ANSWERS: 52
  • It doesnt matter if he wants the child or not, he made the choice to lay down. If it is biologically his child, he can be ordered to pay support.
  • I can only answer on UK law, KyraLou is right, the father will still have to pay child support, Its his child.
  • The father will still be held responsible. The "father" has the right to not have sex or to use protection if he doesn't want to be a "father." If you have sex, you may end up with a child. You are responsible for it if you do. And I sincerely hope that you will take that responsibility seriously. I don't think there are any laws that will change that.
  • Yes he will have to pay for support no matter what. If he ever ask for a DNA test tell him you will get it done if thats what he wants. If the child ends up being his he will have to pay for the test. Most of the time once the father finds this out he will admit the kid is his and start paying unless he still wants to push it. The court can force to take a test if he refuses but keeps saying the child is not his. If the DNA test comes back as the child being his then he will owe back support starting from the date the child was born. Get a contract for visitation set up if he wants that later (he might you never know expectually once he finds out that he might not have to pay as much if he shares custody) also ask that there be a set child support amount on the contract and that the contract be redone every 3 yrs to keep everything up to date. Watch out for two things though some states the father will get away with only paying $50 a month even if the set child support is way more. (because he can claim its all he could aford that month even though the rest of that monthes support will go to his past due support.) Also if he win joint custody (which he could if he shows he's trying to be a good dad after the child is born and it is proven it is his)and you make more then him you might have to pay him child support. Things are going to get sticky before they get better. The best thing to do is get a lawyer.
  • In the US, yes he can still be made to pay child support even if he doesn't want the child. The fact still remains that he was part of the conception process, therefore he needs to be held financially responsible for the child. Legally speaking, until he's established as the biological father (which happens AFTER the child is born) he doesn't have ANY rights, especially not the right to force the woman to abort.
  • As of now you must pay whether you want the child or not, but i think that you need to really think abou it, that is if you want to be a part of that childs life. Maybe if she knows this she will not ask you to, or put u on the birth certificate so that when she meets someone he can easily adopt the child. If you have money though ur prob screwed. I am a woman and i think that men should have the same opportunity as woman to choose whether they want to be a father. If you decide at the beginning then fine, but if you ackowledge it then change your mind u should be obligated
  • The man has authority only over his own body and its functions. He is responsible for them. Thus, he will have to pay child support no matter if he wanted her to terminate her pregnancy or not. The woman is the one who has authority over her body. There are no laws being considered for this, as a man has no right to force a woman to terminate a pregnancy, and if the man doesn't pay child support, most of the financial burden will be transferred to government (ie taxpayers). This is one of the big reasons why men need to start taking a more active role in birth control and not leaving it mostly up to women.
  • The only time I can think of that it's even SLIGHTLY appropriate for a man to request that a woman abort is if he knows he has some horrible genetic disease. It's called a CONDOM. A man is not *forced* to impregnate a woman, and once that happens it's her call. If a guy is that worried about having to pay for spreading his seed, then he needs to watch how/where he spreads it.
  • Yeah. Beacuase the father impregnated the woman. It's his fault. He needs to be responsible for his actions.
  • Pretty sure you're the one who didn't keep it in your pants. I will grant that it takes two to tango, but it's not your decision whether or not the woman decides to carry her child to term or abort it. YOU aren't the one who has to endure the pregnancy; YOU aren't the one who will probably have to care for the child on your own or move back into your parents' house when the father doesn't want to stick around; YOU aren't the one who might have to fight the deadbeat dad for the child support rightfully owed to the kid. You ARE the one who needs to step up and take some responsibility for what you made; if she wants to keep it, regardless of her reasons or your desires, you have to pay for it. And please...father's rights? In cases like this, I hope there is never such a thing, to be perfectly honest; the day that the father of an "accidental" child can dictate whether or not the mother has an abortion is going to be a sad day for the world.
  • Unfortunately we drew the short end of the stick on that one. Aye by law we can be forced to pay soley as a result of the woman excercising her right to bear.
  • Yes he can,and if in this day and age if a guy does not choose to protect himself and use a condom then he should absolutely have to pay child support.If you don't want to be a daddy then wear a condom.
  • In some states he could seek to have his rights terminated in which case he would then not have to pay child support. But until/unless that happens then he is a part of that child's life and will have to pay support. Here is a link that might help http://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/putative.cfm
  • Sweetie sorrry you are going through this. The guy is a jerk and doesn't deserve the title father. He is nothing more than a sperm donor.If he wants nothing to do with the child I would suggest he look into having his rights terminated. If he refuses or stat laaw prohibits this from happening then he is responsible for support. You can choose not to seek it but I think it would be a bad move on your part. If you go that route and ask for help in the future from the state ie welfare medical card or food stamps you will have no choice but to take him to court for support as a condition of receiving any help from the state. I wish you luck with that.
  • Nope, no fathers rights and not gonna happen with so many irresponsible guys out there.
  • I posted this question just as that- a question. I'm female and the question I asked is not a reflection of my "current situation" in any way. I asked it to get different opinions while going through a debate with a few friends.
  • I don't believe there are any "pre" father rights although even as a woman I feel there should be!
  • yep. twas his choice to get her pregnant. if he wasnt ready for child support he shouldnt have got her pregnant.
  • No one can force anyone to undergo a medical procedure against their will. Since the man got the woman pregnant (ie he didn't take precautions), he is responsible for the child.
  • he did it wit the lady no its his trun 2 pay the pric3!!!
  • I guess if he can prove she doesnt want the child, but the $ that comes with them, there might be a case for a law, but I doubt society would risk the child's well being for that. Good question.
  • There are some procedures where a father can relinquish his parental rights; however, that is generally only if there is someone else willing to adopt. If a woman gets pregnant and the guy wants her to have an abortion, that won't happen, and generally speaking, he is still responsible for the support of the child. There are ways to prevent children from being conceived....
  • Not only is he financially responsible for his child, it is also his right and responsibility to assist in the raising of his child. It is also his right to seek child support from the mother if he has been granted joint custody and is the primary custodial parent. I would be very careful who I let get me pregnant. Someone I want to have sex with isn't necessarily someone I would want to have raising our kid.
  • No you sick jerk!! You are responsible for the baby you made. You will not get out of your obligation just because you want to kill it!! That is NOT a father's rights issue. You are horrible. Your baby has a right to live!
  • the bloke is gone whether he wants the kid or not ...even if he is tricked into it (says she's on the pill)he still pays
  • If he didn't want to take responsiblity, he should have kept it in his pants.
  • You jerk. You choose to have sex and made the baby and you are responsible for it. You have no right to ask the woman to kill her child because you were both irresponsible and you don't want to pay. You are sick! This has nothing to do with father's rights. Your baby has a right to live!
  • You have several options. First do not abort the baby if you do not want to. Do not let any body pressure you. You can make him pay child support. You can ask him to sign his parental rights away in return he does not have to pay child support. You should consider moving in with a parent/grand parent, uncle/aunt, brother/sister, cousin, niece or nephew, or other family member that you trust. It can be easier to raise a baby if you live with a trusted family member, both financially, and you may get a free baby sitter. . You can also move to a different state/foreign country to give birth and stay there. Anne Nicole smith moved to the Bahamas to avoid US legal jurisdiction so that a US court does not have the legal jurisdiction to give the father legal custody. The Bahamas has legal jurisdiction as long as she made sure that the baby is born there, and the baby never leaves he Bahamas. In the Bahamas the father has legal rights. If you want to raise the baby in Los Angeles, make sure that the Baby is born in Los Angeles, not San Francisco. Other wise the courts in San Francisco can prevent you and the baby from moving to Los Angeles. The father could say that you and the baby can only move from San Francisco to Los Angeles if he does not have to pay child support.
  • You have several options. First do not abort the baby if you do not want to. Do not let any body pressure you. You can make him pay child support. You can ask him to sign his parental rights away in return he does not have to pay child support. You should consider moving in with a parent/grand parent, uncle/aunt, brother/sister, cousin, niece or nephew, or other family member that you trust. It can be easier to raise a baby if you live with a trusted family member, both financially, and you may get a free baby sitter. . You can also move to a different state/foreign country to give birth and stay there. Anne Nicole smith moved to the Bahamas to avoid US legal jurisdiction so that a US court does not have the legal jurisdiction to give the father legal custody. The Bahamas has legal jurisdiction as long as she made sure that the baby is born there, and the baby never leaves he Bahamas. In the Bahamas the father has legal rights. If you want to raise the baby in Los Angeles, make sure that the Baby is born in Los Angeles, not San Francisco. Other wise the courts in San Francisco can prevent you and the baby from moving to Los Angeles. The father could say that you and the baby can only move from San Francisco to Los Angeles if he does not have to pay child support.
  • You're joking right. You took on that responsbility when you had sex with her. Birth control would have been a wise decision. You can't make a woman abort her child. You have rights and they start when the child is born. Now grow up!!!
  • Sorry, but if he didn't want to be a father, he should have kept it in his pants. You can't unring a bell. Why should that child have to pay with his life for dad's irresponsibility? The best thing for dad to do now is to suck it up and be a man.
  • no. you are screwed, just like the fu** that dumped me in an abortion clinic parking lot. if i were your baby's momma, i'd take everything you've got.
  • If a man does not want to become a father, yet is a smart enough man to know that the only 100% effective form of birth control is abstinence and he does not wish to practice this form of birth control.... he should draw up a legal (it may seem strange or ridiculous to some but they do exist) agreement which he has the woman sign agreeing, that in case of pregnancy the woman agrees to either abort or accept full responsibility for the child and the expenses related to said child. Really guys, if you want to play but not pay, be smart, make them sign! It's kind of like a prenuptial, think of it as presex, no sign, no sex.....
  • There should be laws to protect the father!!!!!!!!!!And Im a woman!!!!
  • Seems there's a double standard here. A woman who messes up has options but a man who messes up is screwed? I don't think that is right. I believe a father can terminate his rights and that should take care of the issue. I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that's how it works.
  • A couple weeks ago there was a DR. Phill show on this exact issue and there is actually a Father's rights issue trying to get it's way to congress. I feel sorry for men because they always get the shaft when it comes to children and support. I think that women should be forced to contact the father and let him know as soon as she is pregant so that the father can decide weather or not he wan't to be active in the life...and if he doesn't want to he should be able to sign away any rights to the child without consequence and never have to pay child support.
  • The man should have considered that before he had sex with you.You have mentioned that what you feel is that you want the baby, it is right for you and the baby. He wants you to have an abortion because he doesn't want to support the baby financially. This is his selfishness speaking.He should have thought about that the night he got you pregnant. As for you,you can make it work.. Yes you will have to work hard and harder to make things work, but if you think that you can't raise the baby, you can put the baby up for adoption, he deserves that much...a chance to live...you mother didn't abort you, why would you abort your baby, he is part of you...do take yourself ..please go to your pastor and talk to him about it..And.. Yes! he will have to pay chils support..the only new rights that men have is visitation rights, if he is not a danger to the child...also go to the department of social services and they may have a reliable answer and support...pray..God bless you,cordially, ac
  • it is disgusting that everyone is all about the man shouldnt spread his seed if he doesnt want a baby, and blah, blah. what about her. what about the guys that are stupid in love and believe her when she says shes on birth control, and oh whoops, there goes 17% of his income. i don't believe that any child should be aborted, but fathers are being nailed to the wall and sent to the poor house. if a woman gives birth out of wedlock she should receive child support in the same amount as state welfare mandates, not a percentage of the mans income. by the way, i am the mother of a child born out of wedlock. the most her father ever did was once bought her a package of huggies "for boys" and ran off to texas, still and all i am disgusted at the way men are treated under the present child support laws. let the poor man get on with his life.
  • The woman carries that baby. It is entirely on her physically. Beforehand, she held an egg, he held sperm. In my opinion, men can control/try to control (condoms break) what happens to their sperm. Women can control/try to control what happens to their eggs. And women can control/try to control what happens with their foetus. For the woman, the point of no return is somewhere around 25 weeks up to the birth. For the man, the point of no return is when he comes. Once that sperm's gone off, that's the man's last say in the matter - he can't control an abortion, and many say for the same reason that he can't control legal parentage. However, I do personally believe that just as a child can be given up for adoption and parental rights terminated by CPS and the like, a man should have the choice to not be that child's father and not pay child support. But I believe it would be absolutely pig-headed and revolting for that choice NOT to include the fact that that man would then have absolutely no legal right to that child, to be that child's legal parent, visitation rights, etc.
  • Tough shit to the dad is what I would say. Where a condom!
  • For the record, once again, **I** am the writer of this question. I made this comment eariler in the post but it seemed to have gone unnoticed. Some of you have assumed that the question was written by a scum-bag of a man. Some have asumed that it was written by a woman that is currently in that situation. Both are incorrect. This question came up as a discussion amongst friends and I wanted outside opinions. I am happily married and currently pregnant with my 3rd child.
  • Men have always been allowed to keep it in their pants.
  • What if the woman wants to abort the child but the man wants her to carry it to full term? There was court case about the issue in question but I don't remember the ruling! If he's forced to pay child support it should only be one fourth what he would normally be expected to pay!
  • Yes, there's a law that the father has the absolute right to cut all ties with the females partner. And yes, at the age of 13, i have read up this. This is just one of the many rights men have.
  • Whether to abort is the mother's choice, where that choice exists by law. Whether to inseminate is the father's choice and you can't go shirking your responsibility by treating a morally debatable luxury (abortion) as a human right. If you made the baby, you made the baby and its too late to do anything but support it for the rest of its life.
  • to yorkshireMAN, it is your thought against the the whole U.S Court system. It is good for children that the laws in the United States have changed in favor of children to be protected and making the sperm donors cough up child support. That is why many babies get aborted, because men tell wome how much the love them and they really don't... to a lot of men, it is just a second-moment-thrill that often begins a life. That's why sex should be for married couples as ridiculous as it may sound. A lot of people have turned away from God and His Commandments and we have an out of control population explosion due to immoral conduct and most want the quick solution of waiting-to-be- born-baby-genocide...yorkshireMAN, are you thankful that you weren't aborted? I sure am! Each day, waiying-to-be-born babies, get poisoned inside the mother's womb; pulled out by their tiny feet, while leaving the head inside and with surgigical scissors,but through neck to kill them. There are other procedures.Think
  • Unwed Fathers. The ERA will provide rights to unwed fathers who want to support their children both financially and emotionally. Currently, most states only care about financial support. The ERA will allow these fathers to sue for joint custody, sole custody, or visitation rights, and it will guarantee a decision that is not clouded by obsolete sex-role stereotypes. . . . Paternity Suits. It is an unfortunate fact that persons involved in a unintended pregnancy are not always ready to accept the weighty responsibilities of parenthood. In the case of a woman, the United State Supreme Court decision on abortion (Roe v. Wade, 410 U.S. 113, 93 S.Ct. 705, 35 L.Ed.2d 147 (1973)) has made it illegal for a state to impose motherhood. The ERA will extend this decision and make it illegal for a state to impose fatherhood. It should be noted that a man saying “no” to fatherhood will not force the woman to obtain an abortion—she may place the child up for adoption, raise the child herself, or find a partner who wants to be a father. historymatters.gmu.edu/d/7028/
  • He still has to pay thats for sure - I mean the order would be put out through court for him to pay but then comes the part on whether or not he actually will pay. My oldest daughters father wanted me to have an abortion and i didnt obviously - he then skipped town and i went to court without him a custody order and support order was put into place and he was ordered to pay 300 a month til she turned 18 yrs old. Well, he never paid a dime until her 7th birthday when the courts apparently caught up to him and are garnishing his wages. sucks to be him because now because not only has the judged garnished his wages but they now said he has to pay until she is 21 not 18
  • The father can give up paternal rights.
  • In Ohio the state only goes after someone for child support if the mother is on a welfare program. If you don't want to be a father don't have sex.
  • There should be. Pro-choice means that both men and women should have a choice. Unless a person is just pro-abortion. In that case, men have no choice.
  • By all means the father can be made to pay child support.as far as any current laws being considered...try having some consideration and wearing a condom.

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