I think whatever goes on between two partners should stay between the two of them and not be spread outside the twosome..you know, keep the faith, keep the sanctity of the relationship. What do you think?
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RosieGHM Jetpacker
ANSWERS: 13
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I think thats a pipe dream thats never going to happen, maybe old folks-old fashion, may keep to themselves, but with Generation X. Everyone has friends they vent to about relationships they have.
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That's the way it should be. Share the good parts of your relationship, the happy events that will make loved ones happy to share with you. But intimate things, problems, or just day to day things that happen between two people should never be anybody else's business. Other people don't need and shouldn't be in your business, neither should one spouse be talking about the shortcomings of their spouse to other people. It's not their business. I think that it's part of the trust and integrity that what goes on between two people stay private.
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I think it depends on what secrets you are keeping from the outside world. If we're talking about minor spats or petty shortcomings, then yes, they should be kept respectfully private. Situations of great emotional stress or abuse, however, I think should *not* be buried under loyalty and sanctity, but rather shared between the closest of friends or professionals that can lend support or aid.
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i totally agree 100%!
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I can agree with that with the exception of mental cruelty and mental and physical abuse. That needs to be taken to police, counselor, divorce court, etc. which ever is needed.
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I agree Rosie. Unless there is abuse. In that case I'd get up and leave. I did that w/my first marriage. Never talked to anyone about it until I decided to leave. Got up and moved out all in one day. When there is abuse, you already know what you need to do. It's just a matter of when and how. No need to discuss it w/everybody. Just do it.
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what goes on behind closed doors, stays behind closed doors. it is no-ones business what is going on. hey, i am 46 and i grew up in a home with old fashion values.
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100% Agree ;)
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I totally agree Rosie, unfortunately people don't always follow that logic. I think part of the reason is that some younger people were never taught how to handle problems on their own or how important it is to keep personal issues private. Today people seek comfort and advice from others and reveal things that should really be kept in their home.
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It's easy to say that one shouldn't speak about what's going on in their relationship however it all depends on the character of that person. I for example used to keep everything to myself.. when I was going through tough times.. however I did speak to my priest during confession about my problems and to my psychologist for some good advice and to my parents to prepare them for the bad news of separation. I am very fragile, very indecisive, very insecure, very sensitive.. How can I survive without opening my heart with some loved ones about what's making me happy or sad!! I never intended to make fun of my partner or to make people dislike him!
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i also think that private relationship matters should stay within that relationship BUT everyove needs to let of steam and in this day people are as close to best friends as they are to their partners. I dont give away intamte details eg his fears/ dreams/ problems just as he shouldnt to me, but the little mundane things that isnt really important (like leaving socks on the floor) and you dont want to shout at your partner (or cant) you can moan at your friends. it is just harmless gossip and as long as it stays harmless its ok, i will never slag him off to my friends or anything Also if he does something romantic or sweet or special i like to tell my friends how happy i am!
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The security and personal stuff,yes,but if they are to share with others their feelings/things done,day to day stuff,no,that's being friendly towards others. I like to express my feelings about my relationships,I am proud and happy,I want others to see what I do about how things are going!
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I agree with you...it is an unspoken rule of a good relationship..
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