ANSWERS: 46
  • Yes. Your sperm, your baby.
  • absolutely. That child is still half of him and at least half of his responsibility. Like it or not. The child will still need clothing, food, etc. and more than that a loving dad.
  • Birth control is not a 100% guarantee you won't get pregnant.
  • My opinion isn't too important. My understanding of the law (however, I am NOT a lawyer, and this does not constitute official legal advice) tells me that, yes, if a woman gets pregnant for any reason then she can sue for (and probably win) child support. An exception to this would be if she'd put something in writing or committed some kind of fraud that you can prove in court to get the man to have the baby, but these cases are few and far between.
  • Yes, and rightly so.
  • Yes, if you don't want to be a father invest in some condoms.
  • Birth control pills are not 100% effective. People have been on them and got pregnant. By having unprotected sex you are putting yourself at risk, infact even vasectomies are 100%. So since you accepted the risk I assume you would be liable. But, talk to a lawyer. If she hasn't had the child, perhaps you have some legal say in releasing parental rights and having it put up for adoption. I'm not really sure if there is a way out of support.
  • Guilty as charged
  • Uh, yes. You do the crime, you do the time. Period.
  • if he had consenting sex with her, then YES. no form of birth control is 100% except abstinance. so if he doesn't want to be a father, then he shouldn't be having sex, or he should know that he is taking a chance.
  • 100% yes. it makes no difference if she was lying or not. Who cares if she is on the pill or not. If she gets pregnent then "THEY" are having a baby. It isn't the babies fault that Daddy couldn't afford condoms.
  • I think the question you're trying to ask is: If a woman tricks a man into impregnating her, should the man not have to pay child support. No birth control is 100% effective. (not even vasectomies and tubal ligation) I think the difficulty lies in legally determining whether she just forgot to take the pill or "forgot" to take the pill (intentionally) or whether the condom malfunctioned or she poked a hole in it... As one of these poor schmucks, I would say "no" but I have no intention of not supporting my kid. His mother isn't fit anyway, but that is not why...
  • Yes, since if he really didn't want to be a father, he wouldn't be having sex unless he took care of it himself. It is just as much his responsibility as it is hers. He makes a child, he pays for it. Sew......reap!!!
  • Does he? For sure, no real question. Should he have to pay? That's a fuzzier question. If you are sharing a car with your girlfriend and she tells you she bought insurance, but lies and doesn't, should you be held responsible for the damages in case of an accident? Legally, probably. But, reasonably and morally? Doesn't matter. When it comes to matters of reproduction, as a man you are screwed. The laws (though not necessarily the application of those laws) are all skewed to make YOU responsible for the child. If you are married and your wife gets pregnant as a result of an affair you knew nothing about, YOU are responsible for the maintainance of the child. So if you are stuck in this situation, put up, shut up, and pay up. You don't stand a chance.
  • Oh man, WHY ALL THE NEGATIVE RATINGS?? I'm an 18 year old girl looking for opinions because this issue came up on a show and I got interested. It's not a dumb or offensive question at all! I didn't mean any harm. It's like we're not allowed to ask certain questions or something...
  • You say she's on the pill & gets pregnant anyway - that can happen, and yes, he should be responsible for that child. The only time I think it's wrong to go after child support from a man is if the woman does something deliberately and deceitfully to get pregnant - poking holes in the condom, fishing a used one out of the trash (it does happen), something like that. (The trick is...how do you prove that happened?)
  • He does have to, legally. Ethically? I wish there was a way to determine if it happened on purpose or if it was actually that, whatever, 1% of people who it doesn't work for. If it's just an accident, well, he helped cause the accident, so I think he should pay up as well. If it was deliberate... that kid should be taken away at birth, because obviously the mother is a crazy person. I wish there were a way to be more fair. Some men complain that it's unfair their wife/girlfriend could get an abortion without their permission -- but what about the men who would *love* for their wife/girlfriend/one-night-stand to not have the kid? They have no say either, and they'll have to pay for it even if they used a condom and she said she was on the pill.
  • Don't have sex if you don't want the consequence.Think about having children next time your in traffic,when your sick,and when nobody is around.
  • Yes. The man still made the baby. No birth control is 100%, so there is always risk. If a man really does not want to be a father that badly, then he shouldn't have sex.
  • Of course. If would be like saying to the guy you got in a carr accident with that you should now have to pay because you didnt want to get into an accident
  • Yes. Takes two to tango. Both are responsible.
  • Absolutely! Part of being an adult is having the knowledge that if you have sex, there may be consequences. Those consequences might be a child. If you are involved with a man who is immature enough to believe that someone else is responsible for his being a parent..then he needs to grow up or reconsider his feelings for you. Good Luck
  • I think its sad! In my opinion I feel that a woman has more of a responsiblity and a man should have choices just like we do! It takes two, to make them and raise them as well! A man should have a choice!!!!!!!!!!There are to many women that would do desprite things to trap a man!! and to all the women out there that feel your gonna keep the man by having his child your selfish and stupid at the same time I feel sorry for your children!!
  • Yes, but the bitch would be living alone. *edit* Sorry... Got a little excited there. If it was truely a fluke she wouldn't be living alone (and she wouldn't be a bitch either).
  • Well, I was on Lunelle (a monthly birth control shot) and my b/f and I did not want any more children at this time, however no birth control is 100% other then abstinence. He thought I should have an abortion, however I am prolife, I had the child of my rapist (he does not pay child support) I am so committed to the belief. He's angry and frustrated, however from his first child he knows birth control is not 100%. While it is unfair that the man has no say in if the child is born or not, lets face it life is far from fair. A woman is on Birth control so that she does not have to have an abortion! DUH! Other wise she'd just say well if I get pregnant I'll have an abortion. If a man really does not want to be a father or be responsible for a child he should have the women he sleeps with sign a waver and never have to worry. Look at the cost of raising a child, men get out easy with child support, they do not have to provide the physical or emotional support let alone half of the total cost in raising a child. I am a single mother of two now, I do not receive child support, I am happy with having my angels. Yes in my opinion men should not be able to opt out of paying child support regardless, as any woman can get pregnant wither on the pill or not, medical condition or not....
  • the more i read about child support the more my head hurts.
  • Of course. Never trust 'em. They are programmed to make babies. You are both the sperm bank and money bank. You will pay- It's the law.
  • after reading constantly about the blame towards men in these issues, i'm beginning to think that all boys should be warned in grade school that it would be in their best interest to get a vasectomy.
  • if she was lying he shouldnt pay anything unless he wants to- if it was an accident- then yes he should pay. its hard to prove though either way.
  • Yes, there is a great possibility she was on the pill and possibly she didn't want to be pregnant either and still became pregnant. Birth control is not 100%. I have a 1 yr old and a 2 yr old to prove it.
  • yes. regardless if you wanted to be a father. The courts sees it as it is not the childs fault and needs to be supported financially. It would be nice if fathers stepped up to the plate and supported their child emotionally as well. Its too bad that she lied or it didnt work. With something this important a double would have been good (condom too)I know it feels like taking a shower with your socks on but now there are tinier socks to worry about. Good Luck....let this be a lesson.
  • No birth control is 100%, even if used correctly. It says so on the packaging and in the literature. If he decided to have sex, despite the known risk of pregnancy, then he assumed that risk and he is responsible for the consequences. If he didn't want to be a father, he should have kept it in his pants.
  • It is a child's birthright to be supported by both parents. Oops is not an excuse. Everytime, conception is possible, not necessarily probable, but possible, so think ahead. If a child results, you will support the child.
  • Yes, he does.
  • yep, no birth control is 100% effective. If you are responsible enough to make the choice to have sex, then you need to be responsible enough to take on what that action brings. Even if she did lie to you, you still chose to take part.
  • no, not in my opinion, however, because the man has no rights when it comes to childbirth/children he will be forced to do whatever the woman dictates.
  • If you don't want to pay child support, don't have sex. Plain and simple.
  • Unfortunately Yes he is responsible for the child. If he does not want children get fixed! That is the only sure way not to have an unwanted child.
  • A man should not have to be responsible if he is deceived into impregnating a woman. For example - I heard of a guy who met a girl and they were about to have sex on the first night they met. He didn't have a condom and was over it but the girl persuaded him saying she was on the pill and she never misses taking it. Turns out she was completely lying (and admitted it!) and she then expected him to be a father to the child and of course got everything going to make him pay child support. It should be looked at by a case by case basis. This mother should be completely responsible for this child because the guy didn't want anything to do with having a child - especially with some nasty girl he doesn't even know. She shouldn't get help from him or the government. She should be punished, really.
  • Interesting question. The thing you have to remember is that the child comes first, before the mother's rights, before the father's rights. This is because the child is helpless; it cannot provide for itself. So, both biological parents are responsible for its care. However, if the woman deceived the man into getting her pregnant, he should be able to sue her, get his child support back and terminate his obligation, assuming it would not significantly detract from her ability to provide for the child. You could further complicate the problem with additional facts; but I think this is the direction the solution should take. Provide for the child first; then sort out the responsibility between the parents. Never forget that actions have consequences, and you can be responsible for them even when the situation isn't your fault. Even the Pill isn't 100% effective; any man relying on the Pill to keep him childless is still taking a risk, and he should know that.
  • Even on the pill, a woman can get pregnant. If she never misses a dose and never takes the wrong pill, she still has about a 1% chance of getting pregnant over a year's time, and a 10% chance (1-.99^10) of getting pregnant over 10 years. So they're both still gambling, and thus both assumed the associated risks and financial liability for the results. So, yes. Now, if she tells him she's had her tubes tied or the like, and it's not true, then the law ought to absolve him of financial responsibility. (Some jurisdictions do, but some do not.) But LEGAL obligations are one thing. MORAL obligations are another. It's still your kid! Be a man and do what's right!
  • Only if the child is biologically his and he did something with his dick that reasonably could cause this to happen. Don't do the crime if you can't do the time. If the child is yours you have a responsibility to it whether you wanted it or not.
  • Yes. No matter what the situation is, it is not going to matter to the court. The only thing that will matter is that if you are the father, and they will make sure that you are held liable for helping make that baby. Look at it this way, what if a girl told her bf she didnt want to have a baby and he assured that he had a vascectomy or couldnt have children, and she got pregnant, is she still held liable? Of course. If you are going to have sex, and dont want a baby, you have to take extra precautions, no birth-control is 1oo% effective and never take the other persons word on what they are doing as far as birth control.
  • Yes. If the child has his DNA, he pays. If the child does not have his DNA but he has acknowledged the child as his, he pays. If for any length of time he has been providing as a father would, and the mother dumps him, he has been acting in loco parientis and he pays.

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