If you couldn't have children how would this affect your life?
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ANSWERS: 28
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It is something you have to accept. You cannot make yours and everyone around you lives miserable because you cannot always have things that you want.
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Well, if I hadn't had children, my life would be very different. I would have had more money and more freedom, I would have been able to do things I couldn't. I would have fewer hugs and kisses, I would not have grandchildren. My sister had trouble getting pregnant, suffered through 3 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy. She was told there was a one in a million chance of ever getting pregnant, and if she did it would likely be another ectopic pregnancy. A month later she was pregnant, and cried for days waiting to find out if it was ectopic. It wasn't and now she has 3 boys. She was miserable during the time she was trying and couldn't get pregnant, and I am sure it contributed to the failure of her first marriage. It would affect different people differently, some want children desperately, others will take them if they get them, others could care less.
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Well, my house would be cleaner, I'd have A LOT more money, I would be a big-time workaholic and I know that I'd travel a lot... also before I had kids, I was very reckless and that changed when I had my first child, so I don't know how that might have affected things. Emotionally, I couldn't say either because I imagine that wanting a child is different than losing a child. I think I could have healed if I had been told that I could never have kids, but I don't think that I could heal if I ever lost one of my children... This is just how I see things from the reality of my life.
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I can't and it has affected my life. It's a very sad feeling actually. It's as if something will always be missing in my life. I get tired of hearing empty sentiments like, "you can always adopt" or people who remind me that I am not as desirable as a single gal without the ability to have children. I have learned to accept it, it does no good to dwell on it because it isn't going to change. . . .no matter how much I wish it would. It has taken me a long time to not feel guilty about depriving my parents of the joy of being grandparents. I am an only child. They never made me feel guilty about it, they are too good as parents to do such a thing. Not much more to say really.
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might make me sad but it was a choice i made not to have any so i am okay with it
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can't imagine. i have 2 and wouldn't trade them for the world.
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I can't, and that is because of elective surgery. Personally, I like it. Kids may be great for other couples but my wife and I are MUCH happier without 'em.
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I faced the possibility and it was devastating. There were all sorts of plans going on to see if they could reverse the problem, and suddenly, I was pregnant. Yes, children muck up your life, but not having them would muck it up even worse.
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I would have to come to terms with that being God's will and choose adoption. I'd really like to have a couple of my own though.
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Not at all
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It would make it easier because then I would stop having the "are we or aren't we" discussion with my husband and I could get my mother and MIL to drop the subject.
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It wouldn't. Having children would affect my life.
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If I could never have kids, I'm sure that I would have a ton more money in the future. Althought in the future I'm not so sure my life would be complete without a family, you know wife, kids, a dog maybe.
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it wouldn't affect my life, I could easily adopt some kids.
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Well, after 2 wives and a fiance over a 20 year period, I don't have any kids, and I guess that it's me, and I shouldn't expect any. My current wife and I make up for it by raising our 3 dogs (2 dog-ters and a dog-son). :)
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i think i would be devestated for a while. i dont think there would be any greater reward than being a parent. but i think in the end i would try to find another way. there are tons of children in the world who could use a parent who loves them and takes care of them. parent is in the behaviour not the biology.
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Many differences. After my divorce, I would have saved thousands of dollars in support and then paying attorneys so that I could get custody of my daughter. Also might have been remarried or had many more girlfriends. Many woman have been scared off because I'm a single father with custody. I would have a lot more free time, travel more, go out drinking with friends a whole lot more.
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Pretty badly, since I already have them, who would take care of them?
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For me it wouldn't I would just adopt which it what I want to do anyway. For some reason I have never had the need to have children, but I do have a VERY strong need/want to adopt them.
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Well then id be at a military base until they made me retire. Then civilan life. It really wouldnt affect me alot it it happens i got enough neices and nephews to back it up.although my sisters would be alot calmer if i watched them if i couldnt reproduce. But on the upper hand, alot more money, freedom and traveling after my military retirement.
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My Wife could not have children as we found out after 15 years, it effects our lives in Sadness at times because we never got the chance to share and be shared with one of mankinds greatest gift that makes the world go around.
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I can't have children & it has left this HUGE hole in me. I find myself "annoyed" with pregnant people sometime. I know that it's just jealousy but, it's hard to watch. I personally know a few women in my town that have kids like a rabbit and they are horrible mothers. It kills me that ever since I was a little girl I wanted to be a mother & I can't yet some women can & they are bad mothers, they kill them, or just out right abandon them. A few years ago this girl showed up at my house to ask my brother & his girlfriend to drive her to Columbus the following day to have an abortion because she already had 2 and just didn't want this one. She didn't even know the father, it was a 1 night stand. I begged her to carry the baby to term & let me take it, she said no...I want this "THING" out. Just writing this response puts a knot in my stomache. So to all you mom's out there, next time your sitting on the couch with your kids, think how lucky you are to have them, when so many of us don't. Adoption is not an option for alot of people. It costs alot of money, which I personally do not have.
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Due to circumstances in my life,I never had any children. I love kids dearly, and wish things had worked out differently for me in my life. Sometimes I think who is going to look after me when I become old and dependent on someone to care for me?
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i would then know that when people around us have nothing to munch on they will have my life to chew on and on and on
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Well i am a single parent with two kids, I am 23 and already got my tubes tide, to avoid having more children... and sometimes i do regret but sometimes I feel so relive Knowing that I wont have no more kids... 2is enough...who ever wants to marry me will have toa ccept me andmy 2 kids, which i dont mind adopting if i ever get married ....
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My husband and I were never able to have children. I thought I would have 5 or 6, but it wasn't meant to be. We became the crazy couple who call their dogs their kids, and that filled up some of the hole in my heart, but not all of it.
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I wouldn't have to bother with birth control!
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I think it would be lonely I love having my kids
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