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  • Not unless they have a different idea of how close they want to be with you than you do. In that case you can scare them off, make them uncomfortable, or set yourself up for a heart break if they decide they do not want that much love (they can also feel "smothered" by it) and terminate contact with you. Just be sure you know clearly how they feel about you and that they are comfortable with the attention and intensity of your affections and how you show them and things should be fine. If they do not, then you will need to adjust or back off some, or risk damaging the relationship. People love to be loved, but they also need to feel like they still have their own "space."
  • I do believe sometimes we can love someone to the point of smothering them, in a sense. I believe we should love and be loved, but not to an obsessive degree.
  • No: It is impossible to LOVE someone too much, but it is possible to be too much IN LOVE with someone. For those to whom the foregoing isn't clear: "Love" is an unqualified resolution (as opposed to mere commitment) to serve. Being "In Love" is all about the "warm, fuzzy feeling" -- the sense of acceptance and belonging and intimacy (whether emotional or physical or whatever) and all that stuff. It's being too much "in love" that leads to unhealthy obsessions and all sorts of bad behavior done by people that allege they loved their victim(s) too much. However, if they had loved the injured parties at all, the offenses would never have occured and the person against whom the obsession was directed wouldn't be a victim. Love seeks the welfare of others; being "in love" gratifies the self.
  • I think people sometimes confuse obsessive clinging with intense love.
  • In my experence no. The person who 'loves' me (pah) who is incredibly controlling is not that way because of love, and of loving me too much. It's because he is a control freak, always has and always will be
  • There's a thin line between when you love a person, and when you become obsessed with that person because of what they represent to you, once it gets to the level of "Too Much" I'd hardly even define it as "Love" anymore, when you get to that point, you're not expressing love, you're just obsessing over the concept of happiness that person represents. There's a difference, alot of people don't realise it, but there is a big difffrence.
  • You can love someone too much and scare that person off. You can love someone too much and suffocate that person (figuratively speaking of course). You can love someone too much and find yourself suffocated by thoughts of them so much that you can't do your work or whatever you're trying to do. It can be a bad thing.. a very bad thing.
  • No. However, it is possible to love someone in an unhealthy way and confuse obsession with love.
  • Yes. If you love a person too much, that's like your making them your God and your idolizing them. Nobody deserves that much love except Jesus Christ in my opinion!
  • I dont think that it is possible to love too much.You can never run out, love is infanite you can make as much of it as you need.I also dont think you can be loved to much you can take in a lot of love.
  • No love is a great thing and everyone could love more instead of loving less!
  • Maybe it's not that you love them too much, it's is just that you rely on them too much to function.
  • yes you can overlook a lot of things and put up with alot of abuse if you love someone too much
  • There is no such thing as loving too much. Love is a great feeling which brings much joy and happiness along with sorrow and pain. The strongest love of all, though, is not a selfish love. You must love enough to want another's happiness, to be strong enough and to love enough to let go, if that's what it takes.
  • yes. oh yes. especially when they don't love you back
  • Yes I believe that someone can love another person so much to the point of hurt and pain. I have been in this situation. and when you are not loved, and love someone to death, it only causes pain and hurt. and it can lead to death, giving the saying "I love you to death" a whole new meaning.
  • Yes, u can love someone too much, to the point that you don't want to live your own independent life too. Love is a great thing but you need to concentrate on yourself as well so that it is a union of 2 ppl, rather than 2 ppl unable to see themselves as separate from jst being a couple!
  • I'd say never. Better to love than not at all.
  • there can never be to much love, aslong as it is definelty love and not an obsession
  • No.... the more YOU love someone is great, But if the love is not being returned..you have a problem.
  • I think it is possible to love someone too much in that you'll forget how to love yourself in the process.
  • No! How can you measure love? We express it in a different degree but it doesn't mean you love me more than I love you.
  • Someone once told me that in every relationship one person always loves the other more. At the time, I thought this was an incredibly inane comment. I suppose I felt that way because I had always been on only one side of the coin; the side of loving less. To think that the statement could be true, meant that I would have to look at myself more closely. Not too long after, I was forced to look at not only myself and past relationships, but also, I was placed on the opposite side for the first time. I found myself, finally knowing the full impact of real love. And yes too, learning the agony of not having the same deep and consuming feeling returned. However, this life lesson has taught me that even though the pain and misery may seem unbearable and/or unending, the pure awe-inspiring, life-changing, and encompassing experience of pure love far exceeds any of the negative. I now know that there is no such thing as loving too much. The true tragedy comes with never allowing oneself to experience it fully and unconditionally.
  • Sometimes you can smother them - not meaning to - People all need their space - I kinda want'a say that you can but I don't think that would be love more of insecurity on the one loving to much
  • Definitely. If you love someone too much you will make bad decisions.
  • Possibly, you could be giving too much love to someone who doesn't deserve it e.g. if they treat you badly and it is detrimental to you.This could also be infatuation -if you find you have dropped your friends,or things you enjoyed and you spend all your time thinking about them or how they have treated you constantly.
  • I STRONGLY BELIEVE THAT WHENEVER A PERSON IS SAID TO 'LOVE TOO MUCH' THAT PERSON IS BEING 'POSSESSIVE TOWARD THE OBJECT OF SUCH 'AFFECTION' AS IF THAT PERSON/OBJECT IS SIMPLY PROPERTY TO BE HELD, TREATED AS THE 'LOVER' WANTS TO TREAT HIM OR HER. POSSESSIVENES IS NEVER LOVE, NEVER. Whenever a person feels as if they/she/he is loved 'too much' they must become very wise if at any time they feel possessed, controlled, managed because love from a truly loving heart is not those things that so often lead to abuse of various kinds. The person who 'loves too much' is probably a person of low or lowering self esteem who sucks all the loving energy possible from the person who is opposite of such sick'love', and will 'kill' the object person emotionally, psychologically and leave them empty, depressed and probably to love again until reeiving emotional counseling or antidepressants to help them gain new energy of the heart. If you ever 'need' a person or wonder if you 'love too much' then yes you do and you are possessive of that property and are abusing that 'person/property in some way. STOP...LEAVE...GET COUNSELING...LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST THEN YOU CAN ACTUALLY LOVE ANOTHER PERSON AT AN EQUAL AND WONDERFUL LEVEL.
  • thats when you love love and not the individual as such
  • Yes, i really think so, love's great, but too much of it can be dangerous, I know ppl who've tried to hurt the person they loved out of passion, so yeah love's great, but definitely be very careful
  • That might be when love crosses the tracks into addiction?! haha
  • Probably. When love turns into obsession.
  • Yes you can, because in some cases, they will never love you the same.
  • I feel when you think you love someone to much it can cause problems and you can become ill
  • Yes, but as with most concepts of "Too Much" it's subjective, there's no definite amount that makes "Too Much", it depends on the presence and degree of other factors as well. If you love someone much more than they love you, and it causes you emotional pain to be rejected time and time again by them, that's too much. If you love someone when you can never realistically hope to be with them, that's too much. When you love someone to the point that you would hurt them just to hold onto them, that's too much. But there's no line between "Enough" and "Too Much" that can be applied to all situations, and were it not for the confines of other criteria, there wouldn't be such a thing as loving someone too much. If it's healthy, realistic, painless love, then you can never have enough of it (Unfortunately though, %100 healthy, realistic, painless love is mostly just an unproven theoretical concept)
  • You can never love God too much, and He will always be there for you. People can't handle the burden of too much love, it corrupts... errr somethin like that.
  • yeah.. i think you can. sometimes you can love a person so much, you forget about yourself... that's too much...
  • No. Real, honest love can never be too anything. You can smother someone with too much control or demands but that isn't love. You can need someone beyond all reason, but that isn't love, that's addiction.
  • Yes you can and it is suffercating at times.
  • Without a doubt! Over tolerant people blinded by love put up with more than they should and sometimes fear dealing on a straight forth way with a problem they may have with their partner.
  • yes,especally if the other person doesn't love you on that scale. It makes you overly emotional. It effects your health.
  • I think so. I had a person who loved me soo much that it destroyed us. He wanted to be with me 24/7 and wanted me to sacrafice my work, school and friends so we could be together all the time. It wasn't healthy for either of us. So yeah, you can love someone too much.
  • I am not sure if you can love someone too much, but a lot of ppl afraid that they might never find someone who can.
  • Whenever love is too much, it is just something else posing as love. Love in its true sense is something there can never be too much of, or else God would be guilty of loving too much.
  • Words to live by...
  • Absolutely! I got married young and I did EVERYTHING he wanted me to and more. And than 13 years later he left me! Yeap, but it is ok now I met a wonderful man but I don't smother him and I surely don't jump when he speaks..Lesson I have learn.
  • In a psychotic way, or sometimes when i think about my boyfriend i'm overwhelmed by happiness. And when i see him for the first time after a long day i hug him and dont want to let go. Is that psychotic?
  • Yes, I believe it is possible to love someone too much. That is when the person is obsessed and/or possessive.
  • Yes to the point were it is sufforcating and annoying,my husband is like this and i told him if he didnt give me breathing space i was leaving.
  • No you can't. But, you can smother someone and you can expect too much from them. That isn't love, it's dependence.
  • Yes I think maybe you can and some people can become obsessive in their love. Jealousy and obsession can be more destructive than anything in a relationship. Truly loving a person means allowing them to be themselves and trusting them with a certain amount of freedom.
  • Yes, I think loving someone who doesn't deserve your love (like a cheating or abusive spouse) constitutes as loving someone too much.
  • NO SUCH THING, NEVER TO MUCH LOVE. NOT ENOUGH IN THE WORLD NOW DAYS.
  • yes it's called obsession and stalking :D
  • it depends on who you love and if they love you back.
  • Yes, you can actually. The word Uxorious comes from the Latin "uxor" meaning wife, so the english word means excessively fond of one's wife, so they stop them being independent and don't let them have time alone, and act overprotectively around them. This in my opinion is a kind of warped love, which bred from the more healthy love and respect into an addiction. This is basically feeding off being with the object of love and "crave" seeing them again. It is also a warped affection because if someone denies someone that freedom, it is potentially controlling and exploitative, which someone would never do to someone they truly loved. I dont know if there is a word for a female that does this, but it could indicate an unstable personality.
  • I think it is possible to love someone too much. I think that i love my boyfriend too much. I feel this way because when he rejects me or is cold to me or says something harsh (even though he thinks nothing of it) it kills me. Breaks my heart. I'm not sure if it's something else, but I do believe I love him too much and I don't know how to tone it down. Any suggestions or help?
  • For whom, you or them?
  • VERY interesting question : ) One's first instinct is to say 'yes' - I give you WW2's inexplicable affair with Herr Hitler. However - on reflection I would have to say 'No' because at the stage where it becomes destructive in any negative way, I don't think it continues. It might be called 'love' - but it is really something else, obsession maybe or some similar psychosis. Great question - as are all questions that make one think past their initial reaction : )
  • I very much love a man but we never seem to get t together for one reason or another, he is always unavailable to me and this really hurts. there is another man who really loves me and i have strong feelings for, he is always there for me and a really great person. what should i do, realise that i love one too much and its bad for me and let it go? and begin a life with the other man?
  • How can you know where is much, where is too much....Love is love
  • yes it is. ... and later on u'll feel mad at urself cuz you reflect and think if its all worth it
  • I believe no, you can not love too much. Because if its true love, there is nothing more better, than TRUE love. However, based on my own experiance, I believe you can be obbsesive, controlling, needy, self emotional which cled me too believe I was loving her too much.
  • yes if you take it to the point that if they want to move on and be with someone else you try to commit suicide or try to kill the other person
  • It is possible to love someone too much! Some days my husband tells me that he loves me over 100 times a day! The thing is, he expects me to answer him no matter what I am doing! School work, tv, playing with kids, even in the bathroom! If he wasn't so darned considerate about so many other things - I would go crazy. I've told him to reduce it - I really don't think he hears me. I suppose I am not complaining, there's a lot worse things in life than "I love you"...
  • Is it even possible to love someone too much and be obsessive? Yes you might become controlling but its combining your caring for someone with love and when you can depend on that person you look up to them theres a difference between love with one person and when you share all these qualities with them love, dependence, and friendship......i can understand your points but theres a point between stalking and caring too much its not always a bad thing......the only way you can love someone too much and its wrong is if they dont do the same to you
  • I think so, if the so called love gets to be out of control, & turns to jealousy.
  • Nope, you can never love someone too much. But remember, love is not burnt offerings nor sacrifice.
  • i don't believe you can love someone too much love has a beginning but it has no ending on how depth your love can go. But can love someone more than they love you.. yes and i guess thats where the i love to much actually came from. people not wanting to except the fact that the one they love doesn't really feel the same way.
  • No. I think it's possible to mistake "possessiveness" for "love", thereby smothering the relationship.
  • Yes. And when you love them too much you become obsessive and don't give them enough room to breathe. Trust me, I know from experience. I thought I was doing a good thing and it turned completely bad!
  • well , i have personly experience with that and i really felt like i loved a person too much , and we were in a relationship for 4 years then i broke up with him cause he cheated on me with my best friend . so i relized that he didnt love me as me he only liked the way that i look , and my body shape , since then , i beleived that its not possible to love at all :(
  • Yes! a couple of pepper spray blasts to the face have gotten that point across to us !!!!

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