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  • I dont know whats the problem seem to be?? As in why do u think that?
  • Not sure because I do not know you, but the key to people liking you and enjoying a conversation with you is put the focus on them. Let them talk about them selfs, tell there story's, be interested in them.
  • I think they miss your sense oh humification
  • ... maybe because the word if conversing and not conversating? just kidding... but i find that i am much better "on paper" (or the computer), than in person. ... and i am sure that you are being hard on yourself, and it's not that bad.
  • four things and you will improve: 1. try to speak as much less as you can 2. talk things full of your knowledge 3. always talk positively 4. never disheart someone during conversation..
  • hmmm...well, not to be a Smart-Alec, but maybe it's your vocabulary! There's no such word as conversating. If you are not able to express yourself clearly because you don't have a good, working vocabulary, it could have a negative effect on your ability to converse with people. So that might be something to work on. Also, listening is a really good thing. People really like to be listened to. So if you feel unsure of your ability to tell people things, you can't go wrong by being a good listener. Keeping up with current events so that you will have ready topics of conversation might help, too. Good luck! :)
  • I don't know you well enough to make a truly accurate diagnosis, but I'm assuming you don't have a mental/physical condition such as tourette's syndrome or some sort of speech impediment, correct? If not, then I would probably assume that you aren't very confident in yourself, or you don't have much in common with the people you're talking with.
  • To be quite honest here, I don't know you well enough to answer this question. Are you having trouble learning how to start a conversation with others?...
  • Good rule to follow: Try discussing something other than yourself. Second rule: Don't be self deprecating. You're more likable than you think.
  • Interesting question. It might help if you identify what you think a conversation is before you can understand why you think you're bad at it. Off the top of my head, I came up with the following: 1) You must like to talk. 2) You must be interested in things that people can relate to and offer feedback on. 3) You must like to HEAR yourself talking. 4) You must know how and want to communicate. 5) You must enjoy socializing. 6) You must be a good listener. This is a good exercise for me because I'm not good at conversations either. So taking each point, I'll try to find out why. 1) I don't really like to talk. I think this is mainly because... 2) ...I don't have anything interesting to talk about. I can talk well enough when it comes to subjects I know, but I know very little. And, what I DO know (in my opinion) wouldn't make for a good conversation. Having said that... 3) ...there are people who converse about ANYTHING. They'll talk about the weather, their health (or lack, thereof), other people, tv shows...the list is endless. Having no interesting topic of conversation is not an issue with them. I guess I'd rather do something beside listen to myself talk about "nothing". 4) I encounter people who seem to believe talking is communicating. They're not interested in whether or not you understand or have an opinion concerning what is said, they just want to offload their junk onto you (vomit). I don't vomit on people and I don't like people vomiting on me. 5) If you look read carefully, points 3 and 4 closely describe what most people accept as "socializing". Needless to say, I don't like socializing. 6) Finally, I'm not a good listening. I'm not interested enough in people to participate in idle conversation (see 3, 4 and 5). That's MY list. Try coming up with one of your own. -
  • Because most people are boring robots who don't want to conversate. I think thats the most likely answer.
  • First using proper English might help the word you're looking for is "conversing" second might be a self image problem or you don't believe you have anything to say that others would want to hear. But remember you are important, there is a place here that only you can fill and you have things to share that others might never think of. Jump into it. The more you do it the easier it gets, like most things.
  • Because you're trying too hard. When you stop being so self-conscious and critical of yourself, that's when you'll succeed in society. Be comfortable, be yourself and don't let others intimidate you.
  • maybe youre shy

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