ANSWERS: 39
  • Submit what?
  • Why would any emotionally healthy woman want to submit to her husband, and why would any worthwhile guy want to marry a woman who'd submit to him?
  • Nope she doesn't have to and shouldn't... A healthy relationship simply cant work like that. And if it does lasts any decent amount of time it will turn into a web of mind games power struggles and cloaked hatred... No one wins and everyones unhappy. Who'd want that?
  • In our home, wife and husband are equal ... no one "submits" to anyone. We are partners.
  • Absolutely not. Nor should a husband have to submit to his wife. They should respect each other and treat one another as equals.
  • According to my wife, I should do all the submitting...
  • Only if he has to "submit" an equal amount of the time.
  • Depends on religion and what you agreed upon before saying I DO! In our home, I take care of everything and do special tasks/errands as requested as long as I am physically able to. If I'm sick or just not willing, no biggie. I get paid a very good salary to be a stay at home mom!
  • The wife should submit to a husband that loves and respects her. It's not just a command to the wife but to the man. The husband is supposed to be the spiritual leader of the household BUT he is supposed to RESPECT his wife. IF that is the way it's done then it's perfect. IF the husband doesn't respect his wife then it's not the way anyway so...I guess no. It would be a sacrificial love that would enable a husband and wife to operate that way and that would be a beautiful thing.
  • No one has to do anything.
  • (in advance: many people respond negatively to the first sentence of what i'm going to say, but please take the time to read the rest as well ;)) I think a wife should submit to her husband. BUT a husband should love his wife to such degree that her desires are at the least equal to his own. Ephesians 5:22-33 describes it quite nicely basically if situations arise that you simply can't come to agreement the woman should submit, but the man has the real problem, because he has to choose who to 'hurt'. I think if it is clear that the majority of the time the husband chooses his own will he is definately wrong and should face it.
  • Hell no!!! It's a woman's world, she can do whatever the hell she wants and the husband will still be right there with her!!!
  • Absofuckinglutely not.
  • No; but he will submit to me! Lol
  • I'd gladly submit to my husband, if he was a dominant man. But he is soft-hearted, so I have to rule in order to keep this boat afloat.
  • they both should submit itsa crazy little thing called love in my marriage though..
  • both should be willing to give and take ;)
  • I must say that some on AB and I take it to be from the US have some diametrically opposed views to the European lot.Just posing questions likethese on the other side of the pond could get you hung out to dry by one pressure group or another.Having said that I wouldnt say no to a bit of submission or indeed a bit of anything.I am quite prepared to be easily led!
  • If you asked my wife, she would definitely say she does not. But it really depends on what area you are talking about. In finance, she listens to me. In child rearing our daughters, I always listen to her. I think all relationships are like this + 5
  • NO! This is the 21st century; women are supposed to have equal rights.
  • Absolutely not. A wife is not inferior to her husband and therefore should not "submit" to him. That's ridiculous. Woman are just as independent if not more than men.
  • We should submit to each other. No one should sacrifice more than the other, no one should have more power than the other one, or make all of the decisions. My husband has more knowledge about certain things than I do, so in the areas he's better at I let him handle things... but that's not because I'm being submissive.
  • NOT unless SHE wants to .. A husband does NOT own his wife ... she is NOT his property .
  • Well well well. Lie down and get beaten? hell no. Neither should she take the opposite position. No one has to do anything. If you're christian religious, it's called free will. if you're not that doesn't matter but other concepts may apply. I'd prefer to see something more like an even partnership, but I'm not holding my breath.
  • Do you mean give the sex thing to him? Technically you can divorce if there is no sex, but that is not usually the issue with submission. Here in America we believe that partners are equal and no one has to submit to diddly.
  • Women deserve to be treated like human being too!!! The just released 2009 survey findings show a slight increase in the number of women represented in firm/office management positions, up to 12.4 percent from 10 percent last year after gaining a steady one point increase each year.women in executive positions from 10.6 percent in 2006 to 18.7 percent in 2009. Woman are more independent then guys sorry fellas
  • No, & I don't think I could live with a submissive woman. I like a bit of fiestiness!
  • Yes she should. Why would you want a woman that fights with you all the time?
  • If you are referring to Ephesians 5:22, then I believe your interpretation is a bit skewed. Quite a few women see that Bible passage and think: "Hell, no!" (well, maybe with less course language). What you need to do is read the WHOLE passage. Relationships are give and take. The message of that passage is this: Men, love your wives like no other. Women, respect your husbands. That is it. It has nothing to do with "wives, get your husbands a beer when he says so." Here is the whole passage: (Wife's role) 22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (Husband's role) 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. (Both roles) 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. As you can see, verse 33 sums it all up for you. Now, by my count, there are 3 verses that have to do with wives respecting and 8 verses that have to do with husbands loving. Seems like women get the better deal ;).
  • If he's worthy, bossy bitchy wives create misery for everyone.
  • Yes. According to the Bible the wife must submit to the husband. But, it also says that husbands are to honor and respect their wives.
  • She doesn't HAVE to any more than husbands HAVE to: "...love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" Nor do both HAVE to submit to each other. Since God gets us Free Agency and Free Will. We are free to do whatever we wish and to thus reap the consequences. That's life! However, I suspect that more marriages would be better were both Husbands and Wives were to comply with the wisdom embedded in the FULL passage which says: Ephesians 5 (New Living Translation) 21 ...submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body. 31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
  • I think that the husband should be the head of the household, that's assuming he's taking care of his business. Now, I'm not saying that he should be able to boss his wife around or tell her what to do. I'm saying that I think in order for any institution to work, there has to be a leader, and it can't be a power struggle. This "independent woman" thing started off as a positive thing and has gotten way out of control and has mislead a lot of women into thinking independent means non-agreeable and bitchy. Being independent is great, and I encourage women and anyone to be independent, but you also should know your role in a relationship. Males have natural leadership qualities, it's not just with humans, it's with damn there all species. Women have developed an inferiority complex because of the sexism that takes place all across the world, but this complex has led to this mentality of "I don't need no man", when in reality, for a family to work, we all need each other, and we all need to play our role, and in my opinion, a woman's role is to be supportive of her husband and follow his lead, again, assuming he's worthy of that leadership position.
  • yes..but at the same time,it should not make her feel that she is being dominated...
  • In my opinion ~ a wife doesn't *have to* do anything she doesn't want to do.
  • No. If the husband loves his wife and cares for her at least as much as he does for himself, she probably wouldn't think twice about submitting to him since she knows that he is looking out for the best interest of both of them, and is doing for her what she doesn't have to do since she has him. Leading is a honor, not a right, after all.
  • Yes but the husband is to respect and cherish his wife.
  • No. Nothing more need be added.
  • yes, unless there is a serious sin/wrong ..involved....but a 'good' husband would not be wanting or causing his wife to be continuously submitting....he would seek a friend,helper, lover, mother for his children...way more than seeking a woman he would keep beat down in submission to him....i do think the man is the head ...and if he says no ..it should not be overidden by her....that is a very bad example for their children....

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