Are you ok, Wanbli? :( I think the answer is, you simply do it because you have to. There's nothing wrong with feeling crushed because what you asked for slipped from your grasp. You have to try to believe that it won't always be that way, and that someday the little that you ask for will be yours. Don't give up! <<man-hugs>>

Chief you ok? Same as Penal, ya want to talk you know I'm here for ya buddie. Email in my Profile and that's .com btw. I don't like you being sad my friend :( Please let me know if I can help!!

Im sorry. I don't have an answer, but I am a good listener, like everyone else if you need to talk my email is in my profile its .ca though. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

I am not sure what context this is, but I am going to assume it is a relationship. I had what I think is a similar situation. I know sometimes you put your all in to a relationship and the other person doesnt and it really hurts when they can just walk away, when you gave it your all, I was devastated when it happened to me, I didnt see it coming. I was so in love with him I thought he walked on water, I thought everything was perfect. He left me while I was at work, wimp. I took me two years to even date again, I was gun shy and didnt want to get hurt again. I put the next person through the wringer, asking him a million questions, I talked him online for months before I would meet him, I took my time to get to know him. That was five years ago. Now that I look back, it was a great thing that happened, The previous turned out to be a person who liked to live off woman, when he got bored, he moved onto his next victim, he was very self centered and only cares about himself. I know right now it is hard to see that it could be a good thing, but sometimes things happen for a reason, you are now available to meet the right person for you. It may sound harsh to some, but let the next one prove to you that they want to be with you. Not just say it. Sorry, I went on and on.

Sometimes you just take some time for yourself and don't worry about picking up, it will come in time. I went through a very painful time and did whatever I could to just deal with it in my own way and didn't try to push myself. I'm sorry you're going through a rough time right now and will pray for you, if that is ok.

I personally turn to life and channel all my energy into being myself. Often I have found that I need to ask something or I have given away my very soul!

Forget about that little thing. Learn to consider it unworthy of your attention. Keep walking ahead as if nothing happened. Learn the lesson - to avoid expectations.

Realize that you may be better off without the thing you were grasping for.

To live in the past live in the present live everyday for the day and the moment. Make everyday count and know that everything happens for a reason.

I guess you just have to think that you deserve more and are better of on your own, things will get better in time, sometimes i guess we have to be sad to appreciate real love, every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end ;0)(((((((((()))))))))))))))

With dignity.

You need to allow yourself to be angry and sad in a healthy way. Anger and sadness often come in alternating waves after you've lost what you were "holding on" to. It’s okay to feel both these emotions. It’s not okay to do something destructive to yourself or others, though. Accept your anger and/or sadness by engaging in activities that let it out in a healthy way. Everyone has methods to help them work through things. Some people write poetry, others work out, cook, or talk to friends. Whatever your “safe” outlet is, use it to focus the lingering feelings you have from your painful experience. Take care of yourself. Eat right. Exercise. Hang out with friends. Try to get enough sleep. In short, don’t let the pain make you physically sick. When your body is healthy, you feel good. When you feel good, you make good decisions and have a healthy self-esteem. Picture the day when you’ll be happy again Life can seem like a pretty bleak place when you’ve just weathered a break up. But keep in mind, that if your relationship is over, it was unfortunately for a reason. That means the ONE absolutely perfect for you is still out there!!! Remember, you deserve to be happy!

most times its not a matter of choice..unfortunately life does not pause or take a break when things fall apart for oneself..the world keeps right on going and so you really don't have any other choice but to drag your butt up off the floor and move forward

Just understand and know that things happen for an intent to bring you to a greater place i life and know that maybe your want was not as good as you are going to recieve. Everything has a purpose maybe the problem is you have not asked for what it is you truely want or maybe you have sold yourself short. I always ask for the very best for me and all who are involved along with the knowledge that may be what I have in mind is no where near what as good as it will be.

Believe... believe that good can still come to those who wait. Sometimes what we ask for, no matter how little isn't really what we need. Believe that the empty places will be filled with something better than what you thought .... you wanted. (This question fits my life so perfectly right now).