My boyfriend, to whom I'm commited for years, has told me that he wants to go with his buddies and sleep with prostitutes in his next trip to China. I'm brokenhearted. Is he saying this because he wants me to break up with him?
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Wow. That is a possibility. Unless he is one of these people who cannot help but say out loud all the things that come into their heads, then there aren't many reasons for saying something like that. He could be trying to get you to break up with him out of cowardice, or he could be trying to be honest and even get your approval for him to go and do this whilst staying with you. Like a license to cheat. It is strange behaviour for anybody who is truely committed to being in a monogamous relationship.
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If my s/o would say this I'd get my hatchett and chop of his head. Unbelievable. If he doesnt want to break up with you, you should break up with him. A guy who thinks it is normal to sleep with others when his GF is not okay with it is a real monster. I mean can he even imagine how you must feel. Like some disposable GF or something. I'd tell him to leave for china and never set foot on your doorstep again! I know how hard this must be for you. I've known someone who also thinks this is normal. Get the hell away from him. It will never get back to normal after this. Let him go if you really care for yourself.
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Tell him you are alright with that so long as he allows you to soak his penis in acid when he gets back to make sure he did not bring home any diseases.
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Maybe. Maybe not. However, you should. What gives him the right to do this and ask for your permission? it is immoral and degrading towards you.
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why do you wanna be with this guy? End your heartbreak here. move on before he gives you a disease or worse. There are real men out here who will love you and treat you right.
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pretty much, guess he doesnt have the balls to break up w u so he is making u make the decision. look at the brightside (not like its great) but least he told u. he coulda kept it from u and had sex w u after a prostitute. im not saying hes being a good guy or anything , but cut ur ties and move on, u cna do better. and when he'll realize what a mistake he made.
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Guys think of sex as a recreational activity, something that feels good no matter whom you do it with. I think you know that sex is not equivalent to "love". (Young teen girls do not know this, and they feel that all is lost when their bf has sex with somebody else.) Your bf sure as hell doesn't plan to fall in love with a Chinese hooker. When he comes home he'll be just as happy to see you as ever. You're the one he loves. OTOH, he must be very naive if he didn't realize how his words would affect you. That's a serious faux pas on his part. Guys are stupid that way.
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Are you sure he isnt just joking. If he is being serious then you need to get rid of him. That is just sick.
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Breaking up with him is something you should do either way. Either he's telling you he wants to cheat on you or he's saying it to hurt you and break you down. True or not, he's not the right guy for you to be with. Has he been hurtful with you in the past?
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i cant believe he actually said that to u. just let him go and tell him you wont be waiting for him.
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He sounds like an asshole why not find someone better !
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the prowess of the prostitutes of the Old Empire is a silly legend, and he wishes to test it. Some men forget how easily sex is equated with love. His heart belongs to you, remember that, even if his mind no longer belongs to him. Tell him how it hurts that he would please himself with other women.
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just leave him. He's asking for a disease. Not someone I would trust with that comment.
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Don't listen to these peoples crap about men view sex as a recreational activoty. That is complete bull and a line men use to make you think they can't help it. Guess what? A lot of men don't think that and honestly more women do. He is a waste of time. Don't be there when he gets back, seriously.
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Do you really know your boyfriend who you have been commited to for years? I think you need to run! That is a sure sign he has a fetish or addiction you need nothing to do with!!! RUN
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If he is really serious then you need a better man ! why cant he be a man and just tell you he wants to break up?. You can also ask him if he wants to break up with you and if this is a way to get you to do it first?
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I don't know why he is saying this, but I can tell you this; he does not respect you, and if he follows through with this threat he will be putting you in grave danger. Do not stay with this person if you value yourself and your health.
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Maybe you should remind him of the fellow who went to China and slept with a prostitute. When he came back, he went to his doctor complaining that his penis had turned green and the doctor said he had to amputate. After a second opinion stating the same, he went to a chinese doctor who said "These western doctors, all they want to do is surgery, just jump up and down for me". The fellow did and the penis fell off by itself!
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He sounds like a man of no morals. You can do better. Whether he is saying this to break up with you or not, tell him if he gets on the plane, he need not come back.
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just tell him how you feel about it and what you expect in a monogamous relationship. If his expectations don't fit yours and neither of you are willing to compromise or are comfortable with the parameters you two expect of a relationship then I would end it now before it gets too hard and your relationship begins falling apart. DO NOT turn a blind eye to it if your not truly okay with it! You'll only torture yourself and your guy's relationship. I wish you the best of luck.
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He has probably already been with other women. Dump his ass.
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Hell- someone telling me he wants to sleep with Prostitutes while we have a relationship...that's not gonna happen. I'd dump his ass in a split-second. First of all, monogamy is important for a healthy relationship- he is OBVIOUSLY not committed to you and he doesn't seem to care. Second of all, a lot of prostitutes in China have STDs, and if for some reason you are not uncomfortable with a polygamous relationship, I'm sure you wouldn't want to share the diseases you might get from him that he got from the prostitutes. No man is worth all of this- get rid of him.
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There are more STD's or any other sexual diseases patients in America then any other place. Look it up on your State, Health and Human Service Department, they are listed, statistically. This is a whole different subject. What she wanted was, "does he want me to breakup with him?" The answer is NO, or he wouldn't be telling you that. He would of done it secretly. He just testing.
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This guy obviously lacks intelligent s. It seems to me that he lacks to show his intelligent s and commitment by saying he wants to sleep with STD infected prostitutes. I don't know you, but I'm sure you deserve someone better than this guy. If I were a girl I would dump him.
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well i dont think anybody would be okay for thier boyfriends to be doing this so he must have had the notion that you may break up with him for it. Maybe he thought he could get away with it or that maybe you wouldnt mind (if hes an idiot). You should leave though because if someone loved and respected you they wouldnt want to do this. Also if they had respect for themselves they wouldnt have to go so low as using a prostitute. You deserve someone better. Dont waste your time on a jerk. Iknow its hard to let go but i think it would really be in your best interest.
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Maybe he was kidding. Because that seems fucking ridiculous. And if he was serious, dump his ass pronto.
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He is informing you before hand because he does not want to hide the fact he will be having some fun while in China. Please do not be broken hearted It isn't he doesn't love you he just wants to be honest with you because he loves you! Wish him well and tell him to have fun while there and you will be waiting for him when he gets back with all your love. You will win big time. I don't know if these links will help but it can give you some information: http://www.technomom.com/love/cheatingtopoly.shtml http://www.lovemore.com/ If you would like to know more I have additional information, but believe me your boyfriend loves you or he would not have informed you of his intentions.
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Are you kidding me? Drop him like a bad habit. Or at least ask him if it's okay that you do the same while he is away.
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He certainly does not have to go to China to sleep with a prostitute. He can do that right here in the U.S.
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While his honesty is commendable, his actions are still wrong and should speak volumns to you regarding your relationship......red flags are flying!
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I think he was only joking, no man would tell you that unless he's joking. If he really was going to go with a prostitute why wait till China? And why need to tell you? I think he was just joking or trying to sound like he wanted you to know that while he's there he wants to have fun with his buddies.
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He's gotta be messin with you.
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if he loves you, why would he want to sleep with anyone? prostitute or not? surely he is joking! however this is not something that he should joke with you about. good luck, I would drop him so fast!! I hope you find peace!
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