Look into an open adoption where you can still have contact with them. And remember, you are likely doing it so they can be in a better situation than you can possibly give them. They would thank you for it later I'm sure. Not saying you'd be bad parent!

Just realize they are going to someone who will love them forever. When the time is right you will be a great mother, also you're doing what's best for them.

If it was me and I cannot raise my twins just now I would put then in an institution and when I am settled and ready I would bring them home...but I admired you that you did not do an abortion at least the twins will have a good life...good luck and take care sweet

This is a real crossroad in your life. You have already showed your maturity beyound your years by electing to adopt out these two babies so that they will have a better start to their life. They are going to thank you one day and invite you back into their lives. I had the same thing happen with my firstborn, who was a girl. I did not see her for 25 years. She then found me and later blessed me with two grandchildren! I am so proud of you that you did not select the abortion route! Good luck!

Be honest with the potential adoptive parents. Let them know how you are feeling. Trust me it is very hard on the adoptive parents when they have hope of a child/children and then the birth parent changes their mind. Even though the adoptive mom is not pregnant, she is planning like she is. Im sure they have already poicked out names and started buying things. Maybe they even fixed up a baby room. They have probably told their friends and family that they are having twins. When a parent is adopting and they already have a child/children picked out and they are waiting for the arival of their new child, it is just like a mother aiting to give birth to her own child. If the biological mom changes her mind and wont mgive her baby up for adoption to an adoptive parent it is just like having the baby die. All of their dreams for the new baby is gone, all of the baby stuff is still around haunting them of the facts that they no longer have a baby. The pain hurts so bad. The sooner you tell them how you are feeling, the better it will be for both of you. Maybe they can even help ease you anxioty about things. Talking with the adoptive parents will also help them be a little bit prepared in case you do change your mind. Now here is what you need to really think about. Why are you having a change of thought? Is it because you think the babies will be mad at you for doing this? Do you think that you will miss out on something? It is normal to have those kind of thoughts. Its a big decision to give up your children. Think about why you first decided to give them up. Is it what is best for them? Can you raise these babies? Do you have the money? Do you have the maturity? Are you stable? Do you have a job? If you have a job who will babysit? How much will it cost? Because you are having twins everything will cost double. So lets say you make $10. an hour. Then you have to pay a baby sitter at $2. an hour per kid (thats a cheap babysitter they are usually more). You have to fork out $4. an hour for a baby sitter, so now you really are only making $6.00 an hour, Not so good. Not enough to support one person on out alone three. Think about all of the stuff those babies are going to need? And what about your personal life, Do you have one? If you plan on keeping the babies, You no longer will have the same personal life. Just going to the movies would be outrages. What does it cost you now to go to the movies? Maybe around $15. Depending on how far away you live and the gas and movie tickets and if you want popcorn. But if you have two babies, going to the movies will cost a baby sitter for three hours A half hour before and after the movie to give you time to get to and from the movie, This will cost you $12. Then you need to provide food for the babies to eat and diapers and clothes all of which had to cost you money. Everyting adds up. More thn likely if you dont have a super job where you make lots of money and you dont have a family who is willing to pitch in and help out for free, Your personal life will go down the drain for awhile. And remember this is only while they are babies. Can you take care of them till they are 18? While they are abies they will need beds, carseats, high chairs and more. And you have to buy double of everything. Im not trying to discourage you. But I want you to really think about it. Raising kids is very hard. I have two of my own and adopted one. And was a foster parent for 4 years. Kids take allot of time and money. Just yeasterday my 11 year old said she wants to take gymnastics. I checked on the price where we live and its $50 a month. She would only get to go 4 times a month for one hour. And my oldest son already is in baskitball that cost $45. plus his new shoes. And my youngest wants to join boy scouts. My oldest son had a birthday in November, then there was Christmas and In March is both of my other kids birthdays. And this does not include the every day things that kids want and need. Clothes, food including school lunches. Medical, fun, personl stuff, school supplies and way more. Can you really provide for these kids? If love were enough it would be easy. But love cant feed, clothe and house a child. If you are worried about loving them and them loving you. The love is still there. My adopted son still loves his bio mom and she still loves him. He is 7 and he knows his bio mom couldnt provide for him. He knows being adopted was the best thing for him. And you know you might also be able to do a trial thing. If you think you want to try and take care of the babies. Giv it your best shot. There is no rule that you cant change your mind after the babies are born and you try to keep them and then find out you cant do it. But The currant potential adoptive parents you have now, might not be there if you do this. Talk with them about how you are feeling.

I hope everything turned out alright for you! You seem like a very sweet person! There should be more out there like you!!! :o)Thank you!

if you feel that way maybe you should keep them

1-22-2009 That was years ago.