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  • It depends on the person. Some women expect chivalry; others don’t like it, and are offended. There is nothing wrong in being chivalrous as long as it is acceptable.
  • i reckon we should all treat each other the same.but this is just my opinion
  • I think that men and women should treat each other with respect. Men can choose to “go the extra mile” and demonstrate chivalry when desired. Look at it this way. Chivalry gives men an extra reason to behave, and that can be a good thing.
  • I have no clue, I try to be chivalrious but some girls just hate it. I mean I had a "FRIEND" that I tried to help carry a heavy object and as soon as I offered that started her on a rant about how I was sexist and didn't think she could do it because she was a woman or something like that.
  • Well if men are expected to be chivalrous, wouldn't that be sexism?
  • No, I don't believe in chivalry. Knowing that you are there for eachother when someone really needs you is far more important than having him -pay the bill -hold the door -buy flowers Actually, I once told my boyfriend off for buying me flowers. He was in dept, so I knew he couldn't afford the flowers. Hopeless romantic.
  • I do believe in chivalry and equality. There is a place for both. On a date and around the person you are seeing, chivalry is great, but I think in places like the workplace, it is probably more acceptable to treat each other equally, though holding a door or two isn't going to hurt anyone.
  • I like old fashioned guys .. so I like chivalry.
  • No as a women I do not want to be treated like a man. I like having privatce in the public bathroom. I like poeple being nice to me because I am a girl or going out of their way to help me. I don't think I have ever had to change a tire lol). And I don't think guys wan to be treated like girls either.
  • I believe in basic equality, but there are times when chivalry has its point. Simply, it acts as a tie-breaker. If everybody insists in going through the door first, you get collisions. If everybody insists on going through second, you get time wasted. So why not say "ladies first"?If there is any real reason for one to go first, then you obey that reason. But if not, chivalry is a pleasant custom.
  • I like to take the gender out of the equation and say that being chivalrous is no different than being a courteous host. Courteous and proper behavior brings comfort to whomever your guest is, regardless of the gender. A gentleman opens doors and invites guests in. A host rises when introduced to shake hands, and waits for his guests to be seated before taking his own. For all you ladies (and I have met a few) that are offended by this "chivalry", sorry... It isn't ABOUT you, it is FOR you. For those who enjoy "chivalry" and are not offended by thinking it is "sexist" - congratulations - You reward your host by being happy in his/her presence.
  • I believe in kindness, not chivalry, per se. I appreciate the door being held open, I appreciate someone yielding a seat because I have a child with me, as I would do so, if an elderly person need a seat.
  • I personally believe that men should treat women kindly, acting like gentlemen. But women should also treat men well. Chivalry is great, but not if the girl is a bitch. So, to answer you question, both, in moderation.
  • This is very difficult for guys because some women today find courtesy and good manners offensive. I like a man that is chivalrous and I am not some useless little anti feminist either. I believe totally in equality but I also believe in Good manners from both sexes. It is extremely rude on a womans behalf to make a man feel bad because he is well mannered
  • CHIVALRY ALL THE WAY! My boyfriend doesn't let me open doors. It's soooo sweet.
  • It is nice for men to do nice things for women sometimes such as holding a door, but I also believe that men and women should be treated equally. Especially in the workplace.
  • Just be polite to people, no matter what their gender, and treat them as an equal. Forget about labeling it, just do it, and maybe the habit will spread!
  • I'm chivalrous to men and women alike.
  • chivalry. don't care what any-body thinks.
  • in the Bible it says to treat others the way you want to be treated. I do my best to be kind, considerate and good mannerd towards girls, but, like Firebrand said "some wemon today find courtesy and good manners offensive" making it difficult for me to get a girlfreind. the girls who have boy freinds chose the "bad guy" type, not the "good guy" type like me.
  • I see chivalry more like politeness. It's nice if a guy opens a door for me, or asks if I'd like his seat on a crowded train - it brings a smile to my face, and that can only be a good thing can't it? This does not happen often, and it's usually older men that do things like this. I don't see it as derogatory in any way, or demeaning to women. Equally, if an elderly man was stood up on a train/bus, I would offer him my seat. This isn't saying to the guy - "I am strong and you are weak" it's just polite.
  • Men and women should compliment each others strengths and compensate for each others weaknesses.
  • I'm not sure I can subscribe to the dichotomy as presented. I believe you can treat a woman as your equal,(after all, she is; it's not a diplomatic stance, but an acknowlegement of fact),and still be chivalrous. The definition of Chivalry is:The qualities idealized by knighthood,such as bravery,courtesy,honor,and gallantry toward women. I think the confusion comes in at this last quality,that is,gallantry toward women. This is meant in the sense of defending women from forceful brutes who lack the aforementioned qualities and thus, seek to take advantage and/or physically overpower a lady in utter disregard to this code,(as well as basic everyday courtesies which the TRULY CHIVILROUS afford to men and women equally). In modern society, where equality is much touted but seldom put into practice and demonstrated,chivalry has taken on a perverted meaning representing a more condescending,insincere and dismissive patronization of women and their LEGITIMATE CLAIM to equality. I don't know of any women,feminist or otherwise who would object to being shown the genuine and honest expressions of real Chivalry as emanating from the sincere heart of a gentlemen who knows its meaning. If you ever meet one, let me know.
  • Like dertster said - kindness, not chivalry. The concept of chivalry is weird and outdated - it goes back to a time and a social class where women were basically pets to be gifted from their fathers to their husbands.. "chivalry" was merely a way for rich men to win the choicest show pony by making *reallyreally* tiny gestures of kindness (like spreading your cape in a mud puddle, something only the rich did and an ordinary peasant 99% of the population never did). It wasn't so much to make the woman happy as to attract attention of rich fathers, so they can marry into the best family. It's a weird and limited courtship ritual that was later romanticized by a an anxious american middle class. In this more recent period the male imitates the ritual to display for the woman his "high class" and ability to provide money and protection. It's always nice to do nice things for other people. But I just get annoyed by guys who will always take off running ahead of me to open the door first, or who will always grab whatever I'm carrying out of my hands so they can carry it instead. WTF? Fortunately in my current relationship I'm an equal partner, so I carry the bags sometimes, and I open the door sometimes, and my bf impresses me with his wonderful personality rather than pointless displays of "manliness". Women help the elderly across the street, or stand up to give the blind man their seat, all the time, and we don't call it chivalry then. We call it "common courtesy". It's only when a guy does it for a girl that it's "chivalrous". Where I'm from you don't get bonus points just for being decent, and there's more to being a good man than tiny meaningless gestures like opening a door.
  • The characteristics of chivalry, such as honor, generosity, and courtesy can be practiced by anyone, male or female. Historically, this high-minded consideration was defined as knight-like behavior (where chivalry has its roots) and given 'especially' to women, but it need not be mutually exclusive of equality.
  • Both in a way if they want to they can and shouldn't be stopped. Just being nice in general is a good thing.
  • It creeps me out when a guy opens/closes my car door and refuses to let me pay for dinner. There's just something that seems forced and contrived about it. Let's all just be nice to each other; it doesn't have to be treating people exactly the same way, like I don't want to send you flowers because you sent them to me, but practice respect and reciprocity and do things out of the goodness of your heart for the people you love, regardless of gender.
  • chivalry for me.
  • Chivalry. It's an idea whose time has come... again.
  • I practice chivalry unless I know a woman is a feminist. If I know she is a feminists, I treat her just like a man, equal to a man, that is.
  • I believe men and women are equal. After all, if not then nature wouldn't create us in almost equal numbers. When I say equal I don't just mean women are equal to men, but also men are equal to women. It goes both ways. I think those little behaviors we call chivalry can be small ways of showing honor and respect to another person. It not a woman's birth entitlement or a man's duty by birth. I don't believe being born one gender or another automatically gives us special privileges. I think it's good for anyone, man or women to do nice things for another person. I think a person can take kind treatment from others one of two ways. They can say, hey, that's a good way to act, I'll treat others well also. Other people might think, yup I deserve this special treatment because I'm so much better then the people being nice to me. I'd rather be generous to the former kind of person mentioned. When there's mutual respect involved I'll bend over backwards for another person.
  • Equality ant the same are 2 different things. There is no harm in treating people kindly whatever their age or gender!
  • a little of both.
  • This may be wrong but I do enjoy doing nice things for my wife, and she enjoys the attention. I am very respectful to all women.
  • The same. Chivalry is not necessary as long as you try to be nice to all sorts of people when you can. Equality means no special treatment for anyone. Women have had it for quite some time, but many still expect all the courtesy that is rooted in the days before women had equal rights. I consider women who think like that to be sexist, in their own way. It is still nice to give a woman a little extra courtesy now and then, as a way of showing her she is special.
  • It completely depends on the woman's preference. I think it's a little foolish to be opening the car door but I'll certainly open a door for a lady when walking into the bank or let her pass through a doorway first. That's my upbringing.... I am however smitten when I see the bottom half of a woman sticking out from under a car or when she has grease or dirt on her shirt and tools in her hand. Again to see a woman riding down the road on a Harley by herself and I'll explain why.... I beleive that most women are easily our equally or more intelligent than many men as well as being more physically capable. A lot of men don't feel comfortable riding a motorcycle or couldn't tell you what a tool is or what it is used for. If something breaks the same man may not be capable of fixing it but it's pretty likely there's a woman out there who can. I absolutely value a woman who refuses to play the '50s housewife and is willing to step forward and pitch in with things she's more than capable of doing. Many men would feel uncomfortable with this. That woman will apreciate me if I open the door for her but won't just stand in front of it until I do. I like that. Sorry about the long answer but BOTH.
  • i like chivalry i think it's nice to some extent. i mean he doesn't have to stand when i do or anything far out like that. but at the same time she shouldn't expect anything more than what the would do. and that ought to be just as nice and courteous as expected of any female
  • My boyfriend is one of the most chivalrous guys I know. I love him so much. I do believe chivalry exists. If I didn't, I would have to deny his very existence. No, I don't think that men and women should treat each other the same, but I do believe that men and women are equals. As much as that might seem like a contradicting thing to say on my part, it's really not a contradiction at all.
  • I still believe chivalry is not dead. But sadly mostly on life support. As my friend and comrade Captain William Turner once said;"No cause is lost so long as one fool remains alive to fight for it!" Of course HE was run through by Davy Jones's sword.
  • Chivalry and feminism are mutually exclusive, which is why feminists call chivalry "benevolent sexism." Feminist believe that men and women should be treated the same, but there are very few feminists around anymore. The vast majority of women are non-feminists and in that they do appreciate chivalry. And virtually zero men are feminists in that they have no problem extending chivalry to women.
  • You can't believe in something that has died out. "Chivalry" is a dead duck. Has been since mediaeval times. It was a form of exaggerated courtesy given by the knights of yore to men and women of 'nobility' i.e. titled men and women. (And if you thought it was just a "woman thing" then you've been watching too many Hollywood films!) Now if you're talking about courtesy that's something quite different. It's something we need more of but some don't seem to realize that it's a two-way street.
  • CHIVALRY SHALL NOT DIE!
  • y should men show women chivalry ?
  • I believe men and women should treat themselves equally on a regular basis. Though I think men should occasionally ut up their chivalistic (is that even a word? v.v') behaviour to impress us ladies. We love it when u do.. but not too often cuz it just becomes the routine.
  • I believe both sexes should have equal respect for each other. I am a male and often I have held a door open for a woman and many of them have not even said thank you - is this chivalry on their part? Equally I have held a door open for a man and mainly they have thanked me possibly because they don't expect another man to be so polite towards them.
  • I used to, until this "feminist" thing came in full force. There are pople, both male an female, who take things--ideology, belief, whatever it may be--to a ridiculous extreme; sometimes leaving one with a bad taste in his mouth. Long time ago I was getting inside a building, there was a woman coming right behind me, and so I did what at that time I thought was the right thing--hold the door for her. With unpleasant disposition she told me: 'I have to hands, I can open the doors by myself'. That was the last time I open or hold doors for any woman.
  • I think there is a balance. I like ceing chivalrous with the ladies. I was pretty much raised to be a gentleman with women. With men I'm polite but it's a little different.
  • Chivalry is just common politeness, and that's always good to have.
  • I believe in equality. Everyone should hold doors for each other, and help wth heavy lifts, regardless of gender. Wew are all human, so we should treat each other humanly.
  • CHIVALRY please.....I hope it isn't dead.

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