Do looks matter? What do you think of people who say that they don’t matter
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Disarming Alice
ANSWERS: 35
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i do not think looks matter, It is not your fault how you are born, and sometimes there is nothing you can do about it. I respect the people who say looks dont matter, it takes alot of will power to try to just look on the inside, And not concentrate on the out.
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Of course looks matter, we're all human and so we are naturally inclined to look for people who appear to be healthy and have well-proportioned features because it indicates that they will be able to produce healthy offspring. That being said, we are more intelligent than mere animals and also have the ability to realize people are beautiful on the inside as well, I have had several "unattractive" boyfriends and the relationship was no less enjoyable - perhaps more so, because it seems less attractive people tend to have the more wonderful personalities because they had to make up for what society told them they lacked.
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to some they do. there does need to be an initial attraction, but what people are attracted to varies from person to person
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I really don't look for "looks". I like generous, funny person. Who wants a good looking, but boring, dud?
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Yes in a way they do but I dont mean that as a flat out yes.. Looks..are interpreted by the one looking and what it is they find attractive. For instance it could be someones eyes..their smile..the sound of the voice..anything..beauty is in the eye of the beholder..everyone has a different vision..it's one of the good things about being human :)
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i think that looks can help. If you don't fancy someone then thats fair enough.. BUT i believe that you can find someone physically attractive after you've become attracted to their personality :) personality is what matters most to me
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While I do not disrespect peoples right to their opinion, I honestly believe that looks don't matter. For me it is all about the personality. If someone is beautiful on the inside to me it makes what is outside more bearable to look at if they are not a physically attractive person. I would much rather have someone who is kind caring sweet funny intelligent etc but is not much in the looks department than to have a stunning beauty who knows it and treats others she views as beneath her like crap.
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Looks are part of whom a person is. It is one element. All elements are important and are placed in a priority sequence by the person evaluating 'the package.' Outward appearance will fade with age. This happens to everyone. What is most valuable is what will endure. For me, the most important thing is a person's character and spirit.
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Of course looks matter. People are lying if they dismiss the importance of looks outright. But always remember, looks aren't the end all and be all in any relationship.
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People who say looks don't matter are liars. They do matter. Not as much as the media seems to thing they do however. The personality of a person is more important certainly, but no one is immune to the physical side of our nature. To deny it, is to deny ourselves.
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well for some yes. me however i have dated more than my share of "unatractive" men and thats because i guess i see past looks. i am a pretty 27 year old and have dated a man that made "grizzy adams" look good. I go for character. ever heard the saying "character is what you are in the dark"? I dont take it like regarding sex, and even if it is i still liked all those men with the lights on.
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yep.
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You tell me.....
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not always
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Being honest i'd have to say yes.I have gone out with guys that arent attractive to me,and they were the nicest fellas you could ever meet.but at the end of the day i wasnt physically attracted to them and i think you need that in a relationship
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initially absolutely
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To some girls it's a big deal, but not for most. You'll have a lot better luck if you stop obsessing over it.
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Yes, look does matter to me but it is not of extreme importance. A book should not be judged by its cover.
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to me not really, if i like the guys personality enough, i tend not to care how attractive they are on the outside. which always seems to be the case for me. :)
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Looks matter! when you meet someone for the first time you judge them by their appearance, and as you get to know them in person, it takes a back seat!
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Well, for ME they do. I couldn't go with someone that I don't like phisically, neither mentally you know? my last gf had an IQ of about 1x10^-29 and I couldnt stand her.
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People gage others by their looks... It is the first thing you see when you apporach another person. Not many people are willing to get beyond that if it is not up to par. And it is a shame because there are many ways to be beautiful... But yes...Human beings are visually geared creatures all about the instant need of symmetry.
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They do matter to a certain extent. I think that if anyone says otherwise, they are lieing.
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Anyone who says looks don't matter are full of shit. You have to be attracted to the person you are with to have a happy, fulfilling relationship....BUT in my eyes no body is perfect and you I have found that in the past I have been attracted to people that I never thought I would find attractive. Sometimes when you get to know a person their inner beauty shines through and they become even more beautiful to you.
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They DID when I went to school!!! Dang all of you light-skinned, pretty-boy types!!!!
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they are either full of crap, ugly or very young. Am I going to be downrated for honestly answering again.....bring it on!
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I still say that looks don't matter,but they really do,because to our society,they play a big role in our self-esteem,and genes deal us our cards,regardless if we like them or not,we have to live with them.No plastic surgeries can change nature,so I like to explore past the glam on the outside,because people give your worth to much from how you look.*+++++*
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Looks matter but there is a balance to this. They don't matter more than character or inner beauty but usually if someone has this, they are naturally good looking even if they don't make the cover of Vogue.
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I think looks matter more to men than to women. But its not the be all and end all.
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Looks matter in all aspects of life! it even benefits some people to be ugly in certain situations and sometimes being beautiful can hinder your position...
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I'd say that these people are idealistic, not realistic. Unfortunately, looks do matter. If you think they don't, go out in the street with hair uncombed and wait for the unkind stares. Even at the mall, well-dressed, attractive customers will get better service. Without the right look, employment and mating opportunities are reduced.
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There not everything but they sure do help. Everyone wants to look good. There's not a woman I know who doesn't wear makeup. However no mater how good we look no one stays young forever so you better love what's inside. I've been married 20 years. When I look at my wife I still see the person I married way back when. Although when I see myself in the mirror I wonder what the hell happened.
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I think at first looks play an important role because it is really the only thing you have to go on and be honest it would be hard for a relationship to last of there was no sexual chemistry. So I think the DO matter to at least some degree. but of course there are other traits to people. He could be the hottest guy but a complete jerk so who cares
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They do matter, unfortunately. I think the people who say otherwise may believe it themselves and wish it were universally true.
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Looks are an important factor for men. For women, not so much. That's my opinion.
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