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  • Probably just give her the space if that's what she needs.
  • We have been giving each other that space. That has definitely helped us both to think about everything very clearly and logically, without getting drug-down by emotions. The thing is, I am confident we are perfect for each other, and I want to do what's best to allow that to be seen by her too. She said she wants to stay in communication and spend time together. I told her to take all the time she needs for now and to initiate when she is ready to spend time together...and then from there we can go back and forth (keep a balance) with who initiates contact. She agreed. What I'm curious about is: should I let her make the terms on our 'friends' idea or should I initiate the 'no contact rule' (by telling her I need more time and space)? The reason I am unsure is because spending time as friends will allow us to reconnect, but on the other hand, if I back off all the way she will realize what it is about me/us that she loves and that she wants me back as more then just friend.
  • hi there im kinda going through same thing my and my bf of 4 years broke up nearly 4 weeks we meet up last sat as went had tickets to go to some gig things were fine till i mentioned break up then he changed and was funny with me he made a move on me at the end of the night just after a full speech of how we should just be mates i dunno how to cope i am heart broken and wish we could connect i think he needs time to think so i am giving him space i hope it works out for you tho and when u meet up with her see how u act together as when we meet back up there was a spark and it was nice
  • If she doesn't want to be with you there is nothing you can do. That is her way of exiting the relationship with less guilt. Being "friends" and in a relationship should not be mutually exclusive. The only thing I might suggest is perhaps within your relationship you have not been giving her enough time or space to be herself and she may see you as trying to live through her or control her which is a drain on anyone. It should be mutually satisfying for both people , enough so that you are both willing to make whatever sacrifices in favor of the good you are getting from it. I don't think it helps a relationship to be apart - that is more avoiding it than anything.
  • 01-01-2017 That phrase "time to think" tells me that both of you are bored because both of you don't know how to take care of a member of the opposite sex. You want a relationship, but you don't know how to relate. Those are things you should have learned from Mommy and Daddy at an early age. The most important item in a kid's upbringing is the way Daddy and Mommy treat each other. There is nothing now but to learn by accident. I suggest you part on good terms and may someday you will meet again when you have grown into different people.

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