ANSWERS: 47
  • Murder is looking even more attractive, then.
  • Believe me... there are times when it is the ONLY option.
  • I would say that you were born in the wrong era. These are no longer the days where an unhappy spouse has to 'play through the pain' of a miserable marriage. They won't be the shunned divorcee who everyone in the neighborhood avoids.
  • I don't beleive in divorce. Thats why I waited till i was 30 to marry. If he ever wants a divorce he will have to literally drag me!!! and i would NEVER marry again!!!!
  • I would if he ended up being truly bad for me and/ or our children.
  • I wish more couples had that frame of mind when they married. now a days it seems that nobody takes responsiblity. Get married, have a fight..get divorced. Get pregnant, don't want it, get rid of it..I am not saying that all marriages should work. Plenty shouldn't. Marriages of abuse should NOT under any circumstance. if cheating is involved..divorce.. but just because you CHOOSE not to work it out, is no reason for divorce. The difference is when our grandparents got married the phrase : for better or worse actually meant something and so did an oath.. today, it should be "till we change our minds" and screw the promise. Couples do NOT want to make it work.
  • I think of it like this. Health care will be easier if people took better care of themselves and did not lean on the government as their crutch. Divorce would not be a crutch if couples took care of the relationship and went about it the right way. All women deserve romance, and I believe that every guy has at least the potential to be at least a little romantic now and then. Love is the result of romance, and love endures, for it is the refining virtue, purifiying the soul(s). Biblically speaking, infidelity/fornication is the only reason for a divorce, though assault and battery is definitely reason enough, and it matters not if the abuse is mental or physical, though physical should be a catalyst for quicker action.
  • My step dad molested my sister, and I .. Should my mom of stayed married to him, and lose her children? No! My brothers dad tried to kill both him, and my mom, should she of stayed married to him? No! My Aunts husband started to beat my cousin who is severely mentally retarded and suffers from cerebral palsy ~ Plus he almost killed her, should she of stayed married? No! I realize that we promise forever when we take our vows, and mean it when it's said, but it doesn't always work out that way.
  • Everyone has the right to be happy. If staying married makes you unhappy, what would be the point of living?
  • If that is your belief, good for you, however what will you do if abuses you or your children?
  • Thats fine and dandy. but I've seen times where people should have gotten a divorce instead of stayign together. Divorce sometimes should be an option, but not a "get out of jail free" card for careless mistakes.
  • LOL........
  • It should be an option, not the first option, but to not make it an option would make living a miserable life a possibility. All to preserve...a piece of paper.
  • Strongly agree. Unless it's a physically abusing relationship... I hate this 50% divorse rate.
  • I think that is a great attitude for you to have. However sometimes you are left with divorce being your only option.
  • Go for it. You used "I." It's your life. Good luck :)
  • I think that it a very personal choice and each person has to make it for him/herself. I can think of some reasons that would cause me to prefer divorce over staying, but we are different people. Happy Friday! :)
  • I'm that way too, but the person you married might feel otherwise.
  • i think you have to be in the actual situation ! it depends to ! if the couple can work it out with ot divorce then give it a go !! but if there is someone be violent in the relationship i think a divorce is verrryy nessesary! esp if there is children involved its disracful!
  • It takes 2 to Tango and your spouse wants it, they'll get it and what you think, want or consider is irrelevant. And let's thank the legal system for that!
  • I agree. I don't think anyone who gets married should even consider it. If it's an option, it's far too easy for people in a marriage to give up on the relationship.
  • nope, i dont think i would.
  • I don't think you should ever rule out any option regardless of its moral implications. You should live your live wisely, doing everything you can to avoid the possibility that you may have to exercise your legal rights, but you should never simply rule out an option because of your beliefs. Sometimes drastic, morally uncomfortable measures are necessary.
  • I feel that people just jump into divorce without trying to work things out . I do believe that if there is abuse then yes definetly do not hesitate but otherwise can't things be worked out.
  • well pal there are many rude people in this world who beat their wives and make their lives worst then hell............ in that case divorce is the best solution....... in fact divorce is much better than suicide..... :)
  • the decision whether divorce is an option or not is a deeply personal one that up to the individuals involved to make. peace.
  • Divorce isn't fun believe me I speak from experience. I would do my best to try to work things out before going through a divorce. Especially if children are involved.
  • i think why not?
  • if you divorce it should be a mutual agreement and if you ahve kids you should really explain to them why you are seperating so not to hurt them that bad. Personally i would not want to get divorced because it drains you and you might have a harder time finding the one again. So if its possible try to salvage the relationship before making rash decisions.
  • My ex use to say the same thing ... repeatedly. Until she met a guy in her church who had lots of money. Heh!
  • I think that as long as there is marriage, there ought to be a quick and easy way out. Not that marriage is an option I'd choose anyway.
  • I agree, but its not black and white... there are many reasons why you shoulnt stay with someone, but I think too many people rush into marriage and then regret it and divorce... no one said it would be easy and people need to mutaully work hard on their relationships to keep it together... If someone cheated on me or physically abused me or my children I would divorce them, but hopefully I would have considered this before we got married because actions like these dont just come out of thin air... there would have had to have been some indication that it could come to this... The better statement would be I wouldnt marry until I did my homework..
  • I think that if I get married, and over time the relationship becomes different. If I change, or he changes and we're not happy with no way of fixing it, I'm considering divorce as an option.
  • I would but it would be the last option. I know a woman who is in a sad marriage, she asked her husband to go to marriage counseling he agreed. The counselor asked them where do you see this marriage in 1 year if things don't change? The woman said divorced. The man said either she takes divorce off the table or I will not speak. The counselor allowed this. (dumb ass) The issue in the marriage is HE is the boss, it's his house, his rules, his money (she works)his ideas, his way, his TV. Everything in the marriage is his. The woman left counseling even more depressed and hopeless than she was before. She is on mass doses of anti depressants, she drinks a little more wine everyday, she has withdrawn so far from reality that she's a hologram of a person. Had divorce been allowed to remain on the table, had the counselor not backed up this narcissistic, overbearing mans behavior there is a good chance HE would have made some effort to help his wife. Instead what little life she had left in her vanished. She gave up. I would rather be divorced than be responsible for killing my partners chance at happiness.
  • As an option for what? If you are in an abusive relationship with someone who places you and your children at risk what is the alternative to divorce? Murder? Abandonment? Divorce isn't a warm and fuzzy thing, but that doesn't mean it isn't sometimes the appropriate thing.
  • That's what love is all about. When you love someone, you would never want to divorce them. Since you are not considering divorce, then you must truly love your spouse "till death do you part".
  • I was married for 18 years when i relized i was just going threw the motions.. He was ready to agree to the marriage but I was done .. our 2 oldest children where more then happy about this... not they don't love us both, they do.. but they told us both that they could see that we where not happy.. I left with our youngest. Now, I am in a wonderful relationship.. and my soon to be ex.. is learning who is really is.. ( he is now seeing why I was not happy in the reationship..) I know divorce is an exscape but if two people dont bring out the best of each other.. then let them go so.. they can find someone who makes them happy.. who cares if divorces are happening, it a persons happyness that is important not a piece of paper that says they are married or not...
  • I - along with my 3 siblings - was raised in a very strict religion with a strong belief that divorce is not an option. Every one of us is now divorced.
  • Unlike everyone else I complety agree. I dont believe in divorce and I dont think you meant it the way everyone has taken it. I have been with my significant other for a while and just recently had a beautiful baby boy. Hes always agreed with me that divorce would never be an option. We believed working it through till the end, or so I thought. Last night he just said he believed in divorce. I'm torn and can't decide to continue the relationship or not.
  • Murder is way to messier.
  • I am divorced. My parents were divorced. If it's not working, why spend the rest of your life miserable?
  • I agree with you. Divorce is not an option for me either.
  • I think that is completely up to you.
  • I agree with you. Neither my husband nor I consider divorce to be an option.
  • I would disagree strongly.
  • why stay in a situation that turns ugly? It is not emotionally healthy to stay in a bad relationship. Divorce isnt the end of the world. Eventually you meet someone and move on.
  • I respect your desire to chose not to be divorced but sometimes you have little control and the other person can divorce you anyway.

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