I think, as a health professional, that she is entitled to offer that advice. It's a rare instance of good advice, if you ask me.

That is disgusting and an outrage. How dare she try and judge you like that? And anyway, you are 21, you have been old enough in the eyes of the law for 6 years. How DARE she. God I am fuming. Yes, call and complain, I would. The f*cking cheek of it!

Did she advise you to do it or tell you to do it? If she told you to do it I would complain. That is not her place to say that. If she was offering advice then I'd ignore it and assume she had my best interests at heart. I hope you are well now. I used plain chips kept right next to my bed and ate some before I ever got up. It helped a lot with the nausea. Good luck.

I agree. Notify the Chief of Staff and file a complaint of the nurse's unprofessional behavior. Her jobs is to tend to patients, not impose her opinions or beliefs on anyone. Call the Human Resources department at the hospital first and they'll direct you on what steps to take.

There is a federal program called "Title X" or Title ten and in this program, that nurse is supposed to cousel you on the three options that are available to you. I have them numbered but just for the sake of appearance, not in order of importance! 1. Parenting (keeping the baby) 2. Adoption 3. Abortion Please know that there is a lot more to adoption than most realize. If you have even the slightest interest in that, call an adoption agency and ask them questions. An open adoption is exactly that and many families want the biolgoical mother involved. If you don't want adoption as an option, that is etirely your decision and that decision belongs to no one else. I was not there so I do not know how she approached you but it is possible she was trying to tell you about the options and things to think about with an option such as adoption. I don't know. I mean, pregnancy can be a really hormonal time so is it possible you misinterpreted what she said? You can always complain to the hospital about her. Clearly, regardless of what she said, the interpretation is that you are upset and offended and you definitely have the right to complain.

It was unethical and crossed the line. Whether is was good advice or bad advice, makes no difference, she had no business offering any kinds of options even if she were asked.

Absoloutly agree. It is not someone elses place to say when you are ready to have a child. My mother was 20 when she had me. My boyfriends mother was 17 when she had him and he turned out awsome. If i was in your shoes, I would write a letter and make a phone call.

I would report her in a minute. It is none of HER business, even if you were 12, It would be none of her business. That sounds very strange to. I would be very careful about being around her when the baby is born. Please do report her. She may be PSHYCO!!

hey she definately needs reporting, no matter what your age she should keep her opinions to herself, she`s there to take care of patients not make them feel worse than when they walked in,

I feel for you. I would be pretty upset by the unasked for advice. Go through the proper channels to complain. But keep how she worded it in mind... was the nurse being a busy body, trying to be helpful, or was it stated rudely. You may hurt the nurses career, and perhaps it is needed.

That nurse was totally insensitive and stepped out of bounds. Actually it is'nt any of her buisness and he/she should'nt of gotten so personal. Reporting is totally up to you and how you feel. I'd probably let go and carry on with more important things.

If you were 15, then maybe I could understand it (although you were not at the hospital for pregnancy counselling!), at 21 you are an adult, and entitled to do whatever you like. I reckon you'll have a better time of it being a younger parent as you will adapt more easily than a 40 year old would. Good luck with your baby, and call to complain.

The nurse is completely out of her jurisdiction, telling you to give up the baby without due cause, as it is against two of the cornerstones of medical ethics, non-maleficence to the patient and respect of the autonomy of the patient. As to the complaining part, well I'm not well up on how the US system would work. However, I'd be willing to bet it would be her word against yours - hard to prove. If you did complain, I would imagine it may be investigated by the hospital, but if you are seeking financial compensation I very much doubt you could claim anything and the legal expenses could be very large, so I would advise against this. Although it can be a very significant factor, age is no absolute indication of suitability of parenthood itself - parents *can* be terrible at 40 or excellent at 16. At the age of 21 you are a legal adult anyway, and your decisions are entirely your own to make. I certainly don't think this is too young to have a child (my mum fell pregnant with me when she 21, and look how I turned out!). However, I don't want to completely discount the possibility that she was advising you rather than telling you and she just doesn't have a good way of speaking to people, or you misunderstood what she was trying to say - when people are dehydrated, confusion is extremely common and although you may have very strong and adamant opinions and feelings about what and how she said it, you should take this into account. If you are carrying a child inside of you, I'm sure you appreciate the great need to take the utmost care of both the baby's and your life as it grows. Being in a state of dehydration may have made this nurse think you weren't ready at the current time to handle the responsibility - and it is the greatest responsibility anyone can undertake. Certainly in the UK, such a case could be reported to social services if the medical staff thought that the health and welfare of the child (even unborn) were in significant danger. Obviosuly I don't know you, or the nurse, or the exact details of the incident, and so I can only offer my (partially informed) opinion, but I must tell you that I can understand both sides of the coin. I realise that such an answer may make you angry but I'm not going to take either side on this issue, without knowing more. My advice is not to do anything rushed without thinking it through completely - perhaps arrange (via the hospital if necessary) to speak in person with the member of staff - that way she can relay her concerns and why she said whatever she said, and if you did hear her right and it wasn't appropriate, the staff member in question can be dealt with in a suitable manner to make her realise she doesn't have the authrotiy to say such statements.

No nurse has the right to tell you to give your baby up for adoption. If this bothers you and your family definetly let the hospital know. This was not her place. You are more than old enough to have a baby as long as you can take on the responsibilities of a mother. When you see that precious baby, you will most likely do anything to make provisions for that baby. You will make adult decisions, and set good examples for your child. Don't let know one come between you and your baby. If you give up your baby, it will leave a very big scar in your heart.

I do not think they should be offering advice on how to handle your personal life. You went to the ER for a medical reason. Especially after reading your comments to other AB members, I feel you should complain. Nurses have no right to be telling you what you should do or shouldn't do when it comes to a situation like this. It kind of makes me a little suspicious, that a nurse would offer this kind of advice in an ER setting. Please immediately complain.

I had my first baby when I was 21, and have enjoyed it very much. Everything's going to be alright. Just make sure your lifestyle is right for your child. Don't ever get to the point where you have to give your baby up, you will definetly regret it.

well if she did know how old u were then u should deff complain but she could always use to herdefense tht she didnt know

a complaint may be in order either way, but i am curious: did she just throw out the adoption thing as a possibility or was she actually trying to convince you to do that? i could see telling somebody their options, but not telling them what i personally think they should do!

I know there are plenty of answers already to your question, but I just NEED to comment. I can't believe anybody (especially a qualified nurse) would have the cheek!! I am myself only 22 and due to give birth in 10 days... That nurse should be reported and fired!!!! Before she makes somebody else's life a misery as well...

I would definately call and complain she had no business telling you to give it up because you are to young. I would have just said to him/her that it is none of your business,just do your job and let me decide on how to raise my baby.good luck to you.

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it's not her place to give you advice or counsel like that. ignore the crazy nurse and do what you and your family agree is best for you and the baby.

You are not too young to become a Mother at 21. I worked in an ER for years, and have seen it all. Even if someone is young, and not married it is not the ER's responsibility to get involved in the life of your unborn baby. Their job was to hydrate you, and make sure you are well. I would write a letter to the Chief Of Staff, and the President of that Hospital.

I would definately complain to the hospital. A nurse should never let her personal opinion stand in the way of taking care of her patients in any way.

I think that it was cery rude of that person to say that to you and you shuld have the baby (If you really want him/her) and that you should complane.

Screw her! Don’t take that from anyone, she doesn't know you or your situation. Call and complain and firmly press it to see that she gets reprimanded. If it was my wife she might have popped her and then I would have had to say that the nurse slipped and fell.

I would complain. She had no right to say what she did. And somebody needs to know what a twit she is. I did it when I had a nurse's aid yell at me for putting a onesie on my son after he was born. She apologized to later for over stepping her bounds.

Age does not have a whole lot to do with having a child. As I delivered my first at the age of 16, I actually screamed, "I'm too young!!!!", at which point the Dr. said point blank, "yes you are, but it's coming anyway". That is so true of many things in our lives. If you feel that you are too young, then change it. get mature. I did and was/am a great mom. I love being a mom and that would not change, regardless of how old I was when each of my children were born. This nurse needs to be called on his/her thoughtless remarks and I am sure that the hospital would be interested in knowing that they had a nurse preaching their personal beliefs to patients. You have a right to privacy and this nurse absolutely negated that right. Make sure to follow through with more than one person and find out what was done to counter the issue.

Chh. I'd probably raise hell. You're damn well old enough to make your own decisions and in my opinion, definetly old enough to have a child. It's none of that nurses business and they were way out of line to suggest that. Their job is to medically advise you, and as long as you're healthy enough to have a baby, then they should've left you alone. I'd definetly file a complaint to someone.

remember that the nurse in the ER is only seeing a small snapshot of your life. The dehydration was a concern for both you and your child. And in a comment you made "he asked me if i was keeping the baby, my bf and i both said yes we were, and he said "well i suggest that you think of options, your too young to have a baby and it should go to someone who could take care of it." showed that concern. Now, tone of voice, rolling of eyes and other body language movements are value judgements. Wrong, but human. You should ask to talk to the director of Emergency Services and tell them your concern. Be calm, be rationale and be to the point. Remember that emergency rooms are often overly busy with literally thousand of people per week, so if it were an ongoing problem it should be stopped and the nurse terminated or a one time occurence a letter of apology. I pray that your child is born health to good parents and is loved as much as a child should be.

I agree this comment should never have been made to you. you are an adult and its your personal choice. I have to ask this question, are you a mature 21 year old adult? maybe, the nurse had a reason for making this statement. some people, even though old enough for beer or a pregnancy, may not be mature enough. could this have been the nurses logic behind her statement? i am on your side here, i am just wondering why she made the statement to you. There has to be a reason.

Holy jesus. I've never heard of anything like that!!! I agree with your family, call the hospital and file a complaint, I am outraged! what kind of damn nurse is that! The nerve to say that, what was she thinking! Go, go call the hospital and notify the right authorities.

YES. You should definitly do it. 21 is not to young to have a baby I had my first kid at 18 and everyone said they would of been mad at me if I would of given her up even a nurse and my doctor said that!

Yes, I would complain. The nurse's actions are contrary to medical ethics, not to mention rude. He needs to be censured to ensure he doesn't spout unwanted advice in the future. His actions could undermine or harm a more suggestible couple. After you complain, forget about him. Many people told me I was too young to marry. I'm still happily married, and many of them are not.

call that nurse in. she has no right to get into your personal affairs. she is there to do her job not tell you what you need to do with your life. the only thing she needs to give advice on is telling you to drink more water so you wont dehydrate. Good luck and congrats

You are not too young to have a baby. Obviously you are not to young to have sex... Many females have a baby before age 21, and everthing is fine. Don't listen to the nurse. I would definately call and complain. I would also send a formal letter of complaint to the hospital. Make sure you talk to the highest of the high when you call. Be sure to address the letter to this individual also. I hope that you are not planning on having your baby at this hospital?Lawsuit???

I think you should call and complain and make sure you know the nurses name to file a complaint make sure something is done!

I think I would just let it go for my own peace of mind. However, you can refuse her as your nurse if you are ever in that hospital again.

I would that is none of her business. Id tell her that is not her choice to make.

Based upon your other questions about your BF and his hot and cold attitudes regarding your relationship and pregnancy I wonder if something he or you said during your hospital stay alerted the nurse to say this. Did the nurse speak to your BF outside of your hearing and learn something he has not said to you? Did the nurse observe some activity by you BF (e.g. a cell phone call to another woman or the guys) which made him doubt his commitment? I am in the medical field and every employee is trained not to volunteer such advice or be overheard making such observations to a coworker. Therefore this incident was both unprofessional and unacceptable even if you asked the question, if not unlikely due to medical standards.

My wife and I were 20 and 21 when we had our first child. We married at 18 and 19. We have a great family, and some of the best memeries you could ask for. It is know ones place to tell you when your ready. You are an adult. I would complain.

DEFINATELY complain. I had my little girl when I was 17 [and no one has complained about my methods of parenting] I'd sue him... [if you can] but this Numpty of a nurse needs to be fired. Grrrr.

who cares what she thinks? what, is she gonna get fired? no.leave it alone. you have to learn to be a bigger person and not let what other people say affect you. youll probably never see her again in your life!

If I were you I would call & complain. She has no right telling you that. I wonder what she would tell me. I had my first son when I was 16 and my second one when I was 18, and i'm just 22 now. Don't worry what anyone says to you. If you are ready to become a mom, that is all that counts..

I think you should call and complain. It's not the nurses place to make judgement. Her job is to look after your health...not be a "parent" to you.

I would most definitely complain. I am a Medical Secretary and i KNOW FOR A FACT she has broken her Code of Conduct. She/he shud never ever voice their opinion without you asking for it. I would complain as she my offend other people and maybe its time she revised what the hell shes doing there in the first place!

they tried that with my sis in law she was 15 and the doctor had adoptive parents lined up already its disgraceful and too right you should make a formal complaint

OMG! She has broken her code of conduct, get her reported. Nurses like that do not deserve to care for people, she has the wrong attitude.

OMG, yes complain. It is none off her business as you are legally an adult.

OMG... I would totally report her. Hell, I don't think I would've left without talking to someone. Definetly get a hold of the Chief of Staff. And if they seem not to care, I'd write a letter to the editor of the paper & let people know how this hospital allows their staff to belittle people. It doesn't matter if you are 12 & pregnant. She does not have the right to judge you. Her job is to help get you better, that's it!

Excuse me where does she get off telling you as an adult to give your child up? Does she have children and how was she when she had them did she give any up? I definetly would call and complain or go back personally and speak to her supervisors she had no right to say anything. P.S. I too got pregnant at 21 and I think I was old enough to take on my responsiblity so yeah were young, but were not stupid!

I didn't think that nurses were supposed to do things like this! They are supposed to treat patients, not give uncalled for counceling! By the time I was 21 I had a 4 year old and a 2 year old! Too young indeed, what nonsence.

I would complain for sure. They are not allowed to make comments like that to patients. When I was 21 I went to the er for breathing problems and chest pains and the nurse was asking me question about my sexual activity and if I was on the pill. I told her no and she reemed me (I think because she thought I was younger than I was). I didn't want to say anything with my parents there. I found out later from a customer of mind that was a nurse that things like that are not allowed and she could have been fired for that comment. I wish I had said something because I don't want anyone else to go through any unnecessary drama. Please tell someone in charge at the hospital what happend. Besides, you are a 21 year old adult and not a 12 year old kid--what concern is it of hers.

I think what you should do depends entirely on what you would hope to gain from complaining about the nurse. In the long run, does hurting someone else help you? Perhaps you, or your family, wants you to prove a point to the nurse. However, it's not likely he or she is going to change their opinion of the "correct age for pregnancy" anytime soon, especially not because of a single phone call. Unless this nurse begins to interfere with your pregnancy by obstructing your medical procedures, it's probably not the best idea to make a bigger deal out of it than it is: an opinion of someone you don't ever need to see again.

That is absolutly outrageous. I am 21 years old and I have two children. I wouldn't change it for the world. You are the only one who knows if your ready. I had my first baby when I was 18. Everyone told me not to keep it. I wouold definantly call and complain!

I was an ER social worker, and I can assure that the nurse was completely out of line. Her comments were inappropriate and outrageous! Call the hospital and ask to speak with Nurse Manager of the Emergency Dept. Follow up with a letter of complaint. The nurse will most likely be counseled and there may be administrative discipline. If other patients complain about this nurse, the nurse may be fired. Go thru the proper channels so that you will be heard.

Did you show any indication that you didn't want to have the baby or that it was too much for you? If not, I feel the nurse was extremely out of place with her opinions...I had my first child when I was 21 and we did just fine!!!

you need to call her supervisor and complain. it's out of bounds for a healthcare worker to make comments on your personal situation... you're over the age of 18 and it's your decision what to do with your child. it's one thing for a doctor to advise (and for someone over 18, it would still be unprofessional, unless he knew you, etc) but a completely other thing for a nurse, especially because you're quite old enough to have a child and having babies young (i was 23 when i delivered my first) isn't necessarily a bad thing, unless you're under 18. call and complain, by all means... call the hospital, call her supervisor, the attending, whoever you have to to make sure this woman keeps her mouth shut and doesn't offer unwanted advice.

you need to call her supervisor and complain. it's out of bounds for a healthcare worker to make comments on your personal situation... you're over the age of 18 and it's your decision what to do with your child. it's one thing for a doctor to advise (and for someone over 18, it would still be unprofessional, unless he knew you, etc) but a completely other thing for a nurse, especially because you're quite old enough to have a child and having babies young (i was 23 when i delivered my first) isn't necessarily a bad thing, unless you're under 18. call and complain, by all means... call the hospital, call her supervisor, the attending, whoever you have to to make sure this woman keeps her mouth shut and doesn't offer unwanted advice.

that is F*CKING ridiculous, that pisses me off really bad.. you should call... you NEED to call and also have a nice word with that sob of a nurse... she needs her license taken away

I think you should definitley call and complain!!That nurse had No bussiness telling you that.

I agree that what the nurse said was not what you needed to hear. But, is it worth keeping that anger going by continuing to think about an insensitive, unprofessional person? Think about your baby and all the positive things that will be happening instead! I'm a teacher and I had a teacher friend who ALWAYS got very dehydrated whenever she got pregnant from too much morning sickness. Yet, despite all this, she had 6 children!

As one who works in hospital administration...please do complain. I suggest calling or writing to the Chief Nursing Officer (CNO) and/or the Emergency Department manager. While the nurse is entitled to her opinion, it's very unprofessional for her to say that to you and hospital management needs to know that they have a potential loose cannon on their hands. You are probably not the only one who's experienced poor service from her, but it'll never be addressed unless you say something.

personally she doesn't have the right to tell you that I mean If you were like 12 I guess she could but you should do something about that It's yours not hers!

I think that is ridiculous...For one, I don't think you are too young to have a child. Also, even if you were only 12 years old (yeah, you would be wayy too young) but still it not her child and she should not be allowed to tell you what to do with YOUR child...Plus if you were to give it up for adoption, maybe the people would take really good care of it but that child would have to live with the fact that it grew up without its real parents...This really irks me...

I think you should report that nurse or do something. She has no right to tell you how old you shold be to have a baby. That nurse is there to tend to the needs of you,not to put in her 2 sense.So yes report her i agree 100% with the top answer.Oh and Congrats on the baby!!!:)

I think you should report that nurse or do something. She has no right to tell you how old you shold be to have a baby. That nurse is there to tend to the needs of you,not to put in her 2 sense.So yes report her i agree 100% with the top answer.Oh and Congrats on the baby!!!:)

Who the hell does that nurse think she is? What you do is none of her business. She can think what she wants but she needs to keep her trap shut. Definitely complain. PS 21 isn't too young to have a kid, particularly if you feel that you're ready. Congratulations on the baby :)

You should have told her to mind her own damn business while you were there.

If you call and complain you may be adding more stress which you do not need being pregnant and already having problems, becuase you might have to face that person again in the hospital. Some people have bad bedside manner, but if they know something we don;t that nurse might have not meant it to be mean and did not know how to word things better like offering help to a young mom to be on how to better things before the baby is born, if you are having a hard time in life.

definetly call

I know exactly how you feel. I went to the er because I thought I had alcohol poisoning. I found out that I was 3 wks preg. the nurse said that I was to young and unmarried so I should go ahead and get an abortion because I was supposed to have triplts. That night I called the chief of staff and informed them on what she said and finding out she was telling all the "younger" girls that. She could no longer work in any AZ hospitol. I was 22 @the time and I ended up having a beautiful healthy baby boy (i lost the other 2) I am now 27 Austin is 4 and Annastasia is 2. I am happily married and planning on adopting or becoming foster parents. All this to tell you do what you think is right.

I AM 30 AND PREGNANT WITH #5 I HAD A TUBAL SO THIS IS COMPLETLY NOT PLANNED. I HV A AUNT WHO IS TELLING EVERY DAY TO GET AN ABORTION BECAUSE I HV TO MANY KIDS AS IT IS. IT IS HER OPINION NOT MINE AND I TAKE IT ALL IN STRIDE. IF A NURSE TOLD ME THAT I SHOULD PUT THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION I WOULD BE OUTRAGED. I AM THE TYPE THAT IF IT REALLY BOTHERS ME I WILL DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. IF IT IS SOMETHING YOU CAN LIVE WITH AND NEVER SEE THE NURSE AGAIN THEN MAYBE YOU MIGHT THINK OF LETTING IT GO. BUT!!!! IF IT BOTHERS YOU THEN GO THROUGH THE CHANNELS AND SAY SOMETHING. IT COULD BE THAT THIS NURSE HAS HAD A PERSONAL SITUATION THAT YOURS HIT CLOSER TO HOME. IF YOU ARE BOTHERED BY IT HV YOU THOUGHT OF CONFRONTING THE NURSE? TELLING HIM HOW YOU BOTH FEEL AND THAT YOU WERE THINKING OF FILING A COMPLAINT AND THAT YOU THINK IT IS BETTER FOR HIM TO KEEP HIS THOUGHT AND OPINIONS TO HIMSELF. IT IS NOT AN EASY THING TO DO. I HOPE THAT ALL WORKS OUT IN THE END.

you should have told the nurse that she is too ugly to have kids and she should get sterilised! lol

I think she shoud mind her own damn business.

nobody has the right to tell you what to do no matter what the situation is. The only one who can make a choice is you. I would definitly call and complain that is very unprofessional and i would complain immediatly

i know u are prgnant but u didn't kick her ass?? i think u shud listen to your family

Definitely!!! I'm 24. My son is 5. I gave birth when I was 18. I'm not encouraging it, but I'm not going to judge you and she shouldn't have either. In aspect to the dehydration, same thing happened to me. I lost 10 pounds the first trimester. Too much puking.

yeh that was just plain wrong like everyone is saying call hell sue if you can thats her opinion and she should have kept it to herself dumb ass lady

Why, didnt you tell her a piece of your mind? I would not let it go. She could be going around doing this to other young women. If you are married or have a boy fiend you should tell them too speak up for you if you can. That was very not manner like. She is not profesinnol at all, she needs to lose her license for making you distressed any you are pregnate she could have upset you so much that you could have miscarred.

I would call and then go make a formal complaint. That was very insulting and uncalled for. I wish you the best.I was young and preg.once too and words of encouragement were what you could have used if the nurse felt a comment was needed.

I would call and then go make a formal complaint. That was very insulting and uncalled for. I wish you the best.I was young and preg.once too and words of encouragement were what you could have used if the nurse felt a comment was needed.

i take it she was an older woman. what bullshit. my best mate had her baby at 15 and she's doing better than alot of mums, so saying 21 is too young thats just bloody rediculous. your a fully grown woman now not a girl.she needs to be put in her place if not for the coment she gave you but ones she said in the past and to future new mums. please do something. good luck for the future.

Call, write email....the hospital, her boss and the administration. It is inappropriate for a nurse in an ER to volunteer her opinion in this matter. On the other hand, please show how wrong she is by drinking lots of water and taking great care of yourself for the remainder of your pregnancy.

I'm with your family complain. I had a similar experience. They MUST take insesitivity training. My daughter had a seizure at a water park, I rode in the ambulance no towel no shoes got to the desk and the nurses first question was WHERE IS YOUR INSURANCE CARD, well let me see I have it here somewhere. I wish I would have complained. This happened 5 years ago. It still upsets me. I wish I would have complained.

I agree you need to do what is best for you and your baby. I think it was wrong of that nurse to day that! For more great info and advice check out this great chat forum for TTC, PG and Mom's to be and motherhood go to www.mommy-talk.com

Nowadays, 21 is not too young to have a child. I don't believe, it was this nurses place to tell you, what you should or should not do. I do believe, you should report her, for making a judgement she was not entitled to make in the first place. I think she should be disaplined for it.

I would definately call and complain. I was 19 years old when i had my first child, he is nine now and i was a very good mother and still am. Evidentally, the nurse doesn't know what she's talking about. I think the age 21 is a great age to have a baby.

21 is not too young. 16 is too young. Why did she tell you that? To me abortion is almost murder. Have the child. Parenting is a hard job, but it's also a lot of fun. Take it from me, a father of 4 boys.

call!call!call!call!call!

Relax. The nurse was suggesting an alternative. You may have taken it more harshly than it was intended given your were in ER and had been dehydrated.

oh my gosh! of course you should complain, i'm discusted! even if you were fourteen years old it is no business of hers, and her personal opinion should be kept to herself! complain formally this woman should be reprimanded.

oh my gosh! of course you should complain, i'm disgusted! even if you were fourteen years old it is no business of hers, and her personal opinion should be kept to herself! complain formally this woman should be reprimanded.

i had my son 1 month before my 21st birthday and i handled it just fine. it's not anyone elses right to tell you what to do with your life and if you want to have a baby than you should do it, but do it responsibly.

I say you should have turned around and said "If you were my mother I MIGHT consider it. Until then go change a bedpan."...;)

Its funny how the times change. I was 21 when I had my first child and I was told I'd left it late. Most girls had their first child at 18.

I would complain. It was none of her business. And it was obviously offensive to you when she said it.

she needs to be reported ,shame shame shame on her

As an ex-medical type person who is fully aware of the ethical reamifications of that Nurses behaviour I would URGE you to report her to her Charge Nurse, the Hospital Administration AND your State's Licensing Board - and do all three of them AND let each know you have also informed the others, so it can't be 'covered up' This sounds like someone who is veering into the dangerous waters of 'I know what is best for you' and she or he is NOT supposed to judge anyone EXCEPT in the sense it has a bearing on their safe and efficient medical care. This is the kind of behaviour that potentially leads to the 'mercy killings' of deranged nurses and doctors who start playing god with the people who are so vulnerable to their misdeeds. Thank you for having the sense, courage and 'smarts' to not accept this.

Totally unprofessional and she shouldn't be forcing her views on you.You haven't gone there for counselling.Secondly, it rather annoys me being adopted when people say 'give it up for adoption' almost as if this is an easy option and there are no repurcussions.I would complain and have it logged as a formal complaint. You could call or write a formal letter.Good luck to you