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  • get a dog a tube of cookie dough and a vibrator then rent a chick flick
  • Second thoughts are a natural thing to happen, but stick to your guns and move on.
  • 1). Start dating other people. even if you don't enjoy it at first, it'll get you around people again and meeting others. 2). Remember why you broke up. Did he treat you bad?Any guy who cars would have treated you better. 3). Realize that you deserve to be treated with respect and in time, with love. 4). Remember all the bad times and tears you've shed because of the way he treated you and made you feel. + 5
  • Honey, if you were here I would take you out with my friends. We ALWAYS get male attention! You would forget about him in 5 minutes...LOL
  • when i did this myself, i wrote down all the negatives i no longer had to contend with. i read this anytime i felt myself weakening to remind myself that i made the right decision, feel free to add to your list during moments of anger.
  • Nah, If your having second thoughts after 13yrs. thats pretty big. The heart wants what the heart wants. If your sure it can't be resolved without compromising your dignity... then move on.
  • Keep as busy as possible. Lean on family and friends. Remind yourself how good and strong you're going to feel once you've gotten through it. DON'T HAVE ANY CONTACT with the person, at least for the time being. Rediscover an old hobby or start a new one. Write in a journal. Volunteer. Exercise. Get a pet. Basically anything that will keep your time to think down to a minimum and keep your resolve strong. It's hard but you can do it!!
  • That's a tough one. Your whole life as you have known it has changed. Its scary having to step into the "great unknown" and normal to want to go back to your comfort zone. I would suggest talking to a therapist. Not because you are crazy or anything like that, but because they can give you the skills and encouragement you need to make this transition in your life.
  • awws im so sorry dear .. as a person who is heartbroken as well.. i know what it feels like to have second thoughts since of course u loved them so much and everything is so broken now.. but since u know its for the best that means it can only get worse dear.. just imagine how much more that will hurt .. it will hurt even more than now.. wouldn't than be so awful.. i battle with the giving in part as well.. and i just tell myself that this person is just not meant to be with me.. they cannot see my great qualities and that they cannot love me the way i need to be loved.. whether it's becuz they can't or just don't know how to love me.. i know that in the end .. i really don't want to be with anyone who can't love me the way i should be loved. i know it hurts trust me ..i've been eating my tears for three weeks straight[day and night] .. but i just trust that God loves me and wants the best for me ..so i just need to hurt now so that things will be better in the future for me cuz i'll be with who i'm really supposed to be with.. take care .. i will pray for u dear :)
  • Try very hard not to have any contact with your ex. Keep busy with your time and understand that this change will take some time to get used to. Sometimes, it's not the partner you miss but the idea of having a partner.
  • I believe you must have had a good reason for ending the relationship. In all of my breakups, big and little, there comes a time where I started to think rationally, always after 6 months or more. Something clicks inside me how important I am and that the dreams are reforming. I figure that when I reach that point, if I still want to go back, I'd do it. There is only one relationship where I feel that way. We broke up because of traumas that were not ours. He was such a good man. It would be interesting to go back after all these years and see the changes. I heard he was in a relationship, so I'm biding my time but also moving on. Hope this helps.

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