i probably couldn't do it, but I'm a guy and almost certain we're not supposed to be able to carry babies

What if you were raped and the child was because of that man? What if you KNEW you wouldn't be able to take care of that child? Would you want to go through that?

As hard as it would be, I would do it IF I could not care for the child...to give the child the BEST life possible and this sure would be a better alternative to abortion. A friend of my daughter has been trying for over 7 years now to get pregnant, jumping thru every hoop she can jump thru and still nothing...she would gladly welcome a child.

Not if your womb had a lease agreement.

I suppose, but I'd also be glad that the child is probably in better hands than mine. I can't spend more than 3 hours with a kid and not get annoyed as hell, usually. Also, I wouldn't want a kid to deal with a depressed adult every day.

You're looking at it from the wrong perspective. If you are in the position that you need to give up your baby for adoption, it probably means that you are completely unable to raise the baby on your own. You probably are not emotionally, mentally, or financially ready for such a huge responsibility. When you give it up for adoption, you give the child the chance to be raised in home with two mature, loving parents who are ready for this challenge. Most importantly, you can sleep knowing you didn't abort it and have it sucked into a sink. You chose to allow it to live. That child will be eternally grateful to you for making such a sacrifice. Adoption is a good thing.

I would rather carry a baby for 9 months & give it up, instead of having an abortion....It would Haunt me to know I killed a child rather than giving him/her a shot at life!

I, personally, don't think I would be able to do that. I'd much rather have an early-term abortion than deal with adoption.

Sometimes, giving up a child for adoption is an act of sacrifice for the well being of the newborn. I wouldn't judge a person that take that desicion based on my own believes, and I don't think that an act of love would or should haunt anyone.

yes, but under certain circumstances its better to give the child up for adoption. if you cant support a baby, and you know you wont be able to provide for it, the right thing to do is give it up to a family tht is capable of taking care of it...but in another case, if youre stupid enough to have sex with no condom when you dont wanna have a baby, i guess no you have to face the responsibility of parenting....so it really all just depends....

No. Yes.

It takes so much more than giving birth to give life. Some young women give their babies the greatest gift, a chance in life. The most unselfesh, love. In this they can smile and be proud instead of perhaps being haunted with abusive guilt.

Haunt? Maybe but it would be harder to find a greater act of love and selflessness.

Each person is different. Some have babies for money and do not care about the kid at all.

it would be very difficult

Apparently it didn't bother my mother, who had me and then promptly left both my father and me. I saw her once when I was ten years old.

Yes, I'd feel awful. That's why I'd get an abortion. Luckily, I don't have to worry about such things.

Personally, for me. Not a chance. I'm way past the age that I'd have to worry but if I couldn't keep it, I'd have an abortion. NOW, Here come the DR's & comments about me being ok with baby killing, blah blah blah

That must be hard, I know I couldn't do it, good thing we have abortion though.

I can't speak to carrying the child and giving it up for an adoption, because I'm a guy, but I can say I sometimes "suspect" that an ex of mine may or may not have had a baby of mine, and it kills me sometimes wondering if there is a child and if it is okay.

I raised my son 6 years and then gave him up for adoption. I often think of him but it doesn't haunt me because I KNOW he has a much better life than what I could give him. IT bothers me that I can't see him and know how he's doing after all I raised him 6 years. It bothers me that his parents decided after a few months that I was to "forget I even had a son and forget he existed" (they told me this).. They fail to realize that without me they wouldn't be parents. I think of and miss my son but I know he has a better life..and NEVER would I have aborted him. My son is almost 16 now.

yeah and i totally feel that way about donating my eggs too!

Not if I knew that someone else could give the child a better life than I could.

My ex-wife did... Pregnant at 17. Catholic. Unmarried, and no real boyfriend. Still in HS, accepted to Purdue for college. Knowing she would not be able to provide for the baby, she went to a Catholic home for unwed mothers, had her baby, and gave it up for adoption, returning to school to graduate with her class. Then she went to Purdue. Did it haunt her? Every year, around the third week of May she would get very melancholy, thinking about him, wondering if he was ok, what he was like, etc. This usually lasted a week or so, then she was herself, again. Thing is, it was better for the baby AND for her to give it up as she did, and she knows that. The home has since shut down, and the lady she kept in contact with from there had died, I believe. She's since put her info on a few adoption search websites, but from my understanding, hasn't heard anything. So either he never knew he was adopted, doesn't want to find her, or something happened when he was younger. I'm sure she hopes it's #1 or #2. Again, though, it's not what's best for you, although that usually turns out to be the case, but what's best for the child. If you can afford it, have the time to spend with it, and have support from family, then go for it. If it would be better off with a loving family who CAN give it more than you can, then it might be better off to give it up. AND, now-a-days, they have adoptions where the Mom who gave the child up is still in contact with the family, and can be part of the child's life. Remember - What's best for the child?

I couldn't do it. I could get an abortion, but would be too attached after 9 months to give it to strangers.

I know this is an emotional topic but the alternative is to kill that child! Would that be easier to live with? I am an adoptive parent who has an open adoption with the birth family so I am obviously pro adoption. I would definitely choose adoption over killing a child if faced with that situation.

i doubt very much that i could carry a child as i am a man,but you must be some hearted person to either kill or give away your child

I probably couldn't do it. But in every family it depends on the circumstances.