If your 17 year old daughter's b/f, came to stay for the night and was still there 4 days later.. would you say something?
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kitiara
ANSWERS: 41
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ummmm duh. yes. unless i wanted him there ( which i'm sure i wouldnt).
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Hey Kit.....I'm afraid the boy wouldn't have stayed the first night!
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Yes, Tell him if he stays any longer you'll be wanting rent.
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Get to know him. Subtly.
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No I would continue to let my children run my house.
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Yeah, something like "Hey, you've been here for 4 days. Keep up the good work.".
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Yes, I would have sent him home they next day if the arrangements were for one night. I would have said something the next day..
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4 days?!?!?!?! he'd be gone after the first night!
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This is, first, your daughter's responsibility to handle. Ask her to do so. If she objects, then you take control. Perhaps it's time that they should BOTH be invited to leave.
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in my culture they couldn't allow me even one night...so, i'll follow my culture: no sleep over (at least not in my house) unless you are engaged!!!!
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Even though it seems the best friend is taking advantage of your hospitality ask the daughter to find out if there is something or someone the b/f is hiding from. If there is, sit down with both of them and help her with some options that could fix her situation. If she just likes livin at your house better.Than this is a good chance to teach that 17 year old how to deal with a situation in a diplomatic way. This should be a good learning experience for both of the girls.
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Damn straight, I 'd be saying "Go home!" before the first night even got started. When my kids were that age the b/f and/or g/f went to their homes at night.
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yes i would.
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if he had the nerve to just do so ,yeah definitly would say something, after the 2nd day i would this is your home thats your daughter man grow some balls tell dude to ride the f*&k out
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My 17 would not be having her bf spend the night, but sounds like he has moved in.
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Of course!But then,he wouldn't have been staying the night,ever.
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I would do a lot more than talking.
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First: He would NEVER be staying the night .... However; if he ended up there four days ; (Which would NEVER Happen to begin with ) I'd throw his ass OUT so fast , he'd think he was flying ... I'd be taking him to his parents house to see why they were not concerned about the whereabouts of their minor son ....
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OUT,OUT,OUT,first night ,OUT!!!!!
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Say " Dear Love you staving here, however, rent is $50 a week starting Friday." She'll be got in a day.
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yes! that is YOUR home not his, take control clearly hes getting a little comfortable.
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i wonder that it can happen.i m sure that she know my character and my thoughts about love.she knows my history of my young time.so i believe that she can not do this.if parent did their self like this than she will do it sure.but she do it than can not enter my home n relation will be break for life time.i said it always that do not do sex with any girl because u have ur mother n sister too.u will have wife n daughter too in future.i m proud to say that i did not do sex with any one accept my wife.and i pray to gad that man do sex with any other girl so god should give them daughters like this stupid girl.i hope that god will listen my pray.5
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You let your 17 year old DAUGHTER have her boyfriend stay the night, that's where you went wrong.
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Call me old-fashioned, but I'd be damned if my 17-year old daughter's boyfriend stayed over night at all. And 4 days later! Kick his ass out of the house and tell him he overstayed his welcome! “Fish and visitors smell in three days.” ~ Benjamin Franklin
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He wouldn't stay the FIRST night
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I think that you should not have put yourself in this type of situation in the first place, she should not be sleeping with her b/f under your roof until he becomes her husband. As for him staying there four days later I would have a word with your daughter, if nothing changes I would then tell him directly that he must leave.
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uh, yeah. I would be okay with the occasional sleepover, but no one stays without asking (and getting - or not) permission. I had this happening with my son (who was 18 at the time) and his gf. I finally sat them both down and told them if they wanted to live like a married couple, they needed to have the entire experience (the bill-paying, the cleaning-up, the cooking, the shopping, etc), not just the sex and the freeloading. So, they moved out together, stayed together for three months and broke up. He said after that experience he wouldn't get serious about anyone (to the move-in point) for many many years.
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I would definitely ask what's up though.
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There could be some hidden reasons why he is still there after 4 days. Is he having problems with his parents? Does he not have a place to stay otherwise? There could be a number of reasons why he is hanging around besides your daughter. Without more to go on it is hard to know what the reason is. One thing you should be thankful for; your daughter is staying home and not running away with him. They could be out somewhere sleeping in his car in some park or back alley or a sleezy motel somewhere. If they are sexually active together at least they are under your roof where they are safe from many dangers if they were out somewhere. I know if I had a 17 yr old daughter I would rather have she and her bf sleeping together under my roof then out where I don't know where they are or what is happening to them; like murder, kidnapping, rape or any number of things.
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I'd say GTFO.
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I guess this would depend on many factors, but this may be just because your daughter knows you won't do anything about it. Maybe you like the boy or he seems real nice. Does he help around the house? has he offered to do anything in payment of this extended and uninvited extended visit to your home? Most people may just say no to the first night but if they (your daughter and her b/f) have been together for a long time. then some factors might be different than if this is some band dude who smokes on your front porch and raids your refridgerator while you are working your 10 hour day job to earn a living. All in all - if it is YOUR house then it is YOUR rules. If your doing this cause you fear your daughter may leave with him, then there is a respect/control issue problem. I hope that this is not the case, but sit them down and get it straight. If she is in school, he should not be there at all overnight during the week.
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Yeah, I'd say something. Probably I would say something before four days went by.
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He would not even be there for the night,they are 17 for heavens sake..lots of time to stay together after marriage(if they even last that long)
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My 17 y.o. daughter's b/f would not be staying the night .. not even one.
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I'd ask him where the rent money is.
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Well yeah...ask if everything is ok at home. If something is wrong, try to help if you can. If he's just crashing because he doesn't want to go home...make sure it doesn't become a long term thing.
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yeah id say something, id say '' rents due on friday :) ''
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wow. okay. sometimes you just need to chill. my boyfriend stays at my house four days at a time all the time. my parents mind because my little brother gets along with him so well and he helps out so much and my parents trust us. but if it gets to be a problem just tell him politley you think he needs to go and spend some time at home for a little while
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he would not be alowed in the house
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Only an unfit parent would let the guy stay even one night, but you're asking this, so.... I think you should buy your daughter some lube and a red light for her room, possibly a sex swing, and get her bf some velvet jammies and Hi Karate aftershave to wear.
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He wouldn't be staying the night if she was home.
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