ANSWERS: 11
  • Wow, that sounds far too drastic to me. Don't you think, having their name on a billboard, would just deepen the grudge? How long has it been? Is he/she the type of person to not care about anyone else's feelings? What caused the grudge? Did you apologize?
  • If I were the grudge holder, I would forgive you, but if I were you, I'd think twice about using the word 'senselessly', because you're implying the grudge makes no sense and therefore insulting me again. Oooh, I'm being really tough on you today, aren't I?! First I wouldn't hire you, now I'm correcting your choice of words... sorry ;)
  • someone...somewhere is going to hate us at some point of life...are you going to be senselessly hurt ALL the time? Save it and move on. Let the person cool down first and when they do, apologise again. NOTHING you can do now when he/she is at the height of their grudge will make them forgive you. If I am angry with someone, and the person do what you are thinking of...I will probably dislike you even more for not knowing when to back off.
  • If someone is unwilling to forgive you by you trying to persuade them then I doubt a billboard would change their mind. Creative thinking though.
  • you will never persuade someone to drop their grudge against you. No antics like renting a highway billboard will do the trick. Sounds like something a dude would think of. Figure out other ways to make it up to them. Women want someone to listen to them. They also want someone who will be there for them and not take them for granted. Doing all of these elaborate things to get back in their graces is a noble effort but it still doesnt change the fact of what you did to that other person. Learning to forgive yourself is the first step in the recovery process. Be their friend first before trying to gain thier intimatacy. And lastly, always know when to pick your battles. Life is simple...it's people who make it difficult.
  • I think it would make you look foolish you can't help the way they feel only the way you react to it
  • A grudge is different to wanting nothing to do with someone because they sicken a person. You sound like a crazed stalker. By the way, I have asked you to leave me alone a number of times so please do that or I will report you. I want nothing from you or to have any contact with you. I have no idea why you keep pestering me. Down rate me all you like, I have no feelings about that. Just leave me alone.
  • If I was the grudgeholder and I saw a billboard with my name on it, it would piss me off, so no your idea would not work. Obviously whatever you have done to them, was pretty bad and they do not wish to forgive you, that is their choice. Not all relationship are repairable. Why do you say senselessy? it makes perfect sense to them, just not you, because you dont want them to be mad at you. You arent taking the blame for your actions, your trying to turnn the table around now and make them look like the bad guy.
  • First, the billboard ad would be far too much money to waste on a vain attempt at reconciliation. Second, your choice of words tells me that you've put the blame on the other person and are not acknowledging your own shortcoming - it definitely is not an apology, rather further insult to pile on top of the injury that is already there. Third, if you can't convince someone to release a grudge you and the other person are far better off apart.
  • Stop pushing the subject. You have to learn to accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you. Trust me, I used to care, and now I don't anymore... (well i kind of do)
  • Let It Go. You cannot and should not try to control the feelings of others. Let them carry the burden if that's what they choose to do. But put yours down you don't have to carry it anymore.

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