• This is a common problem that people run into when out among random strangers. I think the most workable approach is to try and be at gatherings of people that you do have common ground with, whatever that ground happens to be.
  • I gave up trying to be social. If they want to start a conversation I'd let them and go from there not the other way around.
  • You may suffer from low self esteem. Do you also worry that what you have to say will be stupid or not interesting? Might be worth checking that out.
  • Brag about your sexual prowess. I'm not even kidding.
  • i have this problem also - i usually open up the most when i'm with people i've known for years. try asking a person about themself; most people love to talk about themselves.
  • If you have money to throw around so that you keep throwing out free parties or shouting large groups of people out to dinners every weekend, you'll be a very sociable person in just a couple of months.
  • "It's hard for me to think of stuff to talk about with people sometimes." I find that hard to believe, given the evidence below: ;)
  • I find that looking at a subject in more detail helps me make any conversation become an adventure. It is much about looking at a photo. some see a nice picture and will say I seen this lovely picture today of a boat on the water it took my breath away. And some will say. I saw this picture today that brought back memories of when I went to the ocean. It was one of the greatest times of my life. The point here is people do love to listen but they need a story not a sentence. a story always grabs an attention where a sentence is forgotten as soon as another speaks. although we all simply can not be story tellers and I suggest you be who you are and not feel that you need to change for anyone if you are happy with yourself. Just remember my friend your life is as interesting as you picture it.
  • Step 1 Keep up with current events, movies and the latest television shows so that you can use them as conversation starters. When there's a lull in the conversation, you'll always have a topic of conversation to help get it started again. Step 2 Greet people with a warm smile and ask them about themselves. People love to talk about what's going on in their lives and you might find you have things in common to keep the conversation flowing. Give them your undivided attention; don't allow yourself to worry about what you are going to say in response. Step 3 Make eye contact when someone is talking to you and you'll seem more outgoing. If you find it too difficult, look at the space between their eyes or at their foreheads instead. To them, it'll seem like you're looking them in the eye and it's a little easier on you. Step 4 Join organizations, social clubs or sports teams that interest you. Get involved at your church or volunteer for a cause that's important to you. It's easier to get to know people and learn to be more outgoing when you share similar interests with those around you. Step 5 Call some friends and suggest an activity you can all do together. Being the organizer for the group gives you good practice in being more outgoing and gets you out of the house where you can meet more people.
  • I've found the power of just smiling and asking someone how their day is going can be amazing. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate. It's best to just build a comfort level when talking to others and learning how to ask open ended questions that make the other person feel comfortable, too. You have your personality type. You won't become more outgoing all the time. But it's great for even the shyest people to learn that there's always ways of sparking a scintillating conversation out and about!
  • First and foremost, though it's been mentioned it deserves repeating, smile. You're a pretty girl, a warm smile will go a long way. Best conversation starters are questions about the other person. What do you do? Where are you from? What do you do for fun? What kind of movies do you like? Do you have any pets? (this is really good to get to know someone, your pet says a lot) Just keep trying to get to know them and let them know about you as it fits into conversation.
  • Be a good listener! People LOVE to be listened to. If you focus your attention on them they will think that YOU are charming.
  • I was very shy and introverted when I was younger so I know what you mean. You can always ask what their hobbies/interests/passions are..people enjoy sharing information like that. Then perhaps among them you will find something in common..something you are also passionate about. Then you're off and running! Happy Monday! :)
  • Be like a little kid. Be curious about how everything works. People love to talk about themselves. So, just keep the topic of conversation about them.
  • I suggest that maybe you don't be. I have only three real friends (and my brother) that I spend time with but every one of them is solid and every one one of them I get along very well with (and can always think of stuff to say to). When it comes to friends and being social, quality (meaning people you connect the best with) and not quantity really is the way to go.

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