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  • Her house-her rules
  • 18 is a legal adult. But, if you are legal adult, she doesn't have to let you stay in her house if you don't follow her rules. 21 just gives you the right to drink and gamble.
  • I would say that 18 is grown.
  • sorry dude im gonna have to go with your mom... please don't lose me points! it's just an opinion!
  • 18 is legal adulthood but it's her house and you need to follow her rules. If you can't it's time to move out and provide for yourself. I would say the same thing if you were 25.
  • well at 18 you are legally responsible for your actions and or debts. before that your parents could be held responsible. but remember, moms are always right not matter what. and if you do live in her home then she can expect you comply with her wishes.
  • 18 is the magic number.
  • If your mom says 35 is the age of adulthood within her own house, she can. 21 is the legal drinking age in the USA. Each state has set their own age of majority to allow people to contract, leave home legally, and consent to things that children cannot consent to. Hon, as long as you live with mom, you must respect that you live in her home and she may make the rules.
  • congratulations on your impending adulthood, you are about to leave your childhood behind forever. maturity is based not so much on the numbers of years you've been alive as on your actions and responsibility. you have a whole year ahead of you to "show" (not tell) your mom you deserve to be considered an adult. stop arguing with her, clean up after yourself and offer to help pay for rent, heat and groceries. get a job and pay for all your own necessities (soap, shampoo, clothes, music, insurance) without mentioning it to her. go to school, get the best grades you can, stay out of trouble, respect the rules she's set for living in HER house, and be polite. THEN you will be on your way to earning the privilidge of being respected as an adult.
  • If it's her house then she's right.
  • My family, ( my wife, my daughters and I ), pretty much have the opinion that your an adult when you act like an adult and not a child. My daughters sort of grew up early - both emotionally and physically, and when they became 16 years old they knew, ( because my wife and I told them so ), that if you act like an adult and take on adult responsibilities we will regard you as an adult and treat you as one. Well, they did that - and my wife and I started to treat them as adults at about that age. Surprisingly neither one of them gave us any reason to doubt our decision....and frankly their mother and I could not be more proud of the two of them than we already are. Anyway - that was our house - your home is most likely different...at any rate, if it's your mothers house you have to play by her rules and not yours...that's just the way it is...and it doesn't matter if your 18 or 38 years old - in her house she is the queen - and you must do as she says.
  • 18 may be the age of legal accountability but it is obviously not the age of making your own decisions while you are living in your parent’s home. Your mother is right to set the limits and when you feel those limits and rules are beyond your ability to comply...move out and exercise your right to set your rules in your home! (If you are too grown to follow your parent’s rules live on your own and make your own rules, which seems simple enough).
  • You guys are both idiots. Ages are arbitrarily placed by society. Two mature people, regardless of age, living together, will strive to get along. Of course, as you grow older what you can legally do changes; this does not make you an adult. Furthermore, just because something is legal does not mean it will not cause strife in cohabitation. Beyond this, your mom will tell you what to do until the day one of you die; be thankful for it. She may be an inarticulate ass incapable of expressing her profound concern for your wellbeing; but she cares. The reality, specific to your question is that she is the responsible party for the house and those that live there. Mature cohabitants will work out issues for the best equity of all. Remember, living at home is not the real world; if you rented an apartment, you would still have a landlord to answer to. If you owned a home you would have yourself to answer too. You would be ultimately responsible for the wellbeing of all the inhabitants and the property.
  • as long as you live in her house you have to go by house rules.. well.. wich can cover about everything.. so.. you have to go by any rule she makes.
  • At 18, you can legally move out on your own. However, if you remain in your parents' home, you must go by their rules. SOME parents relax those rules (curfew, chores, etc.) for 18yos, but some don't. By the same token, realize that the "chores" you would be doing, most of the time, would have to be done in your own place. AND, if that's all they are asking (not rent, not buy your own food and supplies), then you are VERY well off.
  • You are an adult the moment you are able to move out of the house and support yourself. That's usually anywhere between 18 and 28. As a dependent, you are morally bound to obey her until then. Don't like it? MOVE OUT. I'm sure she won't mind.
  • i'm having the same kinda problem but my i'm moving in with my dad when i turn 18. my mom says i'm still in school under her care. My step family says that i'm turning 18 and my counselor says that my mom can't do nothing, so i say yes you can move out at 18. i agree with you. hope this helps
  • Here in the UK you can move out at 16, but even so, if you live at home, you follow your parents rules, they are there for a reason. It's your Mums house, she pays the mortgage and bills, it's not a walk in the park being a home owner and parent, so you need to give her a bit of respect.
  • unfortunately you could be at moms house when you're 50 and you'll end up doing what your told. Hopefully you'll be moved out by then ;)
  • Whoever pays the largest share of the mortgage/rent, sets the rules. So unless you are going to take over paying all the household bills, your mom is right regardless of your age.
  • I think the saying "as long as you live under my roof..." applies here, particularly if you are not paying rent and contributing to utility and grocery costs. Regardless of the legal definition of an adult, it is your mother's home and she retains the right to impose any rules or restrictions she likes. The positive aspects of living at home ( mainly being much cheaper than going it on your own) comes with the loss of some personal freedom. Despite a great relationship with my parents (and the fact I'm 35) I could not imagine returning to the nest, but sure do miss the days when the bills were taken care of for me!!
  • Once you turn 18, living with your parents is no longer a right, it's a priviledge. Some parents charge rent to their adult children. If your mother is only asking for respect and obedience, I'd say that's a bargain.
  • Sorry son. If you live in your mother's house, she rules. No ifs, ands, or buts. I don't care if you're 65.
  • I partially agree with julioh. Well it could have been said without name calling. I believe neither of you are right. Being an adult(or being grown as you said) has nothing to do with age. If you have to ask if you are and adult most likely you are not. When you are capable of being responsible not only for yourself but for those around you is the first step to becoming an adult. That is my personal belief.
  • Im 18 and i don't need to listen to my mum but i do because she is feeding me and keeping my under her roof and you should too.
  • If someone else is supporting you, then have you to follow their rules. Also...if you're still worrying about getting in trouble with you're mom, then you're not quite grown yet.
  • Look on the bright side: Someday when your mom is in her 80's and living with you, you can tell her, "My house - My rules." :-)
  • i think youre right but maybe you should move out so you dont have to go by her rules
  • For most legal purposes, 18 is considered an adult in the US. However, if you are living with your parents, you still must follow their rules.
  • As long as you are in her house you abide by her requirements. If you do not like this then move out into your own place. It isn't a matter of rules it is a matter of respect. I left home when I was 15, yet even after being married (not at 15) when ever I visited my mother's home I respected her "rules" even when I was in my 60s. Always respect your parents. My mother is gone now and I am 79 but if I went to her home today I would still respect her and her rules laid down so many years ago. You need to do the same.

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