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  • I'd still say he is a "player" and to look elswhere., as he obviously has. At age 16 there are alot of guys around who will not play with your emotions like this.
  • Well, last year I was in a situation where the person I 'loved' would pretty much do the same thing - tell me that they loved me and then go out with someone else. It took me nine months to realize I had better things to do with my time. If they really loved you, they would be there for you as you have been there for them. And you know that. Your looking for the cure-all answer that will make everything better- the magic words to say so that they'll look at you with magic in their eyes and no one else. Unfortunately, I, along with everyone else here, can't give you that. When you're trying to get over someone it's hard. incredibly hard. Keep as busy as possible, and date someone else if you can. Don't let yourself forget what it is this person has done. If they crawl back to you in a few months sobbing and apologizing, take it from there. But don't wait for it to happen.
  • tell him how you feel. my now husband was my boyfriend on and off for 4 years. and now weve been married for 10. You need to communicate your feelings or he will never know.
  • You have to move on as hard as it is; I know because when I was around that age the boy that I completely adored just completely broke my heart. When I was 16 I just thought he was the world, and we would be together forever, and after we broke I just couldn't take it and downed a whole lot of pills because I didn't know how to handle heartbreak at that age. If you're really feeling as hurt as I was, just remind yourself so many girls have been through the same thing, and it takes a lot of time, but it passes and you just learn to move on.
  • I'd say he's playing you. Your issue in letting him go is less about your love for him than it is about your love for yourself. (I've been 16. I did let go at 16. It IS possible, but it is ALSO very, very hard.)
  • Try the "do unto others" principle. Imagine that you are in his position. That is, YOU have a new boyfriend and YOU "still tell" HIM that you love him. How would you want him (not your new imaginary boyfriend) to treat you? Would you want him to wait around for you even though you have a new boyfriend? Would you expect him to devote himself to you even though you won't devote yourself to him? Now you might not even be able to imagine being with anyone else because you love him. He, on the other hand, CAN both imagine AND be with someone else. What might that say about his "love" for you?
  • someone else has been through that! I know what you mean, but hang on, make sure he doesnt hurt the other girl, but watch him and check if he really does love you. You dont want to rush into it, so make him prove he loves you, then show him you love him back. Hes gotta earn your luv babe!
  • its impossible to forget someone you love. you just have to wait and have time play its roll. maybe you two will get back together and no matter what it will still hurt to see him with someone else. even if your in a relationship with a new love. trust me i know.
  • don't forget about it, every love you have in your life results inthe love you give to another. this is just another lesson in life. never regret that you loved that person, dont become bitter. yes you have to move on and it hurts just look at every other hot guy out there and think now you have the freedom to flirt with them. think of the feeling when a relationship first starts.
  • I know that it is really hard to let go of someone that you love. I am a guy and I went through the same thing with my exgirlfriend. Look at it this way; you know that you love him but the reason why he is dating someone else is because he is probably afraid to love and that is one of the hardest things to get over. You will grow from this experience and it will be hard to move on but try to find someone who will except you for who you are. Everyone in this world should realize that it is what is in the heart that counts. You will probably date him again before you can get over him. It took me six times before I got over it. All I can say is good luck to you and I hope that you will make a decision that makes you happy.
  • Well....I would say that he is using you as a backstop just in case the relationship with the new girlfriend doesn't work out. He obviously knows how you feel about him, and he's happy to use that for his own benefit. How do you know you're not just one of a string of other girls who he professes to love? You are obsessing about him and yearning for the safety and security of 'real love'; He is dangling that in front of you like a carrot on a stick to keep you hanging around. No matter what he says, he doesn't love you. Unfortunately only time and a lot of heartache will enable you to see this jerk for what he is.
  • Been there and it DOES hurt a lot. But he obviously doesn't truely know the meaning of the word love. As long as he chooses to be with someone else you have to do your very best to accept it and have zero contact with him. If he is still the one making contact with you just tell him nicely that you can't see/speak to him right now because you still have strong feelings for him and it just hurts you too much - tell him he made the choice to not be with you to be with others and you are trying to come to terms with it and respect his decision - and that he should do the same. Don't let him play you just to keep his options open and feed his ego. I know this is hard but try to keep busy doing things that you like. "If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was."
  • You THINK it's impossible because you are 16. What in the world are you allowing yourself to be debased so for? He has moved on, and obviously you were unwise in getting involved. The reality is that this should be a life lesson for you. You are WAY TOO young to be so bamboozled. There are much more important areas for you to focus on, chief among them SCHOOL. For the REST OF YOUR LIFE, you will have to live with the decisions you are making RIGHT NOW. The course you set determines to a very large degree what you will get in life. And I'm not just talking 'trailer park versus country club', though that is apropo. It is more important that you strive to be HEALTHY in all relationships. Fixations and excesses are hallmarks of a co-dependant personality, and you would do well to shun that as much as you are able. You have tremendous potential, and a lifetime ahead. One bad apple should not get this much attention; he is not worth it, and you end up the loser.
  • i know how hard it is i am around the same age and i cant let my partner go even though i want to, but before that we were friends and we never left each others side but then we just drifted apart and it killed me and i never forgot now in a relationship with that person love them but dont want to lose them as a friend also but dont let him play games with your head or your heart. ask him if he is serious adn if he says yes then give him an altomatum "her or me" and see if he really means it x
  • I know it's hard, but I'd have to say that you should realize that if he did love you, he would be with you. So I hate to tell you, but you should forget him. There are plenty more fish in the sea... and plenty more years to find the right guy who isn't dating someone else.
  • dnt forget him if he still loves you and you love him,yall still love each other but if he move on maybe you should to. you can still love somone but you can like other people. he moved on but he still loves you dont forget him but move on
  • Girl his playing you because he knows he can......your making his life way too easy and yours so hard. Nothing is impossible.....what ur trying to hang on is impossible...his with someone els!!!!!.....words are cheap with this guy.....if you think what his doing is LOVE then u really need a reality check. Ur oviously hurting...and its unhealthy for u to hang around and wait on him......this Guys doesnt really care or is too imature too realise his games are hurtful and dangerous. Put ur needs first and take of urself by letting him go.
  • At 16 you have to realize that A. This is not the only relationship you will have and B that you will love and loose a lot of people in your life. I know it's hard. When I was 16 I was in your situation, I let him string me along for a year, ended up pregnant with his baby, thought that we'd be together forever and be happy, well when I was 18, I was a single mom with a 1 year old child and the "love of my life" was gone back with his ex. I moved on, took a year or two, and now I'm in the best relationship I've ever been in. Don't worry. 16 will pass you by before you know it. In 4 years, you won't even remember his name. Good luck to you. Concentrate on your studies, go to college and become a big shot. LOL!
  • LOOKING AT IT IN THE EYES OF A 16YR old my advice is are you willing to shear him with another girl or are you going to let him keep playing with your head you are to good for him think about it.
  • is this angelica?! lol!! if your not ill still answer...my biffle is in the same situation and if hes not willing to be with you and dump the other girll you can def. do better. you know better YOU GO GIRL!
  • Im 17 and I know how you feel. But listen to me here, dont foget him completely, move on. YES they are different things. Learn from what happened, and take what you know to your next relationship. Youre caring, and thats a wonderful virtue. He obviously in NOT caring if he wants to lead you on in such a cruel way. Late him go and get someone caring, like you deserve.
  • It just seems impossible...but sweetheart if he really loved you, he wouldn't have a new girlfriend. Don't miss out on something, or someone, waiting on something else. In the end, you regret the time wasted and the opportunities that passed you by. Someone told me one time that "Maybe we're supposed to meet a few wrong people before meeting the 'right one', so that when we finally meet that person, we will know how to be grateful and appreciate them and the happines they bring to your life." Hang in there, it isn't impossible! You're just 16, the doors to many opportunities and possibilities are just beginning to open. Don't lock them out b/c of a man...Instead open them and close the door on him. Good Luck! Hang in there, it will get easier, I promise! I know, I was once you!
  • I went through pretty much the same thing at that same age (im 24 now)granted it was my girlfreind that did that to me. We were together for two years, then she slept with my worst enemy after we had promised to be celibabte untill we married. Months later she claimed she never loved him and still loved me. the reality is that she was too much of a coward to simply move on and tell me she wanted to move on. On the other hand, ive been on the other side of that coin, and truth be told, I told her (another girl) i still loved her because i wanted somthing else from her... we wont go into detail on that. I concider myself to be a decent guy, much more decent than your typical guy. but in the end, sometimes we just fuck up. and we say things to get what we want even if it goes against our better judgement.At 16 things feel soo intense because its the first time weve had these feelings. Now, as far as what to do, Look in yourself and ask, "what do i really want?" lying to yourself dosent work because you know the real answer. My advise would be to "forget him." let yourself be sad, angry and all that crap. Grow past this relationship and learn from it. eventually you will see that all you really miss is being with someone. Take care. Cramidy
  • you should realize hes probably playing you. if hes not then hes lying to himself. either way hes fooling someone and its probably you. if he does have a new girlfriend there isnt really anything you can do about it. if he breaks up with her you could always get him then. i hate to say it but the chances are that at 16 you probably love him with whats in your pants rather than whats in your heart. if you arent that way he probably is. i wish you the best of luck. date people who you can trust more
  • im going through the same thing write now.and it sucks like hell.trust me...im in soo much pain.i go to sleep at night haveing dreams about hime,then when i wake up i know hes not there,thats the part that hurts the most.plus me and my ex were together for a year and 3 month . he just broke it off out of nowear?i still love him with all my heart...plus he has a new girlfriend,he keeps sending me emails saying he loves me and to wait for him.me and him have a very sexual relatinship too,so it felt like he used me,im only 17..at this age it is very hard,so sweetie hold on ok,try not to think about him,trust me its so hard not to think about him.his still apart of my life,i still dream about him,when we were happy.we should take more...my email lashellparis@yahoo.com
  • i know how you feel! its really hard when your really little! haha im 16 nd thats happened to me before..nd if he really loves like he says he does..then he would be with you! so he must still have feelings for this girl..but do you best to show him that you want him nd you*ll do anything for him! i love to hook people up! wellp if you need help add me to msn its miss_giggles57@hotmail.com er e-mail me at yahoo its yummie_licious23@yahoo.com *bbye..&&
  • well,last month ago i been to that situation.i just keep myself that hes just fool around with me.but i learned my lesson.my advice to you.if he really like or loves you he will said that and meant it.don't wait your time on him if he don't take seriouly to you.
  • WELL I AM 16 MYSELF,AND I HAVE EXPERIENCED PAIN FROM A YOUNG MAN THAT DECIDED HE WOULD FIND HIM ANOTHER FEMALE WHILE STILL EXPRESSING HIS FEELINGS TO ME.IT IS NOT WORTH IT! ALL WOMEN HAVE A LIGHT,WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IT OR NOT AND WITH OR WITHOUT HIM YOU CAN SHINE.LIFE IS TO SHORT TO BE STRESSED,HURT AND WONDERING ABOUT SOME BOY THAT WANTS TO PLAY AROUND.HE WILL EVENTUALLY COME TO HIS SENSES AND REALIZE WHAT HE HAD... AND THAT'S WHEN YOU MAKE HIM SUFFER,AND IF HE DON'T COME BACK, THE HELL WITH HIM!LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLIEST SMILE WHEN YOUR HURT AND CRY WHEN YOUR HAPPY AND UNDERSTAND THAT YOU HAVE A BETTER PURPOSE THEN SITTING AROUND WAITING FOR SOME BODY THAT EXPECTS YOU TO BE HIS FOOL!!!
  • hrm. for one, you're 16. i was in love at 16... but y'know, serious relationships... not all that worth it at that age, kwim? you've got college ahead of you.. so much to do and so much freedom.. why not enjoy it instead of getting mired by boys? seriously.. they're too much trouble at that age. most of them aren't mature enough to really know what love is or how to treat a woman. mainly they're just after nookie. as for this specific situation, if he loves you, then he'd be out of that relationship. just the fact that he's not shows two things: that he's either a) too chicken to break it off with the other girl, or b) wants two girls at one time, either way, he's not worth your time. that's not what love is. love is self sacrificing, giving action. it's not a fluffy feeling. teens often mistake intense physical attraction and infatuation as love.. and believe me, after going through it in high school and six years of marriage, love is far from what you experience in the beginning of a high school relationship. i'm not trying to put it down, because it's amazing, new, and a whole lot of fun, but it does lead people to make some stupid decisions. i wouldn't give this guy the time of day when it comes to romance. he's got some growing up to do and if you keep it up, he'll likely break your heart. save your heart for someone who's worth giving it to, and who knows how important and precious it is, and will treat it as such. you're worth more than being on the back burner, know what i mean?
  • When you are deeply in love with someone, you do whatever it is you can to keep that person...I have spent the past nine years doing just so. I have been through the other girlfriends and everytime I found a way to place the blame on myself...I alwasy took him back and would never accept the truth for what it was...This is NO way to live...I kept it up I know but looking back, after suffering for much of those NINE years, I realize I should have cut my losses and made the change long ago - Being such s young girl - you have so many many options out there..I say do not cut your own chances or you will end up quite possible like me - with regrets and feelings that I wasted all these valuable years when I might otherwise have been happy...
  • if he loves you then why is he with someone else? its not impossible even when your 16. just think about all the fun your gonna miss out on while you stressing about someone who obviously doesnt stress about you.
  • I'm not going to be able to tell you what you want to hear. This guy is using you big time, because if he really loved you he would be with you. Plain and simple. What he's doing is using the "I love You"s to keep you hanging around while he plays the field. ANd when he's done with whoever he'll drag his sorry butt back and use you till he finds somebody new. And then he'll dump you again. I'm afaird you're going to have to do the hard, grown up thing and move on. After all, he has or he wouldn't have a new girlfriend.It's not impossible. If I can move on from a man I was with for 7 years and have a child with you can move on from some boy in high school. And belive me there's much better out there just waiting to be had. And one other thing, while you're waiting onMr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now you might want to start hitting the books and joining some clubs so you can develope who you are and become a more rounded person who doesn't need a man to complete her.
  • The truth is no one can tell you what to do, how to feel, or when to get over something. The ideal answer is for you to tell him it isn't ok for him to share these feelings for you if he is with someone else, however, if we are keeping it real, that isn't easy. So, I would suggest evaluating the situation: what is it about this guy that you love so much? why is he with someone else? what is his motivation for telling you how much he loves you? things and people change, and if you really love someone, you will always love them and have a special place in your heart for them, but it is important to think of the motivation behind someone elses actions. You will put up with it for as long as you are willing to, or until it hurts you so much you can't take anymore...and he will continue to treat you however he wants to, because he knows you will stick around.... I bet that doesn't sound too helpful. But just ask yourself those questions, maybe even ask him those questions...and your eyes will start opening up to different possibilities... I hope it works out for you in the end!
  • i can honestly say im goin through the same thing i love my ex wit all my heart but he is engaged and has a baby on the way and he keeps tellin me he loves me as well but ive decided that im gettin no where and if he truely did love me he wud b wit me not her so my advice to u and believe me i will b followin this as well is leave him alone and find sum one who is single and wants u and only u and that will make u happy i no it seems impossible to do rite now and believe me its tearin me up doin it as well but it will serve u in gd stead by the way im only 17 so im really close to ur age as well
  • He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Dump him.
  • Hey, I'm not "16" yet, but I am close. I'm 15. And yea, I just broke up with my boyfriend because he is just, well BLEH! But for you, my best friend has been exactly in this situation. Her boyfriend told her the same thing, and a few days later, he hooked up with different girl and dumped my friend! She cried for 3 hours and broadcasted it on Z1077(it was funny kind of) But still, if he says he loves you, then just dont believe it, I mean, YOU CAN DO BETTER THAN HIM, cant you? He is playing you like a fool. Just try to be friends for him and try to open your own possibilities for othee wonderful guys. I bet they will be lining up just to see you!
  • this happened to me and i'm 16. the guy kept going back and forth between me and the other girl. he was older and so was the other girl. i didn't handle things how i should of. it took me a year to finally realize he's not the one for me. it's hard, and you'll do it in your own time but eventually you'll see it's best to keep your distance, as much as that's not what you want to hear. even if he does come back to you and realizes he made a huge mistake, nothing will be the same.
  • When you are 16 or around that age, time is forever. You can forget him with your brain - you're speaking of forgetting him in your heart. Much more different, much more difficult. You have to try to remember that nothing in this life is permanent. You two broke up for whatever reason and he moved on. You have to face that he doesnt want to be with you anymore- he wants to be with this new girl. You said your heart tells you he loves you. That unfortunately isnt good enough. Your heart is telling you what you want to hear. What about him- what does he say? Sounds like he moved on. Its time to let go and move on. You will find your true love one day.
  • I am 15, and I know it is hard to do because I know that when you love someone you forget your mind and go with your heart. But for the sake of your heart you should leave him before it get's broken, which is the very thing you are trying to prevent by staying with him. I don't know how you can do it, because I know how difficult it can be, but the right thing to do is leave him, or talk to him about it. I am not you, but I am I, and what I would do is not listen to my own advise because I would be too much of a coward. You decide...Good luck
  • Go out with some one else too coz 2 can play the game its tit for tat
  • sounds to me that this guy doesnt have any respect for his current girlfriend..if this is the way he treats girls in his life then you would be no different. Dont you want to be the only girl in a guys eyes?
  • You know what... Im 17 now and I actually was in the same situation almost a year ago. I dated this guy i believe for over six months and then when i didnt feel it going any further and he was always busy with work i dumped him but we were still on and off and contemplating getting back togetehr when he started dating my friend (who is another guy). But as he kept telling my friend that he loved him, behind his back he was telling me how confused he was and how he still loved me and couldnt live without me and would drop my friend if i would take him back. I was hung up on this guy for so long, yet I refuse to backstab a friend and told him so. This tore me apart from the inside and I had uncontrollable emotional outbursts and became very angry at him. They ended up breaking up after three months. He tried to get back together with me afterwards but my feelings towards him had gone from love to hate after so much heartbreak. Later in december I overheard my friend on the phone to our ex where my friend was trying to get back with him. Our ex said nasty stuff like how he only dated my friend to get rid of me etc which made me realise how stupid i was to believe him and i cut off all further contact with him. It was hard, but i think back now and know I did the right thing but I shouldve done it sooner. What ive learnt is that a guy who is in a relationship yet says how he still loves you is not worth believing. If he DID love you there would be no other. Although I still think of him, I am glad I am no longer involved with him. Love is hard to get over, but you WILL find someone who deserves you and will love you more. This guy who is playing with your emotions... doesnt deserve anyone other then a complete cow.
  • as much as this may hurt and you probably dont want to hear it, but its quite obvious thats he really doesnt love you if he has a new girlfriend
  • Put your energies into something or someone that you can enjoy. Do some things that will benefit your future so that time doesn't go to waste.
  • Like those before me have said you need to leave this guy. It is hard especially at your age. I remember being 16 and in love and heartbroken when it finished. There is nothing like heartbreak over a relationship (especially during the teens) and we do all we can to avoid it. However, as hard as it is, to preserve your own self respect and love you need to move on and this will mean heartbreak for you. Do whatever you can to make it easier for yourself. Acknowledge that it is hard but that you can manage it and you will. Stay positive. Go out, rage, have sleepovers with girlfriends, make your life as fun as possible with people who are cheerful - all these things will help you find the strength you need to get through this. This man does not love you. My opinion is: He cannot love both of you - he wouldn't even have got another girlfriend if he was happily in love with you. And I know that must hurt. I am sorry for this hurt you feel. But believe in yourself and hang out with people who believe in you and care for you and you will get through this.
  • Hi. You are 16!!!Why do you want to be with a guy that doesn't want you...You are a beautiful girl and there's plenty of nice guys out there that would give their all to you and that would love you and only you..You are not suppose to hang on to one guy (that has a new girlfriend). If he can tell you that he loves you while he got a new girlfriend what makes you think that he wouldn't do the same to you if you ever get back together again...I learned a hard lesson and today I sit with a baby girl that I love to death and her father doesn't even want to know her because he was like that..you are young and pretty there's still alot going to happen in your live and you don't need this man....GO ON WITH YOU LIVE WITHOUT HIM
  • What was the reason for him getting a new girlfriend if he supposedly loves you? If he was in love he should not have manipulated your feelings in this way. I think he may just be clinging to the memories of your relationship and strengthening his bond to you so as not to burn a bridge if his new relationship goes pear shaped. He can't love his new girlfriend or respect her feelings by behaving like this by making you his "Plan b" Does he just like her looks. He sounds like a scumbag. Tell him to dump the poor girl and grow the hell up. He must be an insecure manipulative little boy with no idea how to treat women.
  • Nothing is impossible if you really concentrate on it hard enough. No matter what your age is you can forget in time about a jerk like him. He is not worthy of your tears and your heartbreak. Take it from someone who was in your situation more times than they care to remember when I was your ag about 100 years ago lol just kidding it wasn't that long ago but is has been almost 30 years since I was 16.Try to concentrate on other things that will help to take yout mind off the little creep. Go out with your friends and have a good time. Don't mope around and most of all don't let him see you are hurting over him. He is a little creep who needs to grow up and realize you don't break up with someone move on to someone new and tell your old flame you still love her. I gurantee you if you just move on and not think about him so much in time your heart will heal and you will find a guy worthy of your love and who will love you back and not disrespect you the way your ex is trying to do Good luck
  • I was 15 when I dealt with this situation. He just wanted to be free for a while. We are together today and have been since my 16th birthday, I am 20 now and we will be getting married soon. My advice is that if you really love him then allow him to make his descisions until he finds out what is right for him. Always let him know that you are still there for him and never turn your back on him. That is what I did and that is why he still found himself in love with me. Men want someone they can trust and someone that they know will stand beside them no matter what. If you can be what he needs then he will come back.
  • he just wants to know that he will always have you if he breaks up with his current GF then you will be their to pick up the pieces if he loved you then he would be with. dont be his back fall find someone new and exciting and have fun.
  • So, here's the thing. The grass is always greener on the other side. For you that means that the lust went away with the two of you, and he found it with someone else, so he bailed. The problem is that he probably DOES love you in a way. So, even after a week of being with a new girl, he will find that, despite her 'perfection', he is having thoughts laced with fear. Fear of the passion going away, fear of this chick getting fat, fear that he lost you for good. That fear will destroy each of his relationships and it won't go away until he acknowledges this fact. So, he thinks that it might make you feel better to hear that he didn't 'completely' forget about you, if you told him how much it f*'s with your head he might say that he wanted to take some of your pain away. The best thing to do is to keep doing what you have been doing, suffering, crying, feeling lost. But keep a mantra typed out on a piece of paper, put in your pocket that says, 'it's only temporary'. Think about it, make yourself believe that this pain will certainly dissipate. Try to keep him at an arms length. Know where his words come from. You want him to love you, so you will do anything to make him feel that, be the cool ex-girlfriend, listen to crap about his new life, maybe even go further. But all you will feel is that you are not good enough to be with and it will lower this sadness. Just feel it and don't feed into it. The less hope you have, the better you will heal. Tell yourself, out loud, that you will not be together again.. It is a horrible thing but you can't make him be what you want him to be, to love you. You have to let him go to be able to truly suffer and truly heal.
  • 16 0r 60 it makes no difference ... no he said he 'loves' you right? but he didn't say he was'in love' with you so see you have your answer....time to put him in with all your other memories and move on and find the one who is 'in love' with you and he IS out there!!
  • Our advice to you is take it slowly. Your feelings will not go away overnight. The important thing is that you don't get yourself down about it - who knows, maybe time will tell if he's the right person for you. Probably not, given that he's with someone else and still cracking on to you ... maybe you'll begin to see him for what he is and then you'll be better off without him! Lisa, Bethan, Letitia 9E
  • ... well... he's trying to keep you attached, or control you... which isn't good at all, so i'd go with finding someone new... and hey, its not impossible... i've been in that situation a lot of times and finding someone else isn't as hard as you may think
  • Girl if he has a new girlfriend, but yet has the balls to say he loves you he is lieing to you and if you feel he is true put him to the test if he loves you as much as he says and you still love him make him leave his so call girlfriend and make him come back to you if he hesitates he is not the one for you and there is going to be that right person out there for you I know its hard, but the future will bring you new beginings with a man greater than him
  • you know, Iam 17 and Iam in LOVE with my boyfriend. We just took a break not to long ago and he still wrote me and told me he loved me. You know what to do? Tell him how you feel. If he truely loves you he would get back with you. There will always be feeling there for you. He might just want a girlfriend to get his mind off you. You never know. But honestly I would talk to him and see why he is still doing it..thats the best way. Good luck and stay strong!
  • Take a picture of you guys kissing and sent it to this other girl??? Hmmm not that that is gonna bring him back, which is exactly the effect you should be going after. Boys at that age, really feel like "so many girls, so little time" Maybe you should too. Saying this, I know it's very hard! The only thing which will cure this, is another relationship or succes in your personal life. Time won't heal this if you remain single for the rest of your life.
  • i think that you should just let him go..because if he really loves you then why does he have a new girlfriend or why hasnt he broken up with her..and if he does that to you while he's with her then how do you know that he will not do that if he gets back with you..you really need to think this out...and i am a 16 year old
  • well make him jelous ooorrr you could brake them up
  • Im going to be 15 soon and i know it sounds stupid but i know what that feels like, but as much as i try to push myself away from him i feel the need to be with him more. We both have relationships with people right now and are secretly seeing each other without our parents or bf/gf knowing. This has been going on pretty much ever since i met him over 2 years ago i try, really but the thought of not having him is unbearable, at least right now. There's always a chance of change right?
  • winn him back
  • Sad thing is im in the same position and all my friends tell me to forget him and move on but its too hard when you love a person so much it hurts you and you wanna be up all night crying but yet you know theres never a point The way i see it is yes he may have a girlfriend but if hes telling you that he loves you just try and wait it out see where things go and if he doesnt end it with her in a month then maybe it is in your best choice to let it go Or you could possibly talk with him and tell him your feeling tell him that it hurts you when he has a girl but still keeps leading you on tell him if he really does love you then break up with the girl and be with you. guys wanna know what you feel that cant read your mind maybe he believes that your moving on so hes trying to move on too just let him know that you love him too and you wanna be with him Good Luck
  • I uinderstand where you're coming from not that ive experienced that before but i understand how you must feel. especially at the young age that you are but i mean you will get over it someday. How do you feel about him i mean really that he have a girlfriend. If you ask me i mean i wouldnt love him as much since he have a girlfriend. But luk on da bright sisde if he loved you so then he would be with you and nobody else
  • Age doesn't matter... It's just as hard at 23. My guess, is to look forward you have so much of your life ahead of you, and statistically few high school relationships work out in the end anyway.
  • i know exactly how you feel im 17 and my ex tells me he loves me but yet he dates other girls alot.........i really cant give you advice about this one but that maybe he does love you but he still wants to date cause if he just stays with one girl its like im stuck
  • I'm way past 16, but I will answer anyway. You will never forget this guy for as long as you live. What you need to do is to get over him. If he is with someone else and still tells you that he loves you, he is playing games. He's being very cruel and you don't deserve that. Remind yourself over and over that you deserve someone that will treat you properly and never give up hope that he is out there somewhere.
  • what does being 16 have to do with not being able to forget them? In fact it should be easier..think about all the people out there married for 5-15 years with someone, had children with them, lived in the same house with them etc...they have to try to forget people that they are no longer with too...now think how hard that must be to do...being 16 and forgetting a bf, should be easy, especially if he is a player.
  • I expierenced something like this very recently.I was with a guy for a few months and love was confessed(we were really good friends before hand.He lived far away,we broke up.I was heartbroken :( A few months later i went to visit him, as we had remained good friends,he had a girlfriend.He pinned me up against the wall and kissed me he then proceeded to tell me he loved me.And of corse i loved him too.I'm also 16 i know how hard this kind of thing is..Myself and said annoying bloke(xD) are in a funny relationship now,until we can properly be together.As someone that has expierenced something similar i say go with your heart.Good luck x
  • I think the important thing to realize is that the way he 'loves' you now is different than the way he 'loved' you before. I know it really hurts and is very hard to accept. He is trying to soften the blow by telling you he still 'loves' you but in reality he's being cruel by dragging out you pain. I would tell him never to say that to me again. Like the song that says 'stop playing games with my heart..' Good luck, hun. you will get better - promise!

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