ANSWERS: 38
  • Say don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. :)
  • I'd probably agree, because i'm clearly that sucked into this crazy world I have with this guy or else I wouldn't have agreed to marry him in the first place. If i wasn't the person in the question, and i was me, i'd most certainly tell him to go get fucked. (n.b there's a possibility i'd be paranoid about my weight around the 130lb mark in the future though.)
  • Not marry him....honestly
  • I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that shallow or controlling long enough for him to become my fiance most likely and if someone that I totally jived with pulled all sorts of conditions out at the last minute I would probably walk away from that, marriage is supposed to be a partnership and I don't think I could be happy in a relationship where my value to my husband is clearly defined by my physical body.
  • do you set conditions as well?
  • Call off the engagement and tell him "see ya"... Prenups aren't actually legally binding in England, so that wouldn't bother me, it would be his stupid demands.
  • That's ridiculous. Are you having HIM sign a pre-nup stating that he will never have a beer belly? And what happens if you can't fulfill these wishes - a divorce? The guy sounds pretty controlling. I would take a big step back from the altar at this point.
  • I would no longer be engaged. He sounds controlling and demanding and those are bad combinations. He either loves me for me or finds someone else.
  • I would not marry him or continue to date him. Even if he withdrew the prenup it would still be over on the grounds of idiocy. Any man who would stipulate that does not love her to begin with. Why waste your time on a loser?
  • NO WAY! I am out of here. For my height, that would be seriously dangerous to my health. No way is that happening. >,<
  • I'm a guy and if the tables were turned, I would probably sign it. Then again, I enjoy working out.
  • tell him to f**k off and marry some other mug
  • They are very strange conditions to put in a pre nup. is he saying you will not get any money and he will divorce you if you break these conditions.? To be quite honest I would tell him to book it and enjoy your freedom. This man sounds to me like a Dom looking for a submissive.
  • I'd sign it if he would sign one guaranteeing me that: He will never have a spare tire He will always have an erection hard enough to cut stone. He will always have a head full of his own natural hair. Promise me that and you got yourself a deal :)
  • If there was such a person, I would suggest counseling, since that obsessive concern with weight is not normal. It sounds like he is telling you his love is conditional and if you don't meet the specific condition of weight, he will no longer love you. I wonder what will happen if he gains weight?
  • OMG I'd be out that door and I would tell him I would feel sorry for the woman who marrys him.
  • Well, I'm no lady. But it would depend on the person, really. If I knew they were the kind of person who just wanted that 'image' maintained then they could get screwed. Although, if I knew they were the kind of person who really was just concerned about my health, then I could understand the justification of a legal document. Still, I wouldn't be thrilled about it.
  • I would never sign something like that. It's ridiculous to assume you can maintain that weight forever and that says he's not marrying you for the right reasons. Most marriage vows state for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health... Doesn't sound like he intends on honoring these vows from the start. Lose him.
  • I'd eat a couple dozen doughnuts while the movers packed my stuff up and I'd wipe frosting on his doorknob on my way out.
  • I'll marry the other guy then. LOL
  • Honestly? I wouldn't marry him. "For richer or poorer...in sickness and in health...I promise to honor, love, cherish until death does us part." A marriage with the sort of conditions you mention isn't a marriage, it's a future divorce. Don't let a lawyer, a bigot, or a chauvinist fool you. Unless you're marrying for money and not love, then dump him like the bucket of bad apples that he is. Of course, I'm of the opinion that prenuptial agreements are legal contrivances that tend to sully the sanctity of "holy matrimony." When you marry somebody, commit for life! Marriage is TOUGH. Raising kids, even tougher. A conditional marriage will always undermine the unconditional love that is NECESSARY to stay together anyway. Your prenup is a pre-divorce.
  • Ya' know; this "Fiancee" is a bond fide JERK ..... Kick his azz to the curb and start life over ... it won't be easy; BUT you don't need a dumb azz like this guy obviously is ... +5
  • I am a guy and I am wondering if this prenup has any conditions about the guy not gaining weight? I mean is this a two way street?
  • Laugh my head off at someone who is so stupid that he doesn't know that those conditions are not enforceable in a court of law, which is the point of a pre-nup. AND say goodbye.
  • Wouldn't be worth being married to someone who just wants to be around for the good times. I can understand a prenupt saying that the other person is to take their health seriously and promises to do all things possible to stay healthy. But putting just a weight restriction say he is just into you for your looks and doesn't care what you have to do to keep your weight. What if you got ill an you have no real control over your weight? Then what are you suppose to do. Just wave good bye and say it was fun while it lasted. He's a jerk.
  • Dump him, honestly.
  • I would not marry him. The man I marry will not obligate me contractually to any physical dimension. I'd keep myself at a good weight anyway, but the fact that he would no longer be contractually obligated to marriage or accept me if I crossed that line for any reason, leaves me no choice but to no longer accept him. I am not married, and don't plan to be for a long time. However, to make things contextual for me, I'm thinking of my current relationship. If the man I'm with now gained weight, I honestly would not care. I love his body now (sexy!), but if he lost shape I wouldn't fret over it unless it was potentially harmful to his health. Now, I'm not him, but I am willing to bet that if I gained some weight he'd feel the same way. Since both of us are health concerned individuals, I'm not worried about it at all. However, if he asked me to do the same thing your man is asking you. I'd throw him out without a second thought no matter how heartbreaking it may be.
  • I would laugh me ass off. If a man was so vein about my looks that he would add it to a prenup I would not marry him. I want him to love me for me, not my body. I would say the only good thing a prenup is for is to ensure your wealth. I asked my fiance for a prenup, he said why? We don't have anything. I thought, yeah your right, we don't. I always had it in my mind that I should have one. He also suggested that wasn't that like saying "When we get a divorce?" I said well that never occurred to me, I guess it can mean that. I find they are their to protect people who are rich to not be swindled out of their money.
  • I would NOT accept that. I fluctuate between 128 and 134 pounds anywayz. Is he going to leave me when I'm between 131-134 pounds? What a jerk. I'd tell him to go F himself in the butt and go find some other dummy.
  • I would find someone else who doesn't care as much about looks. Even if you stay 130, you'll always know that they think more about your looks than you. What if you get sick? What about when you're old and your looks have faded? Will that person be there for you or only under the "right conditions" I'm a 100% person. If it's not for life, no matter what, I wouldn't get married.
  • First of all, if he even mentions pre-nup, then he is already thinking of divorce and it does not matter what the terms are. Prenuptual agreements are disgusting! Now, as for his "terms".............How can you be sure of how your metabolism will react to age, pregnancy, medications, birth control, an unexpected injury, a necessary surgery, stress from being married to a pig, etc...... I was a 135 pound hottie when I got married, but 2 kids, 1 c-section, 14 years of marriage, two car accidents, and a partial hysterectomy later I am well over 250. Is my hubby happy that I got fat? No more than I am to be fat, but he would never leave me because he loves me for everything that I was, am and will be....no matter what size dress I wear! Kick his butt to the curb and find a real man!
  • I worked with a guy that had a prenup that his wife wouldn't go over 135 lbs or he would divorce her and she gets nothing. She signed it in 1982 and they were married. She still keeps her weight down and her mother and 2 sisters are really fat. They are all jealous of her. She should be proud of herself. She did have 2 kids that are grown up and gone.
  • Anyone that would ask the one they supposedly "Love" to sign that is a few bricks short of a load. He is also a total control freak. I would be out of that relationship before he could say pre-nup again!
  • What would I do "honestly"? I'd have a short and sweet sit down with myself. It would be clearly obvious that the man I was going to marry was not "in love" with who I am but with how I looked. If a number on a scale makes or breaks a marriage count me out. Men gain weight just as much as woman if not more. The character of anyone who would create a prenup of that nature is as shallow as a teaspoon of water. If weight is a huge issue what about accidents? If someone is to get in an accident like a fire or something of that nature and loses a leg, burns their face then what... They head straight to the divorce lawyer? I don't know about anyone else but when I plan to get married I'll say "I do" to someone who will have my back at any weight & look.
  • That is SIIIIIICK
  • This is the best idea. Wish I thought of it, then maybe she wouldn't have turned out looking like a bullfrog. Women shouldn't just be allowed to let it all go after they tie the knot. It's deceptive. Honestly I think our society would be much better off with measures like this to protect the male. It's no different from consumer's rights.
  • I would never marry anyone who wanted a prenup anyway. He either trusts me or he doesn't, if he doesn't then he shouldn't be marrying me, if he does, then he doesn't need a prenup.
  • Um...no, I'd be gone in a flash. Isn't the one you marry supposed to love you no matter what you look like?

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