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  • Hi Jen, for me its almost instinctual. Its really hard to explain. When they were born, I was just overwhelmed with wanting to love them and protect them like nothing else I'd ever felt before. I also have a certain bond with my kids where I know if they are hurt, even if they are halfway around the world. Its weird, but I just know.
  • No, it's not really explainable. It just takes over.
  • They are your family. I would do anything for my kids, they look like you, and you spend an immense amount of time with them. You should have one Icy, they are awesome:)
  • You just have to be a parent to know the love. ~.~
  • I watched my Son grow up and work hard to accomplish what he has. Since he is Autistic he had to work much harder than most people for all his accomplishments. I would sacrifice almost anything for his benefit. I love him more than me. I feel great joy when he does. My Son is very bright about what is important to him. His Teachers adore him. People that don't understand him make ignorant judgments . He is my first priority always. A mother's love is unconditional. I look at his adorable face and I see love. My Husband feels the same. I would do anything to protect him .
  • If you want a rational explanation, it is in the genetic mammalian makeup to reproduce and care for young. As a human parent this is a part of it. it is driven by our genetic makeup. The cry of a baby is designed to stimulate the protective instinct.We are programmed to nurture them. There is also the fact we are emotional beings and in all those of normal mentality there is a drive to care for and protect helpless vulnerable offspring. There is a bond formed during this helpless time that continues into adulthood. Our children remain our children even when they are grown.
  • I don't think there is another love like it in the world. It is the strongest bond I know. Even stronger for me than the bond I have with my husband. I would give my life for my kids. They are that important to me. They can screw up continually but I can't ever stop loving them. I'm happy when they're happy and I hurt when they hurt. Even when they do the stupidest things and have to pay the consequences for their actions, you still hate to see them suffer. Even when you know it's for their own good. One of the hardest things in the world to do is to sit and watch them make mistakes and not rush in to rescue them. As someone else said, it is an instinctual love. One that just takes over you. I know there are parents in the world that don't have that feeling but the vast majority of us do. You've heard the expression, "A child, only a mother could love." There are some people who are very unlovable but they still have a mother somewhere who loves them. :-)
  • Each of your children, regardless of how many you have, is a little part of you, and a little part of your spouse too, and if you love your spouse, this makes them even more loveable. And these little people start out totally helpless and completely dependent upon you. As they grow, they begin to venture out on their own, and if everything works the way it should, eventually claim the independence that is their birthright. As they grow, you rejoice with them, hurt for them, cry with them, and are happy to see them strong and healthy and on their own, but sad as well, because you will miss them so. It's rather like God must feel about us; you want to protect them, but you know that to do so will prevent them from growing into the human adults they were destined to be.
  • It is biology. Can't explain it other than it is instictive and immediate.....(there are exceptions, of course).
  • I know you are close to your dad. He can explain it best.
  • They love you thats why they do that stuff for you! dont feel bad, have a great night icy!
  • I was once ready to use a law I vehemently disagree with to protect my son from the unstable influence of his mother... luckily she ended up agreeing to give up her maternal rights so I did not have to compromise my code. I can not imagine not having him in my life... durring my work as a human guinneapig I missed him constantly even though I knew he was in good hands with his nana. I am so glad I do not have to share him with my ex... and even more glad that she can not harm his upbringing.
  • Nope, I can not explain it, I can tell you that it is unlike anything you can imagine. +5
  • It's complete unconditional love. Like no other it changes you it really does inspirational! :¬} +6 Icy
  • It is very complicated and very hard to explain for you to understand. You have to become a parent to fully understand this love for your own kids. All I can say The only Love above that love is is God's Agape Love for you.
  • It's sometimes laziness that people claim as parental love. The whole give them anything or keep them happy at all times is an example of that. Real parental love is actually biologically selfish. The instinct is to insure you offspring survive and reproduce, this means preparing them for both the joys and hardships of real life not just catering to them to keep them happy. As a law enforcement officer I get to clean up the body parts of the parents that “love” their kids so much they let them, talk back, disobey, and generally act badly without physical consequence. You get these ridicules people that talk about spanking only teaches violence but, if a cop orders a suspect that maybe otherwise innocent to do something and they don’t there will be a physical consequence and I haven’t even mentioned the criminal element that will beat up or worst kill that child for running of at the mouth. Yet all the parents of the kids I’ve buried because they where unaware that there are physical consequences to your actions in the real world say they loved them and raised them with love. Well now they put that love on their tombstones as failed parents. Don’t make the same mistake better your kids hate you but be alive to do so than love you in ignorant bliss and end up in the grave before they graduate. +3
  • I am a step mum to a guy 11 years younger than me lol. But I instant message every week, just for a chat, his father fails to keep in touch, but I care for him a lot and want to know he's ok, he's brill and I love him to bits +5

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