ANSWERS: 45
  • Yes, you overreacted - you should be glad that your sister is preparing for the same kind of happiness that you found in marriage, not angry that she took a little bit of attention away from you on your wedding day. If you reacted badly in public about it, your guests will remember that long after other happier memories of the day have faded.
  • No, I don't think you overreacted, your sister was wrong, she should have waited another day to celebrate her news, your wedding day is suppose to be about you.
  • Yes you are. I can see getting pissed; but, that's as far as that should have gone. I think it's time to give this issue a rest. She's your sister, after all.
  • Awwww, Alicia, i think i would feel just like you did, it wasnt fair of her to steal your thunder on your special day, she should have waited for a more opportune moment. Maybe (and im giving her the benefit of the doubt here) she got so excited and carried away she couldnt help herself, dont be too hard on her though. Ask her how she would have felt if the table had been turned and you did the same to her on her 'special day'? im sure she will see how justified you are in feeling the way you do. spare a thought for your mum too, she must be feeling as if she is stuck in the middle of it all.
  • I can understand being mad at the time, you had every right too. But, I think not speaking to her now is over-reacting and a little childish, it's a silly thing to fall out over and the longer these things are left, the harder they are to repair.
  • I can see why you're upset but I think a month is pushing it. She's family after all, try to be as happy for her as you wanted her to be for you.
  • Yes. Do not expect that the joy you feel should stop the joy of other's that's self-absorbed. Be happy for her!
  • Context is important here. Does she have a persistent tendency of trying to upstage you, or to make her needs take precedence over yours? If so, you have some reason to feel annoyed. If this isn't typical of her, it may just be an excited utterance. Isn't the whole purpose of the bride throwing the bouquet to spread the luck of a happy union to someone else? She may have just been bursting to tell her good news, and did so at the wrong moment. If you won't talk to her, at least try to gain a better understanding through your mom.
  • She interrupted your dance?, that was rude..I agree with freakychick she should have waited another time.
  • i completely understand you feeling the way you did, after all it was your special day. But maybe it's now time to let go of your anger and make up, you can't change it that she did that to you, it's done. And she is your sister and i think that fact is more important than holding on to resentment. Try talking to her and getting her to see how you felt.
  • What your Sister did was inappropriate and common to say the least. (It was in poor taste!) What she might have done, if you two have been close and she was so excited as to not be able to contain herself, would have been to wait and whisper in YOUR ear, her joyous news. At that point, it would have been up to YOU to decide the degree of graciousness you wished to extend to her, and perhaps choose to make an announcement for her, at a more opportune moment. Granted, if this was a very posh affair, HER happy news would most likely NOT be shared at all, this was YOUR DAY. However, if it was more of a family and friends and you weren't out to impress the who's who, I personally think it would have been a kind and loving gesture for you to announce it. But NOT at that moment or in that manner! Now it's over and done...all of it. You have to make an adult decision of what is more important to you. Is it more important to be right and stay angry, hurt and generally pissed off at your sister? Or is it just as important to forgive her and let it go? If you knew that one of the two of you would be dead in three days, what would you choose to do? Does she have a history of making such glitches? May she simply have been unaware that her actions would not only be in poor form, and not make HER look "good," but that they might hurt your feelings? Might she often feel insecure with regards to concern that she is compared to you and feel that she never quite measures up? Is she well versed in social proprieties? Most women want their wedding day to be magical and perfect! But, as we grow and age, we come to realize that while THE DAY may have been magic and perfect or less than we had imagined it might be, it is all the days to follow that REALLY COUNT. The Wedding Day, is like a live play...actors on a stage, even though, hopefully, the pair of you were heart deep in the commitment you made to each other and the stars in your eyes.... But the REAL Magic starts after the honeymoon as you create the life you want to live, together. What she did was wrong, and I cannot say if she acted with overwhelming joy, or to be a brat. You may or may not know this...But I do know that holding on to the anger, does nothing real, except to further sour the memory of that day. No one died...it was a beautiful day...and I have every confidence that YOU were beautiful too. Forgive, if you can...YOU will feel better, for being a good sister and a Lady.
  • I think that was a terrible thing for her to do at that moment. How inapropriate! Your wedding day is for you and your husband and she had no right to make it about her, especially during your 1st dance!!! I would be really POed at her too, for tarnishing your precious memory of that moment. However, if she apologized and was sincere, you should probably just move on. If she didn't, you should try to discuss with her how hurtful her actions were, and ask her how she would feel if someone was to do that at her special moment? Not talking to her is just going to cause more heartache for you.
  • That is terribly bad form, and I can understand why you are upset. She should have waited, not taken the shine off your moment. That was selfish to the max.
  • That was really inappropriate on her part. But if you want a relationship with your sister, ya going to have to tell her how you feel and then get over it :)
  • I would like to know two things. Did her fiance propose at that moment? If so, it was HIS bad form to do that then. If not, and she already knew, she was being a selfish b*tch. And second, has she apologized? If not, then I'd be the same way. In fact, I'd be plotting a way make her THINK I was going to do something similar. I'd not be so crass as to actually DO it.
  • Only if you are still mad. It was a legitimate reaction to be angry at the time. It is now time to let it go.
  • Yes, you are over-reacting. Just be happy for her, she was happy for you, wasn't she?
  • I think it was selfish and rude on her part, but I think it's now time to let go and make things right....here's my thoughts on your moves after you've moved on from it. During her wedding, announce that you're pregnant!!!!!
  • I would be very angry at my sister for stealing my thunder on my wedding day.As soon as I felt calm I would go confront her and ask her. Why she choose your wedding party as the time to tell everyone about hers.You have a right to feel anyway you want.I always got angry at my mom when she would tell me how to feel. You feel the way you feel.
  • I think she could have waited for a more appropriate time to make her announcement..at least waited until you were finished with your 1st dance. But harboring resentment will not only hurt her and other family members, but will hurt you as well. It is time to put it aside and get on with it.
  • overreact, no. Talk about disrespect. Thats your special day for goodness sake. The first dance is one moment in your life u remember. How many women think about what song is going to be "THE SONG" when planning the wedding. Sorry but if it was my day then i would of been so pissed. As long as ur sister knows she was in the wrong then maybe you should forgive her. Some people just haven't the sense when it comes down to it.
  • Think of this as your chance to even up things. When she is having her first dance with her husband, you can jump in and say I'M PREGNANT..... even if you aren't. Your sister is an attention whore, pure and simple.
  • Your sister is a tool!!! I'm sure she always has been and always will be. Might as well talk it out with her and move on. Next time you have a special moment, pay someone to keep her in the other room. (or when she's dancing with her husband during the first dance shout out "I'm pregnant!!)
  • id be mad too. a girls wedding day is the one day when its all about you,and the dress of course! so for her to steal your thunder like that is a big no-no! i would not be best pleased!!
  • She was probably feeling jealous at all the attention you were getting and wanted a little for herself. I would be confronting her and asking if she did it intentionally or did it just blurt out. It was very bad manners but she is your sister and I think you need to move on.
  • i think u didnt over react because that day woz sopposed to be about u not her she should of waited for a little while to tell people but u should be able to put it all behind u at some point.
  • No you didn't overreact. A girl's wedding day is very special. She should have waited until the end of the night or the next day to tell you about it. I don't care who you are, you don't interrupt the couples first dance!!!!!!
  • WOW! What a bitch! I would be so pissed. Even if it wasnt my wedding and I saw someone do that. You can't not talk to her forever but I mean come on...that is so classless of her to do....
  • I know sh-- happens but I really think people say things without even thinking and even though it was your special day she likely was thinking she wanted it to be more special by doing that she felt you'd be that much more happier for her to announce it on your special day.I can see it from her point of view only if you were both really close....I'd put it under my feet if I were you there would be no gain only bad friendship for someone you truly love...It's not worth it if anything were to happen to her then you'd never forgive yourself and you'd go through life being miserable.....It's really petty stuff,just be happy for her as your big day was her big day as well because you got married and your her sister,not because she was going to get married..When I got maried my brother in-law and his wife got married the same day,We only knew 3 days prior to our wedding,I wasn't happy but we made the best out of it, They were very close....None the less we had 2 different masses 2 different receiptions but we had the one dance and had a great time..Rather quite kewl.At lease she didn't do that to you.lol now you can chuckle because you heard the best.lol lol
  • No, you are not over reacting. Your sister should have had the grace to shut up. This was your wedding. She is obviously a very immature or callous or silly girl. She should have waited until after your marriage to give her good news.
  • No you arent overracting. This was your day and she could have saved that for a later date. That was very rude of her. Evidently she didnt like the attention you were receiving. She is very inconsiderate. I would have reacted in the same manner.
  • Hell fricken no you're not overreacting. I'd be PISSED. My sister-in-law got engaged at my wedding (she TOLD her damn boyfriend to pop the question there...attention stealing shit lol) and tried to spread her happy news around to everyone but myself and my husband because she knew we'd congratulate her and then tell her to shut the f*** up about it until OUR wedding was over! That your sister's fiance proposed not only at your wedding but presumably during your first dance is just plain rude...and that your sister was jumping around yelling about it is downright inappropriate and unacceptable. You definitely didn't overreact!! Maybe you should start yelling that you're pregnant during your sister's first dance lol! Congrats on your wedding, by the way! :)
  • It was tasteless and inconsiderate and I think it sucks! Don't let it get to you, for your own good. I realize you had the normal reaction at the time BTW, was she really that dumb or was she trying to piss you off or maybe jealous?
  • Yes, at this point you are. I could understand you being mad at her for a bit or letting her know that she was rude for interrupting your important moment. Just realize that family is forever and that is only one dance.
  • I would have been angry too. But I would get over it. Let her know how you feel about it, and makes sure she does a lot of apologizing.
  • Mad at her yes, the first dance thing was quite rude, not talking to your sister ... childish, I mean really, did it ruin your whole day. Least she didnt say "IM PREGNANT WITH YOUR NEW HUBBIES KID"
  • no, if my sister did that, i would slap one good one.
  • honestly i would havedone the same thing, because she ruined your special moment, thet you can only have once, and it was ment to be your special day, all eyes on you, and she ruined that, but i think i wud feel guilts about not talkin to her, and maybe its a bit overreacted but i cant blame you.x
  • well i am planning my wedding right now, and i would be pissed if my sister did something like that. I think you should sit her down and explain exactly why your hurt. She took a moment that you are supposed to remember for the rest of your life and turned it into her moment.
  • Hell no, you're not overreacting! That selfish little bitch totally bogarted YOUR MOMENT. Seriously...what a self centered little twit. I recommend either: a) kicking her self-absorbed ass b) Stopping her in the middle of HER first dance and saying "Guess what! I'm Pregnant!!!!" Even if you're NOT. It's the damn PRINCIPAL of the thing. Karma's a bitch, Sis!
  • omg, what an ass. no your not overreacting.
  • you stopped talking to her for the night or for good? if you stopped talking to her for good then you may be overreacting a little. it was very selfish of her to interrupt your first dance and of her fiance to propose during it but she probably didn't mean it. she might have been so excited it just came out. do you remember when your husband proposed to you? i know i screamed and i didn't mean to. talk to her. tell her how you feel and try to work it out. your family is all you got.
  • It was an inappropriate time for her make her announcement, but what's done is done. Nothing can change that. Being disappointed? Yes. But has anything gone the way it's absolutely suppose to in the course of a wedding? Not usually. You smile, with grace, and carry on. In this instance, I feel your disappointment, but also feel that, it happened, nothing can change it, time to forgive and for your sake, forget. It's also time to tell her you want to be part of her life again. When the world falls down around you, (and it will over the course of your life,) your sister is a consant one who can give you love, friendship, encouragement and support. Give that back to yourself. Good Luck. PS> I have a twin sister and have had my share of "things" I've gotten upset with over time. When it comes down to it, she really does want the best for me and wants me to be happy, as I want that for her. I have to take the high road at times and make the call I don't feel is my place to do, but I'm so glad I do. Clears the air, no hidden stress to hang on to, and she's there to laugh with, share my joys with, and to be there when sorrow finds me. Hope this helps.
  • Your sister was rude and should have waited until after the wedding or another day.But not talking to her is maybe overreacting a little.
  • You are not overreacting. I would be so hurt! I would probably never be able to forgive anyone for doing something like that to me on such a special day, let alone my sister. I thought it was bad enough my cousin got engaged during her sisters Stag and Doe. This is wayy worse.

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