanna be with them...yet you seek out someone else. That just goes against everything your supposed to be doing!
  • Because if they found out it would hurt them and not only that but you are being dishonest!
  • Cheating causes pain and they will know sooner or later.
  • Yes but would you like it done to you thats the question you have to ask. And it will hurt them.
  • If you have to ask, something's wrong somewhere.
  • Would anybody would love to be called a cheat!! Cheating is the greatest fault a person can do, it is worst than anything else. Judas Ischariot betrayed(cheated) Lord Jesus, his name will never be erased. Similarly some people cheat friends,Country,etc, they are condemned. And the worst truth is that your own conscience will kill you and never let you be in peace after you have cheated! So let us prevent cheating and impose loving!!!
  • If you truly love someone irregardless of whether or not they find out cheating is wrong on so many levels. First of all you are breaking a sacred trust your partner has put in you that you will remain faithful to them. Secondly unless you are not human or you don't have any kind of a heart sooner or later you are going to feel extreme guilt about what you did to your partner. Thirdly and this has already been addressed in a couple of other answers you would not like it very much if your partner did it to you so why would you want to put them through that misery. You may think that you can get away with it but sooner or later somehow they will find out. Cheating is wrong period. If you are having those kinds of thoughts better you break it off with your partner if you can't work out your differences than to break their trust and ultimately their heart when they find out.
  • Are you for real?? I take it you have never been cheated on or believe in marriage vows. And if you are just dating then you have no respect for yourself or your partner. You want other people then good for you...you deserve as much pleasure as you can get but not at the expense of someone else's feelings.
  • It's bad because if you care about someone, you don't intentionally do something that can hurt them. What you don't know CAN hurt you - if you contract the wrong STD, it can kill you.
  • Well, guys & gals... I have to disagree. First, the "your supposed to love and supposed to do, and supposed to be and kinda supposed to" -- doesn't suppose anything. What was all that? Who cares about what society says you are supposed to do. There are many different types of relationships. People have open relationships because both parties have decided that they want full satisfaction by being free to explore sex with other people. That is their choice. If you cheat, I don't think it's necessarily bad... here's why... First, cheating allows you to experience something outside of your current relationship. Usually, it's not as good --- and you realize how great the thing is that you have. Therefore, you may learn a valuable lesson...and may appreciate your partner more. Also, cheating may indicate a problem in your current relationship. Perhaps you aren't getting something you need. This should allow you to analyze what you are missing and determine how great that need really is... The only thing you are doing that's wrong is: a) You are not being completely honest with your partner. b) You are risking STDs So, a) Think about what you are doing. Is it really worth it. If you really love your partner -- don't let them find out. Don't f**k everything that moves -- and try to find out why this is happening. Communicate your needs to your partner -- you don't have to say "Sally sucks my c***k and you don't" -- she/he doesn't have to know that you have been with someone else, but you do have to try and make things work. b) Wear protection. If your partner never finds out and you don't get some awful STD, you are probably going to be happier because you are getting all the things you need sexually. There is always the chance they will find out though -- and you better be prepared to face the consequences of your actions. You should certainly go to therapy and at some point discuss the options of having an open relationship. You will find that if you are going to see other people, you will be much happier if you are both honest with each other. No one is perfect and no one can give you everything you want/need sexually. I understand the desire to cheat, but at least try to use the experience to learn and grow -- and hopefully, you will find that what you have isn't that bad. That sexy supermodel, probably has bad breath because she's malnourished.... and that Italian Stallion might not have a big ole package because stereotypes are rarely true. Sleeping with someone else can be initially appealing, because you don't live with, don't fully know -- or maybe don't even know the name of the person. It's exciting because you don't know all of their faults, you haven't experienced all the little things that make you so upset with your partner -- but it's important to see that you wouldn't be 100% satisfied with your f**k buddy either. It's important to realize that, while you are comparing the two... because, you will at some point. Just think about it... If you think it's wrong -- don't do it. If you don't, then it's a part of who you are -- and that should be made very clear before getting into the relationship -- if you are already in the relationship then you need to discuss your urges now. You don't have to talk about the past (if you have did something previously) --- but you do need to have honesty in the future. If you want to do this consistently and you aren't willing to let the one you are with go (if they don't want this) then you are sick... if they want out -- then you let them go. It's really that simple. Be who you are -- but don't do something that doesn't feel right. You'll regret it later if you do. YOU, and only YOU have the answer to this question.
  • you are so wrong!!i was with my 3 kids dad for 5 years i felt it in my heart every time he cheated and it was always true ihave now been married for 5 years to someone else and have cheated 2 times and he new each time because he felt it and i am very sorry i did that to him!!so dont ever say (what you don't can't hurt you?)cause if it's true love they no and it will.
  • wrong and you know it. Relationships are built on trust. Start lying and nobody will ever believe you.
  • What a f**king cop out. Seriously, why cheat? Why not just leave the person your with and be with the one that you're cheating with? You think it doesn't hurt the person you with to have their trust betrayed. Bullsh*t. Grow up and deal with it.
  • There could be poison in our food, we don't know it, but when we do eat it, we would get hurt.
  • Of course it won't hurt them and everyone else involved until they find out the truth. It's a matter of time, I bet there are very few cheaters who've never been caught.
  • Why don't you just tell the person you are with that you want someone else. you never know maybe the one you are with really doesn't want an exclusive relationship with you. It may be some skeletons in their closet that they would be happy to share with you if they knew you were doing things behind their back anyway.
  • Well I believe this could be justified long ago, when the pre-human race was struggling against nature and all its many obstacles. If men impregnated more than one woman then the population would grow and give us and our ancestors a better chance of survival. I also think this urge to cheat and/or have sex with multiple men/women has been passed down to the present day. I believe that if you are in a relation ship with someone, cheating behind their back would be just as bad if not even worse than if they knew the truth. Lack of population is no excuse in the overpopulated day and age.
  • Cheating is selfish, regardless of who knows about it. It's still cheating if you don't get caught. Let's say you killed someone. If you killed that person and didn't get caught, are you still a murderer? Yes. Therefore, a cheater is still a cheater. The end.
  • Someone else has said: "there's nothing wrong with a little hypocrisy." Why be stuck in one relationship for a life time when you can have a family and also a lover. I am sure you already heard the "I wouldn't eat one meal for my whole life" argument. Why, pray tell, should we stick ourselves with one man? There's more to life than one man (or woman, for that matter.) Keep it discreet. Have compassion for your family and your spouse.
  • Cause it makes you a sneaky liar and that ain't good. Not to mention the potential for causing others pain, that makes you cruel, and selfish.
  • I hear you on that one if the person doesnt know wut does it hurt
  • Cheat? Burn in Hell you devil. Read your Bible.
  • What you don't know can't hurt you? So if the doctor doesn't tell you you have cancer and you don't know it then it wont kill you?
  • Yeah, until you have this burning discharge, and need a RX to pee without pain! Karma...there is a bus around every corner, so you best stay in the cross walk, or you will get run over. Beep beep!
  • i don't know why you people think that this "cheating" thing is so bad...if you want sex and it's presented to you then take advantage of the moment if you can get away with it...one life to live ladies and gentlemen. screw living a normal one. live with your own rules and this supposed wrong-doing doesn't even exist. the reason you all think it is bad is because society thinks it is morally wrong...so you have been "brainwashed" (if i may) into thinking that kissing or having sex with others while in a relationship is a bad thing. in a world where you create the regulations you can have sex with whomever you please...live in your own world people...a world where you do whatever the hell you want. even tho you are sleeping around you know that your spouse or boy/girlfriend is the one you love most. please don't f-ing flame me for this guys, i'm just expressing my opinion...so in short, if i was presented with the opportunity (and i have been), hell yes i would (cuz i have before). i live my own life with my own rules...please do yourself a favor and do the same...
  • That is correct. What you don't know can't hurt you. So if you don't know that you are cheating, you won't get hurt. So go ahead. The other person doesn't matter. Unless they are reading AB, then you are in deep doo doo.
  • Cheating undermines the basic fundamental trust we place in people we care about, love and/or believe in. There is nothing good about that and it is not a matter of what you don't know can't hurt you. Lies, deceit and betrayal hurt people more than any truth ever will.
  • The thing about cheating is that it almost always makes itself known eventually. It doesn't like to be kept a secret for very long. I feel sorry for whoever you are with if that's what you believe.
  • Because usually its not just two people that get hurt. It usually involves breaking up a family and causing so much hurt and heartache for the people that you are supposed to love and want to protect more than anything in the world. All for sake of one parents sexual itch. If on the other hand its just the two of you then you can be as selfish as you want and when you eventually get found out then it comes down to reaping what you sow.
  • i think that cheating is wrong no matter what the situation is . becase it shows that if u cant be faithful to ward your self then u cant be faithful to ward others .
  • There are people who don't consider it bad. Like swingers and poly-amorous. You decide what's good for You, but You should make sure the other part wants the same from the relationship. Otherwise it's breaking someone's rules. Lack of honesty. If honesty is no value for You, then I just pity the person You'll be with. If it is, then now You know why. If it comes out You might be screwed. (not in a positive manner)
  • Yes +3
  • Having sex with people other than your partner isn't "bad". Having sex with people other than your partner and not telling your partner about it isn't "bad" either, after all, it's your body. What's bad is *agreeing* to behave monogamously and violating that contract. Your relationship with your partner, if you cheat, is based on a lie, you've made a mutual agreement to be exclusive with one another but you are not being exclusive with your partner. Besides, there is no possible way that you can guarantee that your partner will never find out and when they do, they will suffer. Why not have an open relationship instead, why agree to behave monogamously if you cannot behave monogamously? How is it fair that you are allowed sexual variety but your partner must remain monogamous to you?
  • You are absolutely right, sociopath.
  • because its mean to person your meant to care about if they ever find out trust gone . and why are you with somebody if you wanna cheat
  • what you dont know can KILL you!!! HIV what you dont know can destroy your family. trust, values, decency, integrity what you dont know can destroy you financially. child support on mistress' baby what you dont know can destoy your repuation. everyone else knows but you what you dont know can desroy your life. divorce what YOU dont know is tha THEY WILL find out eventually. What we DO know, is that your line of thinking is sociopathic and selfish. Dont ever get married. you are not worth the heartache!!!

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