go out of my way to make their life hard. One fat pos that used to piss me off everytime I went to the biulding it worked in Id put the a/c in his office eirther flat out on heat if it was hot or flat out on cool if it was cold (via the a/c controller in the swithboard). Another day I rammed his car in the car park.

Sounds like you have a problem with self-esteem. You can either do something to change it (like grow up) or live with it. "Avoiding" your problem doesn't make it go away - it's still there waiting for you. If that's what you want to do, then live with it.

6th august 2022...id get out of the relationship if they are hateful ....have nothing to do with them if possible! they are horrible people so ya cant reason with them....

If it's someone that you can't easily avoid, such as a coworker or fellow student, etc., when the negative thing is spoken, I turn to the speaker, smile and say something like, "Oh hi Jack, how are you today" ( as if he/she had just said "hi"). Then, I'd keep on walking. If "Jack" doesn't give up there and adds to the negativity, I still pretend that I don't get it and say something like, "I'm sorry you feel that way, I hope your day gets better from here." I find that the "Jacks or Karens" of this world give up pretty easy when it's not working.

If you can't avoid them then first remember the problem lies with them and not you, secondly ignore them as one learns to ignore a disobedient child that isn't theirs. Finally, create a positive environment in your own head regardless of what the bully is saying. People can put you down, and people can bring you up, the ideal situation is to remain completely unaffected by either, in this way no one can pull your strings, or press your buttons, you have created an identity of your own that cannot be manipulated by positive or negative remarks, for these usually only represent the persons feelings at the time and have absolutely nothing to do with you.

I distance myself from them.

If it was just one person I'd say just avoid them. But you seem to have an issue with everyone who doesn't coddle your feelings. Army Veteran is right. You need to understand your value and not let others influence that, especially with mere words.

Psychological bullies most definitely realize that they are bullying you. They get pleasure from your negative reaction as it makes them feel powerful!!! They are psychologically weak themselves & somebody has been bullying them or still is bullying them so they pass it on to you. At some point, you will need to stand up to them. Avoiding them is NOT the solution!!! I used to work with a girl who bullied me every chance she got. One night she told me that if I came into work the next day that she was going to kick my ass all over the parking lot in front of everybody. I couldn't afford to miss even a day on my paycheck, so I go into work the next day shaking. As I walk in the front door, she ran out the back door. She called in later that night & quit. It appeared that she was more afraid of me than I was of her. Well, not really, if she had decided to kick my ass I would have taken it as well as I could because I was NOT a fighter!!! Learn some way to STOP reacting to their bullying words & that will remove part of the fun. Actually, it is NOT up to the bully to stop bullying you. It is up to YOU to take away their fun!!! They are going to bully you as long as they get some type of reaction out of you...so STOP reacting & take away their fun!!!