If your parents admitted you were an accident, would you be angry with them?
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No not at all. I know I was unwanted. I understand why (teenage mom) though so I don't take it personally ; )
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accident, no. mistake, yes.
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My parents admitted I was a date rape. But what my father intended for evil, God used for Good.
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not at all - i should think 3/4 of the population was 'unplanned!
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How could you be angry at them for creating you, no matter what the circumstances were. Their accident=your life.
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My mom told me that I was an accident. I didn't get mad, because, after all, she kept me. SHE wanted me. My father on the other hand told me that I was a mistake. He said to me that he wishes my mom had gotten the abortion. I didn't get mad, but I was devestated. HE wanted to murder me before he even knew me. The thing that got me was he never said that he didn't want my OLDER brother.
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I know I was not an accident. I imagine I might be a bit hurt to find otherwise. However, my parents love me, accident or not, and THAT is what matters.
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no, i'd be glad that they kept me. it shows that even though i was an accident, i was wanted. I was an accident and i'm happy that my mum wanted to keep me even though she never wanted any children.
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yes, absolutely. I read somewhere that a guy was arrested for stabbing his mother to death when she told him that.
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Not at all I am pretty sure I was an accident they divorced 9 months after I was born.
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i was nt planned but i was a pleasent suprise
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She did. And I was. I think I was more angry that she didn't tell ME, I just happened to overhear while she was telling half the church congregation at a picnic that I was a mistake and she never wanted to be a mother or to get married. B!@tch.
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I was an accident - I imagine most people probably are. I don't see any reason to be mad, I was created, not as a plan to have a baby but out of my parents love for each other. At the end of the day, I was unplanned, which just means they didn't intend to have a baby at that point in their lives, not a mistake. They chose to give me life when they could have chosen not to have me. What reason is there to be angry about it??
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i suppose it would depend on what actions were taken (did they want to terminate, etc). and if these were my adoptive parents telling me. i thought i would be angry at first, but then find the silver living and be thankful i was living.
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My mother did tell me that I was not planned, and it sort of made me mad. I was the first of three children, but the only unplanned one. Of course, after hearing all the trouble I caused at the time, I almost felt guilty instead.
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No. I've always assumed I wasn't planned.
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My eldest sister was an accident and the reason my parents got married. The other six of us was because mum did not want black eyes. My parents divorced when I was ten. Did it make me angry knowing? No, it was their life and choices not mine. My son was planned and even though he was premature he arrived almost exactly when we planned on having him, two years after being married.
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It all depends on context. If it was being said while they were beating me with a 2x4 that would probably piss me off. But if they meant that I was not planned that wouldn't bother me in the least. 50% of pregnancies probably aren't "planned".
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No i've always known! :)
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Nope. Both my sister and I were 'unplanned', 'mistakes', accidents. We never got upset, that's just the way some things happen in life.
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Of course not, and would be totally grateful I wasn't aborted. And besides, there's no such thing as accidental children-- only accidental parents. When a child is born--under any kind of circumstance-- it was meant to be. When another human is created, it's never an accident.... it's always for a purpose.
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No, I would agree :p
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haha I think 90% of us are accidents lol
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I would thank them for not bringing me here on purpose ;)
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My response would be "How do you accidentally adopt someone?"
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Since she kept me and loved me my whole life, I'd just let it roll off me and not get mad.
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No because most of us are here by accident.
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Hi, Tsamaya! There was a time when I would have been, but that was before I had children of my own. Now I would simply tell them thank you for not destroying me. As an adult, my life is what I make of it anyway, regardless how I came to be here :)
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No. They loved me and worked hard all their lives so that my life would be better than theirs.
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No. There are many people that have accidents and the result is a miracle. I would only have feelings about if the parent(s) continued treating the child differently because of it.
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absolutely i would be mad. i asked my mom when i was about 9 years old if i was an "accident", and she responded with "yes, you were both accidents."(i have a younger brother). that hurt me badly. my mom is a bitch anyway. having unprotected sex is asking for a pregnancy, it's not an accident. being on birth control, or having a vasectomy(if it doesn't take) and ending up with a baby is an accident, but i don't think anyone should tell a child, no matter what their age, that they were an accident. wonderful surprise would be much better. the only accident in my birth as far as i am concerned, was God's accident of giving me to the wrong parents!
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I knew I was an accident since my mom got pg at 16. Its when you feel like an accident thats when it becomes a problem. I think parents who come right out and say "you were an accident" are insensitive. Using the term "unplanned" would be a bit better.
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Not at all. Most of us probably were.
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Kids that are just 16 and 19 don't tend to make plans -- I wasn't planned. I'm not angry because I wasn't planned. Heck, my mother never had more children so I don't think she was disappointed.
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No, I was an oops.
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