ANSWERS: 36
  • if i every truly loved them to begin with i'd be willing to give them a 2nd chance.
  • I think it would depend on what you became exs' in the first place for. For painful or hurtful reasons, no. Or at least, I wouldn't suggest it. If it was because say, someone had to move somewhere for a while because of work or family or something, and then came back again, and you still felt the same about each other, then yes, I could see it happening. It really depends on what happened before though...
  • well i think that sometimes the reason people get back together is through fear of loneliness.. which isnt a good reason to get back really.. you have to have love for eachother, and move on from past issues which allowed you to break up in the first place. Of course this is my own opinion..
  • I've done it, so I dont see why not... On the other hand evertime I've done that it hadn't worked. often times I just ended up reminding myself of why I left in the first place. But if its meant to be it will be.
  • Depends on what they have done. I got back with an old boyfriend but that was because the first time, he used to tease me and push it a little too far. He mellowed out and a little over a year later, we got back together. That didn't last more than 6 months though.
  • I want to get back with my x-boyfriend, but I know it's not going to work because he will never change.
  • Not in my opinion. I'm convinced if something fell apart, it fell apart for a reason. Most people don't change all that much, and getting back with someone who has hurt you, or who you've hurt, or even if there was no hurt, will almost always end up in heartbreak, or multiple heartbreaks. You may miss them or want to be with someone again, and it may take a while of you being back together, but eventually you WILL start to remember why you broke up in the first place. You've been through it once... why put yourself through it again? You may still love them with all of your heart, but how are you ever going to move on if you keep giving it another try after try after try? Sometimes you have to let things be as they are... over.
  • I have gone back to ex girlfriends but it always seems that the problems that broke you up in the first place eventually resurface. I suppose it is possible, I am on good terms with almost all of my ex girlfriends and even my ex-wife but would not get into a serious relationship with her again. This sounds terrible but I have gone back to ex girlfriends for a weekend just for old times sake but We knew it was going to be just that, A weekend.
  • I never had because we broke up for a good reason or we would still have been together.
  • In my opinion, I think it would be OK, if the bahavior/problems that caused the initial break up, were taken care of, lets say like a drug addiction for example.
  • No! they are ex's for a reason.
  • I think it depends on the people and the reasons, it worked out great for me, I decided I wanted to get back with my ex after we were apart for 2 years now were married and very happy :)
  • It is like having your dentist put your old root canal tooth back in your mouth. Why go through that pain and then have to have it removed all over again eventually. So my answer is a resounding NO!
  • No i wouldn't their was obviously a good enough reason to end things and after a few years apart you may forget and believe it is the right thing to do but they are called x's for a reason leave them behind and move on.
  • It's a pretty bad idea. Usually, you separated for a good reason.
  • I remarried an ex husband and it was a big mistake for me.
  • Sure, if they have changed so completely that all of the reasons for leaving them in the first place are gone. The chance of this being the case? About .0001%. Better off to leave old mistakes in the past.
  • DUH they are called ex's for a reason!!! Sex with the ex is okay , maybe, but never get back with them!
  • What if the reason you broke up was that you both were young and needed to figure yourselves out, and needed some time apart? If there's not some fundamental personality conflict, then what is the harm in second chances?
  • well an ex is an ex for a reason....as Montel always says, lol. If you broke up because of something that can be resolved i dont see the problems. Usually getting back with someone is a bit harder than we all would like.
  • I went back with an ex, the same one 4 different times. Nothing changed , nothing got better. When it is over it is best to leave and stay gone.
  • That would depend on a lot of things. I tried getting back with my first husband (his idea) he was back to his old ways within a month. My current husband and I seperated for quite a while before deciding to give it another shot. We have been back together for 14 years now...26 years total.
  • What if the person broke up with their ex because they were still in love with their previous significant other who died, but at the same time fell in love with their ex and didn't realize it at the moment?
  • It depends on the reason you broke up....I think in most cases probably not but some yeah if you both are willing to work at it and you love eachother....
  • NO I am married now. Those days are long over.
  • A relationshop is like broken glass sometimes its better to leave it be, rather than to hurt yourself putting it back together
  • Do you think someone can change if they want to bad enough? I'm struggling with this same issue right now, and I know that an ex is an ex for a reason, I get that! But we have been divorced for 6 years, separated for 7 years... he claims he has changed and realizes what a hUGE mistake he made. My parents are his inspiration... they got divorced for 2 years before I was born, they got back together and had me. They are still together to this day. My dad was "something else" but he loved my mom and you wouldn't believe all that stuff was true today. I also have a son with this man. I really never thought I would be considering this. But I know he can take care of me. And the good times were good! The bad stuff was bad, but claims to have changed and also claims that he would never do that stuff again. He knows that I'm not in a place in my life to mess around and my motto is "mess around, mess around soon you won't be around" .. there is nothing in this for him except that he loves me, says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, wake up with me every morning. Can this be too good to be true?
  • Depends on the situation or why you guys broke up in the first place!
  • ONLY IF YOU CAN PERSONALLU ON A MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY LEVEL CAN HANDLE THE REALTIONSHIP AND IF YOU ARE FULLY RECOVERED FROM WHATEVER THE SITUATION WAS THAT CAUSED THE BREAK UP IN THE FIRST PLACE. YOU ARE WHAT SHOULD MATTER MOST TO YOU!! LOVE YOU FIRST!
  • Get even maybe
  • i think it depends on why you broke up. like should i get back with my ex after he treated me like crap and verbally brought me down everyday? probably not.
  • A second time around can be better than the first if you communicate and workout what went wrong. 80% of marriages go through a period of at least 2 months seperation. so to all the sad souls above, I say don't be easy losers and fight for your loved ones if they once made you happy
  • No. I will never return to ex-husband; that would be a very bad thing to do. My children and I are perfectly safe where we are.
  • I've thought about it.... But..the answer is no...they are an ex for a reason.

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