ANSWERS: 29
  • Someone told me that when you're 50, that's when you have the best sex of your life. You still got time. :D One thing I would imagine one to learn in said condition is to live for the moment...of course, if you're still with your wife, that may be a problem, am certainly not encouraging anything further than that.
  • max respect dude, you stuck with ur beliefs, and for so long. dang, no, i dont think you should have done anything differently, hell, who gives a rats --- if u are still a virgin...if thats the case... I'm a virgin and i dont plan on changing it until i am with the one that i am going to be spending the rest of my life with. not religious reasons, i just choose to keep it that way. but again, ur choice was fine. thumbs up. ...but, if ur that worried about it, i can order a rape hit on you...lol, kidding.
  • whats to regret. just start over. tell your next lover you are a virgin. begin again.
  • I would say please don't regret your decision. You are a role model for abstinence. You also pleased The Lord. You also did not end up with any STD. You did not have to agonize over a women trying to decide whether to adopt or abort your child. You also saved yourself for your wife. I do not think you could have made a better decision. I wish I had saved my virginity like you did. +5
  • A shame you feel time was wasted. I'm not religious myself, but it always confused me why God would give one free will, and then lay down law after law that basically states that you can't enjoy your life, or live it with free will. I sometimes think it's Atheists like myself who genuinely live life with free will, as opposed to the very people who claim God gave it to them. I'm not trying to have a go, it's just strange to me that God would not want you to enjoy your life, whether that be a life of sex, or a life of knitting, it doesn't matter, one should do what one enjoys, I'm sure God would understand. Although I'm of the belief that if God existed, he'd definitely have a sense of humour, and certainly would never want to be worshipped.
  • I'm glad I didn't wait. I didn't want to sleep with a lot of people but I did want to know what kind of differences I could expect before I got married. I only slept with three people but I'm glad I did. Plus it means I KNOW my hubby is great in bed. =) ;)
  • I can understand what you mean. I don't regret not being a virgin when i got married. Its mean't i can be true within my marriage without regret or wondering 'what if?'. You've made your decision though so unless you wanted to devalue your marriage there isn't much you could do about it.
  • We all have things we would like to do over, but my advice is not to dwell on this matter. Afterall, regardless of whether you did the right thing or not, you can't go back in time and change things, can you? But may I just say that I am not religious and I didn't wait for marriage to lose my virginity, but I did wait for LOVE, and I have no regrets about this, even though the relationship ultimately ended. Since then, due largely to broken heart and confusion, I've slept with a woman I didn't love, and I most certainly regret that. Sex for sex's sake is a much emptier than lovemaking, and isn't anything to pine over, if you've been fortunate enough to avoid slipping in to it, IMHO. You spend the rest of your life wondering how you can ever truly express your love to a special woman, once you've used your most intimate gesture just for the sake of using it. I would say you're lucky to not have such a dark cloud haunting you, but I'm not saying that your wrong for wishing otherwise. To each his own...
  • You regret being honorable? Things that make you say "Hmmmmmm...."
  • We'd all do a lot of things differently, if "we knew then what we know now". You have nothing to regret. I had two "one-night-stands" in my life, one at 20 or 21, before I met my first girlfriend. Now, I don't regret that happening, but it was exceedingly unsatisfying for me. And the second (when my 1st GF and I were broken up) was even worse. Sure there were girls I fantasized about having other "short-term" relationships, but it doesn't bother me that I never had them. I found I wanted a relationship with the sex. You did it the right way for you. You, it sounds like, are going through a mid-life crisis. Go out and buy a "man toy" and I don't mean a hooker. And DO NOT regret what's gone before.
  • I think you've got it right now :) +5
  • Well I was a virgin when I got married and never regretted it.
  • I think that you it is a fantastic thing that you would redo many aspects of your life, and be more liberal with your views. It is never to late to reform certain parts of our thinking. I say very good for you!! :)
  • I think we tend, no matter how well things have turned out, to never be satisfied with what we have done or achieved. . It is a personal decision and I think acting according to your principles is not something to regret. . On the other side of the issue, my first was a married woman who married the first guy who showed interest in her and at thirty she started feeling she had rushed into things and missed out on her "youth". (quotes because at 48 it now seems silly for me to say that at thirty you are past your youth ;D). . I can't help wondering if this isn't the reason for a lot of cheating?
  • What difference would that make? YOu mean you could have done it with few guys before getting married. So what? You think you missed some fun?
  • That's a very personal thing for you; I don't think anything.
  • I think that religion gets in the way of you living your life.
  • You are regretting your decision, why? Because you are still married and have had only one lover?
  • Looking back, many of us may regret one thing or another. The fact is, it can't be changed, so to dwell on it not is not usefull. On the other hand, are you in a loveless or sexless marriage? If so, you could take steps to change that...
  • I'm thinking it's about time to feed and walk the dog. I'm thinking many people often regret what they did not do as well as what they did. I'm thinking it is mostly a waste of time and I'm thinking you do not have it to do all over again so any worry and care that you have you may want to direct towards the future as to what can be done intead of the past. +5
  • Duh, what do you think happens when you discipline yourself past human nature and emotion.........
  • so this kind of proves my thoughts... it's better to regret something you did. then something you didn't do.
  • I think that religion gets in the way of you living your life.
  • I think that you're just wondering what you missed out on. You wanna know what you missed out on? Having sex with women just to shatter their hearts in the end. Well, maybe. You must be doing something right if you still have your wife and she is the first person you had sex with, even though she's had sex before.
  • You can't go back. Stop thinking about it. It's unhealthy.
  • Never regret the past, you made decisions thats all that counts, at least you made them; ask anybody whos stuck with herpes if they regret there decisions
  • Differently because simple task that your doing alone will be taken by your child. . The creator gave you seed but you refuse to plant them, to let them grow fonder. . and tha you'll never asking this question exactly as of todays date. . .
  • Hmmm. That just doesn't sound right. That's like someone saying, "I never used heroine when I was younger, and now I regret that. I wish I would have tried it when I was a teenager." What? Do you wish you would have gotten some girl pregnant when you were 17? Or picked up herpes? What would be the benefit of not being a virgin when you were married? I mean, an orgasm feels the same if you are 17 and single or if you're 25 and married.
  • I wish i had waited cause all i do is compare him too my other lover.

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