If you had a friend who complained a lot about their life, would you drop them?
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Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 32
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Yep. People like that are not worth the energy one puts into the relationship. They're usually all about them and drama
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I'm about to. She doesn't seem to care about what i have to say. grr
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I would say "shhh"
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I would try to help them and to be as good example. But if they just didn't change, I'd quit hanging around them.
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a TRUE friend is willing to listen and be there for you in the bad times. I don't know very many people who have bad times and don't complain. You are either a part time friend who is only in it when you need something (fake) or a TRUE friend who is there when they need you. I think this is a question only you can answer.
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Not nescessarily, but I would tell them to put up or shut up!
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I do have a friend just like this. She's very negative and feels the world is out to get her. I stand by her because, despite her being hard work, she's my oldest and best friend, and she's syood by me during terrible times
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No not at all!!!
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If they complained so much that they never listened to my own complaints then forsure.
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I wouldn't drop them but I'd probably become very tired of listening to it since I'm not a counselor or psychologist. If they're truly have real problems that's one thing, but if they're just a whiner that's another.
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It depends on whether not they were willing to do anything about what their complaints were about. If they just want someone to sit and listen to them whine, forget it.
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No. They would remain my friends... until they drop me bwahahaha. They can't get away from me ;)
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Why should I? He/she is only complaining because something is missing, that's all.
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No, if they wanna complain about their life, I may be the only one willing to listen. :)
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If it was all the time, yes. Everyone has problems and life has never been a cake walk for anyone. I would definatley get sick of hearing it.
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If all my friend did was complain about life, it would be very difficult to bring up the positive aspects of life which I experience--it feels much like boasting. If I cannot help my friend seek out the more positive facets of life on this earth, I can clearly see the relationship falter. Friendships are about uplifting one another; when one person is constantly destroying what the other builds, the builder will abandon that particular site in search of a site which won't be undermined. I have a friend who sees nothing good in life outside of an imaginary relationship with a man who has expressed to her on many occasions he doesn't love her. Because she continues to run back to that man and ignore the advice of her friends, she has lost the support of those who were once very close to her, including myself. There is only so much negativity (as well as complete self-disrespect, self-hatred, and insecurity) I can accept into my life.
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I tried for 7 years with friend and she did not change a bit. For many times i want to give up on herbut i didnt because she is one of my best friend and she cares alot about me, my wife and my kids. To survive the negativity I started ignoring the bad comments and gave her attention changing subjects or else.
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Not without giving them a chance, each time they bring up all the negative stuff, bring up positive memories and positive things about their lives. They may not even realize they are being negative all the time... maybe it you keep being positive, you will rub off on them. If not, then run, Zack, run, because being around negative people is draining.
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Hmmm...tricky. Well...here's my honest opinion. I will be a friend. Listening, guiding, doing the best I can to be a shoulder to lean on. But if all they're doing is sitting on their ass complaining and doing nothing ... It all becomes a "shhhhhhhh" . What was that? Your life is terrible because...shhhhhhhh. Ahhh. Much better. Let's go get some coffee :)
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No! I'll take him/her to a person who is very happy in his life,to take a cue!!
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Naw, at this point in my life I want to hear other peoples misery so then mine doesnt seem as bad
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No, we all go thru our ups and downs so I would listen that's what friends are for. But if it's just a habit of having to complain about everything and feeling sorry for themself 100% of the time, then I would take a break from that friend.
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No. I'd just let them vent off their steam by listening quietly.For some all the complaining is a release against the frustrations of life and cribbing helps at times.I'd listen patiently.
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No. I'll try to give them advice that their life isn't as bad as everyone. Example the people in Africa.
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Well, I have an amazing friend who listened to my complaining when I was having a hard time and I appreciated it so much. Now she is having a few problems and I am able to listen to her. You never know when your life can go wrong. You never know when you may need their support.
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If it was trivial, bothersome whining about stuff that people go through everyday, yes I would politely tell them that stress and some depression is a part of life and to suck it up. But everyone needs a friend in actual tough times.
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I would have to drop them because their depressed and I dont like to be around depressed ppl because then I get depressed and yeah....
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No, that's probably a bad thing to do, someone in that state may be suicidal and need all the friends they can get.
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I probably wouldn't drop them, but I might limit contact with them if htey were too negative all the time.
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It all depends on if they are a real friend or not. If you have to ask yourself whether or not their company is worth dealing with their complaining, you should also ask yourself why you consider that person a friend. Maybe they're just an acquaintance whose feelings matter to you only because you don't want to hurt anyone or cause confrontation. But if they are a true friend, you should be able to approach them with your concern about their constant complaints. Maybe they're depressed. Maybe they're just whiney. Maybe they're spoiled. Maybe their life really sucks, and they need help. At any rate, if you can't be there for said "friend," you need to let them know. If they keep pestering you unwittingly while you're trying to spare their feelings, the most likely result will be an unpleasant out-burst and a huge mess that will consume more of your time than the complaining alone.
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Yes, off the side of a building
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For sure..complainers get boring very quickly. Everyone has challenges/problems/tragedies/hard times..if we all went about our lives constantly complaining nothing would get accomplished. No one would ever move forward. You get stuck in a complainers/whiner's/moaners/groaners/woe-is-me'ers rut and it begins to sound like a broken record. Forget about yourself for once and look outside your own small world..there are others out there who have it much worse than you do and they don't complain. Like Archie used to tell Edith.."stifle yourself"! :)
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