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  • Totally. I would also be bothered if my girlfriend had a book of every boy she has slept with and their ratings.
  • Yeah... that is a bit too much! Rating them on sex where is the emotion and connection? I think that book would exist in early or first time relations. I can't imagine a grown man having a book like that!
  • Yeah, especially if I got a bad rating;) http://encefalus.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/YouSuck.jpg
  • You know, I have surprised myself in that it actually wouldn't bother me. While it would definitely bother me if I had only recently got with him, and while it may probably lead me to ditch him before we get too involved; we've been together a little over 18 months now and I know what hes like. I trust him and I would put it down to immaturity. Something he grew out of. Besides, his book would be pretty small. That helps!
  • Only if I didnt get full marks :P
  • I would find it disturbing that he didnt value them as humans, but actually rated them like show animals. That would be the end of that relationship for me.
  • depends...if he had stopped keeping track before or when he met me so that i wasn't in the book, i'd chalk it up to immaturity and assume he's grown up...if i were in the book, i'd hurt him and if i were in the book with others entered after me, he'd die a long a torturous death...
  • Yes, but I'd still be feverishly searching for MY rating. And if it was a really long list of girls, I'd be visiting my dr. to be checked for STDs.
  • I would certainly confront him about it. Are you in the book as well? What is your rating compared to the others? And after he has answered, kick his ass out.
  • Yes - most especially the part where he rates them.
  • I would laugh like crazy and ask him if he was writing a fantasy.
  • For a minute...then I'd be calling him my ex.
  • Not at all -- as long as I was ranked #1 -- 100%!!
  • Which volume?
  • That is ssooo funny...whats he doing...writing a biography of a man-whore? Make up your own book...put in a bit of fantasy...and leave it for him to read...
  • haha I saw one of those by accident in my husband's things. He'd asked me to retrieve a letter he wrote and give it to his mother when he was deployed. The names were listed in chronological order...the thing that bugged me was my name wasn't the last one entered. I am a huge believer in privacy so I never told him I saw it. I can laugh about it now but it was pretty hard to deal with at the time.
  • I already had that boyfriend. It didn't bother me then because we were both in our early twenties. Anyone past that age has issues.
  • It would bother me a great deal. I'm a straight guy.
  • you can find those?
  • GOD yes... I'd wonder what rating he would actually give me
  • nah they are in the past... i am his present and that is what counts ! +5
  • I would put it down with out looking.
  • if he had done it before we were involved I wouldn't care. If i found out he had done it after he was in his early 20's i would question his maturity and what he based people's value on.
  • Ahh- I wouldn't be going through his things in the first place but if it ended up in my stuff through moving or whatever that would really bug me. +3
  • I would feel that maybe he wasn't the type of person I would like to spend my time with.
  • It would bother me that I was spending time with them.
  • Yes, because obviously he is a player and damn proud of it!
  • yes..it would bother me how petty,vain and egotistical ,he is....he'd be dropped, i would not want to be in 'his book'
  • I figure the past is the past. I want a future with this lady so I would concentrate on the present.
  • dude? what kind of man would keep a book like that?
  • Sure as heck would bother me. I would hope that I found it prior to my having sex with him this way I would not have to invest anytime in worrying about what type of STD his sorry ass could have given me!
  • The rating part is rather unattractive. I'd say it's a tad sociopathic. Is he forgetting these are people, not meals at some restaurant?
  • No, because he has told me about most of them, and that no matter who he was with, he always thought about me. None of them have a higher rating than I have had for the last 40 years.
  • Why should it, if he has no STDs? They are the past. UNLESS, of course, your name is in it, and you have a low rating! ;-)
  • This is more a question for a girl to answer, but it would bother me, but in a different way than you might think. I think it might show some sort of imbalance that goes beyond emotional, I mean, why the heck would a person keep track of those sort of statistics? It would make me wonder what other things he considers "important" in the back of his mind.
  • Kinda. Not terribly. I wudnt b mad. Jus kinda... i dont know
  • Id put it in his pocket and set it on fire!!! Someone who keeps a book of people and their ratings is alil creepy, what a sad case :/
  • As others have said, age is a factor. If he wrote these things while he was a teen and it's been a while since he added any new entries, then consider it a childish pursuit from his past. But if the book is current, that would be a cause for concern.
  • hmm intriguing... i think id just be in shock lol
  • ONLY IF HE WILL LET ME SHOW HIM MY BOOK COLLECTION OF THE SAME SUBJECT. LOL
  • I think, if the book were detailed enough, it might prove to be a valuable tool. I mean, Missionary gets an average of 3 out of 5, but Reverse Cowgirl gets a steady 5.5 down the line... That's useful information. Jus' sayin'.
  • If he was over the age of 22, yes.
  • Seems a little obsessive..... :S
  • LoL! I would find a book of 1 person....that was 10 years ago. lol...Naw it wouldnt bother me cuz I know her. LOL. (kinda) But...THEN AGAIN. I think it might bother him if he found a book of mine. (which I dont have anymore) I had the name, my rating, their size...and style. ...and a list that had a few names that got crossed off?...:S Me so bad...
  • ..uh yea..i probably wouldn't be with the guy..its disgusting to me
  • I don't think I would really care, as long as I was in the book and had the best rating haha. But seriously I don't think it would be a big deal, it was the past and I know I have some things in my past that don't make me any better a person than my gf. Neither of us ever made a big deal about ex's or things in our past...We're all young and stupid once. We are all who we are because of the people and places we've been and things we've experienced, maybe some people just want to keep track and remember the past sometimes. I don't understand it but that doesn't make it wrong. But this actually did happen to my sister and man she was mad as hell at her hubby! She made him get rid of it and I think it's been 5 or 6 years and she still doesn't let him live that shit down.
  • I'd oretend it didnt bother but i'd probanly think about it...ha woldI rate in there..I wouldnt want any other girl seeing that about me...
  • Nope because he's told me all the "guys" he's slept with which was only 2. Yes that's right I am gay, but yeah he's only been with 2 others as I have been with one other and 3 girls. Yeiks that's a whole different story on another page of my life but yeah we know our sexual past we know our past partners past an we know were all good, everyone knows their boundaries relationship wise, it's just us to without the possibility of some asswhole trying to steel one of us away from each other. Good question sorry I ramble, and I'm pretty open too so that doesn't help ^^' anyways +4 :D
  • Well my rating better be high, at least.
  • Although I'm neither homosexual nor currently in a relationship I'd be bothered because I'd consider such a book to be both distasteful and indicative of other, more alarming characteristics (narcissism, superficiality, et al).
  • Their RATINGS? Do guys actually do this? All guys or just the jackasses? Seems kind of sick. Anyway, yes it would bother me to find out he possesed such a thing, but not the women he has been with. Without needing all the gory details we are aware of each other's sordid pasts.
  • I'd only be pissed, if he gave me low ratings! That SOB! ;) jk I don't think I'd be bothered. Seems pretty goofy...worthy of laughter actually.
  • Yes because that sounds really sleezy.
  • To be really honest - YES!! +++
  • It would not be nearly as interesting as how the girls rated him. Some years ago 2 sociology female students were in a great deal of trouble over a project. They slept with nearly every student in their class and then published a report. The named guys were rated on things like: technique, cleanliness, size, stamina, consideration, romance, courtesy, etc.
  • Nope because im his first :)
  • Well, I don't have a boyfriend. I'd probably be very surprised if the guy I'm interested in possessed such a book, though. Would it bother me? No. I accept his past. I might use it for useful information on how to please him in the future, though. ;] That's not to say I wouldn't be disappointed. I probably would be. Why? 'Cause people are people ... and it's not fair to rank people like that. He has more respect for other people than that and I know that. If he kept such a book, it would most likely only be in humour. That's just the kind of guy he is...or at least that's my impression.
  • As a guy, I think it's really sleazy to give girls ratings for how they're in the sack. And the other way round, too.
  • only if it bothers him to find the book of every guy I have slept with ...and, their ratings... : D HOW'S THAT, HA?? ; P
  • err yes!! what a creep...if that's all he bases girls off then he's got a lot of growing up to do!
  • I think it may bother me a little if I read about him sleeping with someone I knew as well I would never feel comfortable being in the same room with them. But I could use it as a tutorial. I mean he must like what we do in bed b/c he picked me to do the deed forever none of them so that says something.
  • Yeah! 'Cause it would tell me I'm with an "idiot" man with screwed-up priorities!
  • Yes, it would. It would mean he either didn't value me as a person [especially if I were in said book], and also by the fact he actually was keeping track of those stats, instead of the emotional side of the relationship.
  • no... he could make it up to me with a few stds or something special like that
  • i wouldn't even open the book. all i would want to know is that they're all in the past and stay there.
  • no but id be pissed if i wasnt number one.
  • My question is: does the book BELONG to your current boyfriend?
  • I would want him to organize my closet!
  • Since he has only slept with me, I hope its a good rating!
  • the thing that would really bother me is the fact that I have a boyfriend, and am a heterosexual male... but, if I found the equivalent of that for my s/o, I don't think I would read it. so long as the person is free of STDs, their sexual history is their own business

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