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  • I think if you reverse the roles and ask yourself the same question, you'll know the answer.
  • No, quite the opposite - just ask the neighbours and her workmates!
  • yeah thats just harsh,poor woman
  • Yes. Having ED doesn't mean pills. There are lots of treatments. You attitude may be untreatable, however.
  • Apparently your sexual relationship is not a priority. Was your wife always a willing partner prior to the ED?? Seems she'll find out other ways to satisfy her cooling off period.
  • Well, I can see where she would be selfish if there was nothing else that could be done, but there are many treatments. I do feel that a woman would be selfish if her husband could not help it and could get no treatment. There are always things that can happen to ruin a sex life, that is why a relationship should be more than just sex, although sex is goooooooood..lol
  • Yep. The thing is, you are solely responsible for your wifes satisfaction and care, and only you are designated as her mate. If you see nothing wrong with depriving your wife of pleasure and fulfillment because you think taking a silly pill is unnatural, you need to mature. and on that note, pills are natural. Not all, but there are natural remedies for such thing. and that excuse is therefore just selfish.
  • If I where you I would go see a Urologist, maybe there is something else besides pills you cold do that would help out your E.D. problem. At least then you would have tried.
  • Jesus.... No offense, but what the hell is wrong with you? Sex is awesome. I would take any damn pill you put in front of me if it meant I could have more sex.
  • Extremely selfish and self centered.
  • What does she look like?
  • No, you're not being selfish for not wanting to take pills but you're not thinking of your wife if you're not trying to correct the problem some other way.
  • get fixed before she cheats on ya or leaves ya man, the pain of being cheated on is wayyy worse than takin any pill thats for sure
  • As the old saying goes: "Show me a man who can't and I'll show you a neighbor who will"
  • You are a NitWit. Send her over to Manhattan and I'll can show her the good time she obviously deserves! lol Oh BTW +5
  • if you dont want to seek treatment, you can still have a fully satisfying sex life by doing mutual oral sex. If you arent willing to perform orally on a regular basis, well, then yes, Id say youre very selfish. Role revarsal: if you were at your prime, and she just said, nope, aint gonna happen anymore. What would you do? You dont have to answer, we all know the answer to that one.
  • Personally, I would be popping viagra like sweeties if it meant even a quick knee trembler!! I wish my wife wanted some, so quit looking the gift horse in the mouth and do your job! Seriously, 'au natural', you plonker!
  • Yes, you are very selfish! Do you realize that E.D. is often an early heads up to arteriosclerosis?
  • I think this is a BS question on your part trying to get a rise out of us. No pun intended.
  • I think you are naive to think she'lll "cool her jets" from here on out. She may cool them at home, but you can be she will eventually stop for a refueling.
  • if you don't some one else will.
  • I can understand not wanting to be on a "pill" for the rest of your life but you should at least check out why you have ED just to be on the safe side. That aside, talk to your wife and see how she feels about it all. With all of the toys and alternative methods that are available there is not any reason why the both of you can't enjoy a satisfying sex life. A man can still achieve a satisfying O without being erect. It's a bit different yes but still satisfying. There is more to a good and satisfying sex life than just an erection after all ;)
  • Selfish? Yes, your ED maybe a symptom of somethign more serious and your refusing to see a urologist may put your health at further risk. Doesn't your wife deserve better than that?
  • Your ED might be curable but your selfishness isn't.
  • Doctor Oz said that the penis is to a man's health like the dipstick is to a car's engine. You should definitely see a doctor to make sure that your problems don't go beyond the issue of your solider standing at attention.
  • Who is this guy ED anyway?
  • No! Besides. . . . . . . . . .there are OTHER ways to satisfy her; and by now YOU should know what those "ways" are!
  • Youre REALLY selfish if you die or get sick because of stupidity...She will cool her jets if you dont care enough about her to take care of your health. Plus, youre denying yourself a great time for BOTH of you,because we DO have the technology, Mr. husband-of-the-year!! C'mon, dude, you can do better than that?
  • sounds like an excuse to me...
  • Lots of wives have low libido and aren't at all interested in sex, and they see no issue. You're no different really.
  • I don't know about selfish, but i would indeed see a doctor about it, this could be the sign of something worse, and then again it may not be, you'll never know unless you see a doctor.
  • In today's medical world that would be grounds for divorce should she choose to do that. And, I would advise her to do it. You can be fixed, you need to do it. Your motor needs an overhaul. Not doing it is really selfish and self centered.
  • Sit down share a little green cigarette.
  • I wouldn't say you're 'selfish' exactly, unless on top of this you're doing something like flatly refusing to participate in sexual acts. But in any case, it's definitely something you should get checked out, it can be linked to other health issues.
  • hey absolutely: I have been abusing you (tongue in cheek) truth is many of my friends in their 40- and up have ED. Don't you still have the urge? I may be a sex adict but in my late 50's I don't go a week without sex,luckily my wife is of the same mind. If you don't have the desire there's no sense in taking remedies, they won't help. Sorry I made a joke obout your situation. Look at Adam and Eve .com for a special gift for your wife. It may turn you on too.
  • Im glad my S/O doesnt haveyour problem!
  • It sounds pretty selfish to me. You expect your wife "to cool her jets". I expect your wife might decide to find some action elsewhere.
  • (i) Does she accept your ED as a problem? (ii) Is she okay with non-penetrative sex? Do you think she might look elsewhere for gratification? (iii) Does your ED have a physical or psychological cause, and are you under treatment for it -- not the ED but the CAUSE of it? (iv) How long have you had this difficulty, and what was your sex life like earlier? (v) Apart from the sexual aspect, do you and your wife have a loving relationship?
  • If you're not willing then you should let her find men who will
  • Yeah you are being just a little selfish, you should at least attempt to get the problem fixed. Otherwise you better be careful, she might find someone who can perform ;o)
  • kind of especially if its contagious
  • Yes you're being selfish. Just because your penis doesn't work doesn't mean you can't have intimacy with your wife and please her with or without taking pills.

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