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  • In this day and age of zero tolerance you really have, unfortunately, no choice but to go to his school and raise some hell. If he handles it himself he will get into trouble, most certainly, and if he does not the trouble will continue anyway. Yet one more reason to homeschool if possible.
  • I did. I was the one getting bullied. And I tried for years to handle it by myself. It didn't work. In fact it made it worse. And I became horrible ill from it. You need to find out whose doing this and go talk to each and every parent. If these kids see that your serious enough to go to the source they will leave him alone. And call each and every parent if he comes home like that again. And if all else fails call the cops and file a report.
  • I enrolled my son in karate classes, but it is more expensive than I anticipated
  • i was the new kid and was getting picked on and i was living with my mom at the time so no fighting was the rule. so i took it and when i came home battered brused and bloody she asked what happend and i told her and she said well ill call the school in the morning i said give me one week to do it my way and if i cant handle it you can. we agreed that i had 5 days to do it. so the next day i picked off the strongest and worked my way down till no one messed with me. just what i did. and yes i did get in trounle for fighting by the teachers and staff. but the kids either respected or feared me. a little of both i think. but it was worth the trouble from the staff and the bad rep by the kids
  • well im 14 and i live in the ghetto u noe many kids always being bullied here i would frist try to talk it out if not then i guess i woul giv em a gudd beating lol
  • I hope the school he attends has an anti-bullying policy in place. I would certainly take it to the teachers and demand it is dealt with. No child should have to deal with this kind of abuse, even if they say they want to deal with it, it doesn't mean that they are able to. It is just him against several- in many cases bullies have the back-ups of others because they are cowards.
  • My son is been bullied to.The only thing to do is to go and see there parents.If they dont do anything go to the police and get them charged for hitting your son.
  • Well the question is what does he want to do to handle it himself? if its anything that will result in him getting hurt then your the parent right dont let it happen go to the principal with him and MAKE SURE something happens that there is a complete stop to it otherwise go to option.2 and call the police.
  • My daughter had an identical situation. she was 13. she rode the school bus every day. my daughter wore dog tails forever. one girl, that sat behind her on the bus, could not resist pulling my daughters dog tails. it really got out of hand. i advised my daughter to talk to this girl, first. this did absolutely no good. my daughter moved to another bus seat and the girl followed, still pulling her hair. i knew what was coming. One summer afternoon, after a hot school bus ride home, my daughter walked into the house and said, "dad, i took care of the bus problem today". i was afraid to ask HOW?? She said, "she pulled my hair for the last time. i waited until she followed me to the door of the bus, i stepped off first and then i let her have it. her glasses went one way and her body rolled down the hill". "was she hurt?". "no, but she will not pull my hair, anymore". Sometimes, it comes down to this. you can talk to the parents, you can talk to the child, but it the end, it sometimes has to happen this way. I do not endorse what happened, but my daughter was never bothered again.
  • i had that problem well since he is a boy i think u should put him in boxing classes i did boxing for a couple yrs off and on and took kick boxing as well not only will he not get beat up but he will have confindence in himself and he will like it too i hope every is good for u let me know
  • I was picked on sence i was a little child...and i took it...cause going to the teachers mad it worse....and talking to the parents...well most parents believe their child to be an angel.....see i am 300lb and 6'3 been like this sence i was 14...I am passive aggressive.... i took the name calling till my junior year in high school.....(the telling just made it worse) i had a policy though....call me names okay...touch me....no way.... well junior year i got fed up with it and told my self i am not gonna be a senior and be picked on.... well one day it came to an head and this little guy kicked me in the head....well that was all it took for me to stand up for my self....I beat the kid for all the years he had bullied me....then there on out...when someone attemped to bully me....I took care of my business in a timely fashion.....my senior year was the best years of my life....what i am saying is...it's not if you lose or win....it's the fact that you shown that you would not take it....people will rest you for it....all you can do as a parent is to let him grow up...you can not protect him....he must learn that bullying is wrong...and that talking sometimes works but if that doesn't work...resort to plan B....butt kicking... and i assure you....he will be a better man for handleing his own business.....deep down you don't always want your son to need his mother to do his hard work.....he must fly away sometimes...and if you done a good job...he will always return...
  • As a mother of two boys I tell them let them touch you first and then let all hell break lose. Boys especially need to learn to defend themselves,but also have respect for the situation at hand if the abuse from the other child in verbal let it roll off you back that will bother the other party really bad,but if it comes down to someone touching one of my children they have be taught they have every right to defend themselve no matter what the consciences is from school or police or other parnets it is called selfdefense for a reason
  • Unfortunately, bullies only respond to violence. If the principal or teachers can't do anything about the problem, he'll need to do it himself. I was bullied constantly all through middle school. The day that I stood up to the leader and fought back was the day I earned their respect. It's not fun, but it's a necessary evil.
  • If your son was injured on school property, it is the schools responsiblity to handle the situation. In my daughters' schools they have an anti-bully program that was created by the PTA. It took alot of work to get it in place, but it works. If anyone is the victim of bullying, they must report it immediately to a teacher, principal, counselor or nurse. If there are children that see bullying happening, they must get help immediately or they are punished as if they had been guilty of bullying as well. It's very much like the good samaritan law- no one is allowed to ingore a person in need of help. Bully's are immediately suspended and not allowed to return to school until they have sought counselling or therapy. The incident is also put on their permant record, and if there was severe injuries police are contacted and charges are pressed. As parents, we have expectations that our children are safe in their learning institutions. If I were in your shoes, I'd go to the principal right away and I would also attend the next PTA meeting and demand an anti-bullying program. I can promise you that your son is not the only victim.
  • Call the principal -- it's his JOB to make sure that law and order are maintained on his campus, your son's ego be damned. Either that, or tell your son to round up all his friends, and all other the kids who've been victim of said bully, have them corner him one fine day, and beat him hollow...
  • Tell him to fight back. Just make sure you got his back though and will not yell at him. Just because it would make your kid real cool in school and if you call the principle...well...everyones gonna think your sons a little girl...then the whole school will know that he has to rely on his father/mother to get him out of situations...please dont call the school...his rep will be shot down...just make sure you got his back.
  • take your son out if he wonts to handle it himself let him take him to places were he will meet teens that he dosnt know
  • Happened to me when I was a kid. The only thing that relieved it was getting together a gang of kids to hang around with so noone would mess with me. If there's some way you can encourage this for your kid, this might be a good strategy. Intervening directly might only make the situation worse, it's true. Mostly you'll have to coach your child on how to handle these situations. Besides that, you can talk to the school about increasing supervision in the kinds of areas where your child is being pushed around. Mentioning things like the busted lip might help - the school is responsible for your child's welfare and they should be preventing violence on school grounds.
  • The Good Reverend Soleil summed it up nicely. You boy doesn't want you intervening, because it will embarrass him in front of the others. At 13, he has plenty of time to recoup the embarrassment of your intervention. If you allow him to get picked on, he may get backed into a corner and feel forced to resort to a tool of some kind (sharp stick, rock, knife etc...)... Another alternative is to find out who the bully's parents are, and have a chat with them. 9 times out of 10 you'll find that they had no idea, and they'll set their little tyrant straight. (I've done this one).
  • Probably the most useful answer here will be mine: I was bullied at school, and I have always tried to handle it myself, I now wish that my parents had taken a bigger step to helping me. What I would recommend is going way past your normal parenting behaviours and actually talk with his aggressor's parents at THEIR Houses, without your child, or his permission, and this cannot be a one time thing, if it is going to stop make sure you threaten their parents with police action and report every suspicious bruise or cut to the school system. I wish my parents had gone this far, although if they had i wouldnt have forgiven them for up to a year! Still, I believe this is the only solution, bullying is a big problem and must be dealt with very strictly. (By the way, I am 16 years old giving this advice)
  • well i would talk to there parents then princlepal and if that dont work have someone else take care of they person bulling ur son dont let him keep doing it cause if u do then it will hauton him forever put him in boxing classess teach him how to fight but dont let them keep bulling him..
  • This will not be a popular answer... but WHY hasn't someone taught your son how to throw a proper right cross? No kid should EVER have to be hit and take it. In fact, if he were my son, I would encourage him to knock the bully out BEFORE bully threw the first punch. Sure, he might get the crap kicked out of him afterwards, but guess what? After that, no one will remember that the bully beat him up -- they'll remember that the little kid gave the bully a bloody nose. And he will be respected. Downrate away.
  • let him tp thier house! then send him to scholl with a used roll
  • what would you do if you were the one being bullied? tell him to do that.if thats not a good idea or he wont do it, do it for him!
  • speakin as a young teen myself, i think you should allow him to handle it himself. as bad as it might seem at times, sometimes we have to make our own decisions and make our own mistakes. i understand its hard for all you parents to see ur kids get beat up and stuff but it IS a learning process[as ridiculous as it may seem to you]. tell him that next time it happens, he should hit the kid back and tell the kid that he WONT let himself be pushed around anymore. if it does get worse tho, as a last resort,then go to the principal. no kid likes to have their parent save them from a bully
  • im 16 yr old and i use to get bullied all the time .i was the quit one never said nonin to onebody just kept to my slef .intel to guys start saying stuff about me and goin around the school tell lies and it kept geting so bad ware i did not wnt to go to school anymore.intel i decide to try and take care off it my slef .so i had a fight with one of the guys and even tho it stoped for awhile .like a week latter it started all over again.but after my mom and dad wnt to the school and they had both my mom n dad and his parenets and they pulled the kids that wore bulling me around to the side and straighted things out and they never bother after that .so i would say talk to him b4 so that he dnt he dont get in to a fight and exspecily if he dont know if he can take on who ever it is then i would try to talk to him. and expalian that there is a way of doin it ware nobody gets hurt and the probley will soon go away .
  • My son also wanted to deal with it on his own at that age - until five kids chased him home from school. We called the school and the police. The police went to school and brought in the boy and the parents. It is now called harassment. It is a fineable offense and the school is liable if they have been informed and do nothing about it. All your son has to do it tell the kids to stop harassing him and tell a teacher. If nothing is done, go higher. Bullies who are not stopped just get stronger and worse.
  • Bullying isnt nice to happen to any one, mt best friend from high school was bein bullied, so she took up judo lessons and stopped hangin around the people who were doing the bullying, you could speak with the head of school or the parents. M aybe you should meet ur son after school, maybe he could do another walk home route, maybe he could ask the teachers to let him away early, try these hope they work tc x godbless
  • If you are being bullied here are some great video links for you. Look learn practice everyday & destroy the bully. Join Muay Thai or MMA School. links: Bas Rutten Street Defense - The Better Version http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D3K-mrlYG7Y Bas Rutten Self Defense Crash Course http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNXRInrSSVU&feature=related Baz Rutten Self Defense Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hhKwtWzWE1I&feature=related Baz Rutten Self Defense Part 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eN-dTZ3fLQk&feature=related Baz Rutten Self Defense Part 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1jvCxc3CX_Y&feature=related Martin Day Demonstrates Unarmed Combat Techniques http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhcyR6eoqWk Quick method to win Army fighting skills http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pj991GIiPps&feature=related Royal Marines unarmed combat demonstration http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkV_50UBYbg&feature=related Marines Teach Combat Skills http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2c7IR585wOw&feature=related Strength Training Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_t2xHmEFJpg&feature=related Strength Training Part 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gxd17J5i15I&feature=related Buy all Mark Hatmakers martial arts book collection the No Holds Barred it covers everything. Look up Mark Hatmaker NHB Books on Amazon.com
  • Well; since it has become PHYSICAL .. I'd be marching him into the principal's Office and asking him/ her what they are going to do about it ... Physical Abuse is Assult and Battery ; a CRIMINAL Offense. I'd remind the school principal of this fact ... IF he does not pay any attention to you or blows you off ; then go to the Superintendt of your School System ... advise him if the principal cannot control his school ; that a LAWSUIT will be forthcoming ... The more of a stink you make , the more they will do to apease you .... In the meantime, call your local newspaper and see if you can get a reporter to come out and do a story on that schools BULLYING etc .... They don't have to use your child's name ... Get some publicity going and you will see how fast they do something ... Best of Luck !!
  • We went to the school and to their houses to tell their parents. We informed the school and the parents if it didn't stop we would get the police involved. It was 3 girls onto my little girl for a number of weeks. The bullying eventually stopped.
  • i WAS that kid growing up ... my mother MADE me deal with it myself, she took me to judo lessons and i took care of it myself, the next time she took care of it ... she shouldn't have done ... let him take care of it ... get him some lessons in something like judo, not only does it teach them to take care of things, but it will build his confidence and teach him more respect and ... it really turned me around

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